Men weigh in on love, money and kids

Posted on July 26, 2011



Younger men are more likely to have a problem dating a woman with children, a newly released survey finds.

Tens of thousands of men answered questions about children, money, sex, marriage and many other issues.

Some 68% of the men who participated said they believe in the institution of marriage and plan to get married someday, according toAskMen.com, which conducted the Great Male Survey online.

About 92% of the men said they would be OK if their female partner or spouse made more money than them. And only about one-third of men filling out the questionnaire said it was very important or somewhat important that their wife or future wife signed a prenup.

About half of the male respondents aged 15 to 28 were not comfortable with the idea of dating a woman with children. Men’s discomfort with dating a mom dropped with each additional decade of age, falling below 15% of men aged 50.

About 47% to 50% of men under age 30 were fine with dating a woman with children.

If they had to choose between having a child or a dog, men under age 20 would pick the dog by a tiny margin of 28% to 26%. Men between 35 and 50 wanted the child more than a puppy. About one-third of all men wanted both a child and a dog, while about 13% didn’t want either creature in their house.

If men could have only one child, apparently the desire for a boy was greater than that for a girl, but the older the men were, the less the gender of the child mattered.

To maintain a healthy relationship, about 12% of men under age 30 thought couples should have sex every day. More than 75% of men answering the survey thought couples should have sex several times each week. About 1% said sex once a month would be OK.

By Linda Petty, CNN

Q1 OF THE FOUR CHOICES LISTED BELOW, WHICH IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSONALITY TRAIT FOR DECIDING IF A WOMAN IS “RELATIONSHIP MATERIAL”? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
34% A sense of loyalty. 35% 36% 31% 34%
25% A sense of humor. 20% 24% 30% 24%
22% A sense of caring/nurturing. 23% 21% 21% 24%
19% Intelligence. 22% 19% 18% 18%
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Q2 DO YOU BELIEVE IN THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
66% Yes, I believe it is a necessary institution and one in which I will participate to help preserve. 70% 64% 63% 68%
20% Yes, I believe in it as an institution, but it is not for me. 18% 21% 21% 19%
14% No, I do not believe in it. 12% 15% 16% 13%
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Q3 IS IT IMPORTANT FOR A GIRLFRIEND TO HAVE “WIFE POTENTIAL”? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
48% Somewhat, though I won’t break up with her if I realize that she isn’t a potential wife. 48% 47% 48% 50%
30% Yes, I won’t bother pursuing a woman who isn’t a potential wife. 34% 32% 26% 28%
22% No, not at all. I don’t look that far ahead in my relationships. 18% 21% 26% 22%
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Q4 HOW IMPORTANT IS IT TO YOU THAT YOUR WIFE/FUTURE WIFE SIGNS A PRENUP? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
35% Not very important. 35% 36% 34% 34%
33% Not at all important. 32% 31% 37% 33%
24% Somewhat important. 24% 23% 22% 25%
8% Very important. 9% 10% 7% 8%
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Q5 IF THERE WERE NO CHANCE OF YOUR PARTNER FINDING OUT, HOW LIKELY WOULD YOU BE TO CHEAT? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
36% Not at all likely. I might be tempted, but cheating violates my morals. 35% 36% 33% 38%
36% Not very likely. I might be tempted, but I love and respect her too much. 36% 34% 39% 36%
19% Somewhat likely. But I would feel guilty, nonetheless. 19% 20% 18% 19%
7% Very likely. She can’t be hurt if she doesn’t know about it. 7% 7% 8% 4%
2% I already cheat on her. 3% 3% 2% 3%
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Q6 DO MEN GET SCREWED BY THE COURTS IN DIVORCE? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
79% Yes. 79% 81% 76% 78%
20% No, men and women generally get fair and equal treatment. 19% 17% 23% 21%
1% No, if anything, women are the ones who get screwed by the courts. 2% 2% 1% 1%
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Q7 OF THE CHOICES LISTED BELOW, WHICH ONE THING WOULD YOU CHANGE ABOUT YOUR PARTNER? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
46% I am single. 44% 45% 45% 49%
15% Her attitude/moodiness. 17% 15% 15% 13%
14% I wouldn’t change anything. 14% 14% 14% 15%
11% Her sexual appetite. 11% 12% 11% 11%
5% Her looks. 5% 6% 5% 4%
4% Her nagging. 5% 4% 5% 3%
3% Her domestic skills. 3% 3% 3% 3%
2% Her intelligence. 1% 1% 2% 2%
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Q8 WOULD YOU DUMP A GIRLFRIEND IF SHE BECAME FAT? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
53% No. 52% 50% 56% 53%
47% Yes. 48% 50% 44% 47%
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Q9 HOW MANY DATES SHOULD A MAN PAY FOR? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
44% The majority of them until the relationship is established. 42% 50% 40% 43%
22% No more than the woman does. 16% 19% 28% 25%
21% The majority of them for the duration of the relationship. 24% 19% 20% 19%
13% All of them. 17% 11% 13% 11%
0% None. The woman should pay for them all. 1% 1% -1% 2%
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Q10 HAVE YOU EVER READ YOUR PARTNER’S FACEBOOK MESSAGES, EMAIL OR OTHER ELECTRONIC CORRESPONDENCE? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
36% No, I respect her privacy. 38% 38% 35% 34%
31% Yes, but only with her knowledge. 29% 30% 29% 35%
15% No, but I would if I suspected she was up to something. 15% 13% 17% 14%
12% Yes, but only because it was open on her desktop. 12% 13% 12% 11%
6% Yes, I broke into her email or messaging account. 6% 6% 7% 6%
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Q11 IF YOU HAD THE ABILITY TO, WOULD YOU TRACK YOUR PARTNER’S PHYSICAL MOVEMENT (WITH A GPS IMPLANT, FOR EXAMPLE)? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
84% No. 82% 84% 83% 85%
8% Yes, but only if she didn’t know about it. 9% 9% 7% 7%
6% Yes, but only if she agreed to it. 6% 5% 6% 6%
2% Yes, absolutely. 3% 2% 4% 2%
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Q12 ARE YOU COMFORTABLE WITH A PARTNER “FRIENDING” HER EXES ON FACEBOOK? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
44% Yes, absolutely. 43% 47% 44% 43%
29% No. 33% 27% 30% 27%
27% Yes, but only if I have met him before. 24% 26% 26% 30%
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Q13 DO YOU KNOW ANYONE WHO HAS SET UP A SECRET FACEBOOK ACCOUNT TO CONCEAL A RELATIONSHIP FROM HIS GIRLFRIEND/WIFE? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
86% No. 83% 86% 85% 89%
13% Yes. 16% 12% 13% 10%
1% I have done so myself. 1% 2% 2% 1%
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Q14 DO YOU KNOW ANYONE WHO HAS USED THE INTERNET TO FACILITATE CHEATING (WHETHER THROUGH EMAIL, FACEBOOK OR INFIDELITY SERVICES LIKE ASHLEYMADISON.COM)? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
67% No. 63% 66% 66% 74%
33% Yes. 37% 34% 34% 26%
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Q15 HAVE YOU EVER MET A WOMAN ONLINE? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
37% No, I don’t use the internet to get dates. 36% 36% 39% 38%
29% No, but I wouldn’t rule out the internet as a way to meet women. 27% 30% 29% 28%
13% Yes, and we went on to have a relationship. 13% 13% 14% 12%
11% Yes, but we kept it casual. 13% 11% 10% 11%
10% Yes, we went on to meet in person, but nothing came of it. 11% 10% 8% 11%
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Q16 WOULD YOU BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A WOMAN WHO HAS A HIGHER INCOME THAN YOU? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
85% Yes, it wouldn’t bother me. 85% 86% 84% 85%
8% I already am. 7% 7% 8% 8%
7% No, I wouldn’t be comfortable. 8% 7% 8% 7%
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Q17 HOW OFTEN DO YOU MAKE AN EFFORT TO BE ROMANTIC? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
54% Somewhat often. 52% 54% 53% 55%
23% Very often. 28% 22% 22% 19%
21% Not very often. 18% 22% 22% 22%
2% Never. 2% 2% 3% 4%
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Q18 OF THE CHOICES LISTED BELOW, WHAT BEST MOTIVATES YOU TO BE ROMANTIC? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
73% Feeling close to my partner. 72% 71% 74% 75%
18% The possibility of sex. 20% 20% 17% 16%
6% I’m not a romantic man. 6% 6% 6% 6%
2% It’s a good way to apologize. 2% 3% 2% 2%
1% Needing a personal favor. 0% 0% 1% 1%
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Q19 DO YOUR CURRENT/PAST PARTNERS RECOGNIZE YOUR EFFORTS TO BE ROMANTIC? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
74% Yes. 77% 73% 73% 72%
26% No. 23% 27% 27% 28%
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Q20 HOW OFTEN DOES YOUR PARTNER MAKE AN EFFORT TO BE ROMANTIC? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
35% I am single. 32% 33% 35% 39%
29% Somewhat often. 31% 28% 28% 28%
25% Not very often. 24% 26% 25% 23%
8% Very often. 10% 8% 8% 4%
3% Never. 3% 5% 4% 6%
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Q21 HOW SATISFIED ARE YOU WITH YOUR SEX LIFE? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
39% Somewhat satisfied. There is room for improvement. 41% 38% 38% 38%
25% I have no sex life. 23% 24% 26% 28%
20% Not at all satisfied, because of the quantity of sex. 19% 20% 19% 20%
12% Completely satisfied. I wouldn’t change a thing about it. 13% 12% 12% 10%
4% Not at all satisfied, because of the quality of sex. 4% 6% 5% 4%
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Q22 HAVE YOU EVER LIED ABOUT THE NUMBER OF SEX PARTNERS YOU’VE HAD? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
51% No, never. 51% 49% 49% 53%
21% Yes, because it’s no one’s business but my own. 22% 22% 20% 21%
16% Yes, to protect my ego. 14% 16% 20% 15%
12% Yes, to protect a partner’s feelings. 13% 13% 11% 11%
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Q23 IN YOUR OPINION, HOW OFTEN DO COUPLES WITH HEALTHY SEX LIVES HAVE SEX? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
78% Multiple times a week. 77% 77% 77% 79%
11% Once a week. 11% 11% 10% 11%
11% Every day. 11% 12% 11% 9%
1% Once a month. 1% 0% 1% 1%
-1% Less than once a month. 0% 0% 1% %
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Q24 HAVE YOU EVER INSINCERELY TOLD A WOMAN YOU LOVE HER IN ORDER TO GET SEX? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
63% No, and I never would. 62% 64% 61% 63%
21% No, but I would consider it. 20% 20% 21% 23%
10% Yes, but I would not do it again. 11% 11% 10% 8%
6% Yes, and I would continue to do so. 7% 5% 8% 6%
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Q25 HAVE YOU EVER FANTASIZED ABOUT A PARTNER’S FRIEND? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
37% Yes, I have in the past, but I try to avoid it now. 39% 33% 37% 39%
28% Yes, I fantasize about her friends regularly. 28% 34% 27% 24%
24% No, I have no interest in any of her friends. 22% 22% 26% 25%
11% No, but I have to restrain myself from doing so. 11% 11% 10% 12%
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Q26 OF THE CHOICES BELOW, WHICH SEXUAL ACT DO YOU MOST FANTASIZE ABOUT ENGAGING IN WITH YOUR PARTNER? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
37% A threesome. 35% 41% 34% 36%
23% None of these. 23% 20% 24% 24%
18% Anal sex. 17% 16% 20% 20%
14% Sex in public. 15% 15% 14% 13%
8% Filming ourselves having sex. 10% 8% 8% 7%
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Q27 WOULD YOU BE WILLING TO TELL YOUR PARTNER THAT YOU WANT TO ENGAGE IN THIS FANTASY TOGETHER? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
68% Yes. 70% 70% 67% 65%
18% No, I would be scared that she wouldn’t be into it. 17% 17% 19% 20%
14% No, I would be scared that she’d think I was a pervert. 13% 13% 14% 15%
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Q28 IF A MALE BIRTH-CONTROL PILL WERE AVAILABLE, WOULD YOU TAKE IT? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
69% Yes. 69% 66% 67% 72%
31% No. 31% 34% 33% 28%
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Q29 CAN YOU TELL IF A WOMAN IS FAKING AN ORGASM? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
55% I think so. 53% 55% 55% 58%
23% Yes. 24% 22% 23% 21%
22% No. 23% 23% 22% 21%
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Q30 WOULD YOU BE OFFENDED IF A WOMAN FAKED AN ORGASM DURING INTERCOURSE WITH YOU? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
51% Yes, I would be offended that I wasn’t able to pleasure her. 48% 50% 50% 54%
30% Yes, I would be offended that she was deceiving me. 29% 29% 33% 29%
19% No. 23% 21% 17% 17%
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Q31 HAVE YOU EVER FAKED AN ORGASM DURING INTERCOURSE? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
70% No. 68% 71% 70% 69%
16% Yes, on more than one occasion. 18% 16% 14% 15%
14% Yes, but only once. 14% 13% 16% 16%
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Q32 IS IT EVER OK TO PAY FOR SEX? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
40% No. 45% 43% 37% 34%
28% Yes, but only for a crazy sexual experience that wouldn’t present itself otherwise. 26% 27% 30% 27%
19% Yes, but only as a last resort. 16% 16% 18% 25%
13% Yes, it is always OK. 13% 14% 15% 14%
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Q33 WOULD YOU CHANGE YOUR PENIS SIZE IF YOU COULD? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
50% No. 47% 48% 53% 50%
31% Yes, I would make it bigger to feel better about myself. 30% 32% 31% 31%
19% Yes, I would make it bigger to satisfy a partner. 23% 19% 15% 19%
0% Yes, I would make it smaller. 0% 1% 1% 0%
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Q34 HAVE YOU EVER HAD SEX WITH A COWORKER? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
56% No, but I would if the opportunity arose. 53% 55% 59% 57%
17% No, it’s against my morals. 18% 17% 15% 18%
16% Yes, once. 17% 17% 16% 15%
11% Yes, with multiple coworkers on multiple occasions. 12% 11% 10% 10%
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Q35 AT WHAT POINT DOES A WOMAN BECOME SEXUALLY PROMISCUOUS? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
34% When she sleeps with her 10th sex partner. 42% 41% 18% 34%
32% When she sleeps with her 20th sex partner. 30% 33% 32% 33%
16% Never. 15% 13% 18% 16%
15% When she sleeps with her 50th sex partner. 10% 11% 23% 15%
3% When she sleeps with her 100th sex partner. 3% 2% 9% 2%
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Q36 AT WHAT AGE DO WOMEN START LOSING THEIR LOOKS? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
40% 40. 37% 41% 41% 40%
23% 50. 25% 22% 24% 20%
16% 30. 14% 16% 14% 19%
15% Never. 16% 14% 14% 14%
7% 60. 7% 6% 7% 6%
1% 20. 1% 1% 1% 1%
-2% 18. 0% 0% -1% 0%
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Q37 HOW DID YOU LAST BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
55% In person. 54% 55% 52% 57%
22% None of these. 20% 22% 23% 22%
13% Phone call. 16% 14% 13% 10%
8% Text message. 8% 7% 10% 8%
2% Facebook message. 2% 2% 2% 2%
0% Facebook status change. 0% 0% 0% 1%
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Q38 WOULD YOU EVER DATE SOMEONE IN YOUR OFFICE? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
45% Never. It’s a terrible idea. 45% 47% 40% 46%
27% Yes, but only if he/she was in a lower-level position than I am. 23% 28% 29% 28%
16% I have, and we’re still friends. 17% 14% 16% 15%
9% I have, and it ended badly. 11% 8% 9% 7%
3% I still am. 4% 3% 6% 4%
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Q39 WOULD YOU DATE A WOMAN WITH CHILDREN? United States Canada United Kingdom Australia
50% No, I wouldn’t be comfortable. 45% 52% 49% 52%
47% Yes, it wouldn’t bother me. 50% 45% 48% 45%
3% Yes, I already am. 5% 3% 3% 3%
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