45 Administration Bans The Press From The White House


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This Is Why I No Longer Identify As White


Thinking of myself in binary racial terms is disingenuous.

By now you’ve probably heard mention of Anita Ronge, AKA DJ The DuchAz, AKA Kasi Mlungu. She’s made a bit of noise claming to be black woman in a white woman’s body..

The question of racial identity has been brought up in a few forms in recent years. In 2015, we had Rachel Dolezal, a white woman who had literally passed as black for years. In 2016, Donald Glover satirized transracialism in his series Atlanta. In the episode titled “B.A.N.,” we meet a black teenage boy, who identifies as a 35-year-old white man.

The main response from liberals here and around the world is to decry transracialism as nothing more than cultural appropriation. But the question is more widespread (and far more nuanced) than the obvious examples.

I no longer identify as white… sort of.

I am a white Jew. I’m very white and very Jewish. I went to a white Jewish day school, studied in a white Jewish seminary, and did a very “white” creative writing degree. My first job came from a white Jewish contact, and I got paid far more than someone with no qualifications deserved.

And yet, over the past few years, I can’t help but feel that my cultural and racial identity has changed. See, my boyfriend is mixed race. He has four grandparents of four different races. In engaging with his racial realities, my eyes have been opened to things most white people are oblivious to.

I now understand racial issues on a much more personal level. I can now easily identify my own and others’ manifestations of white privilege. He has exposed me to the everyday reality of being singled out because of your race. At first, it came through in conversations about his experiences from childhood on wards and how they differed from mine. But it soon became apparent in our daily lives.

At multiple Kosher restaurants, waiters have forgotten to give him a menu or acknowledge him. Initially, I saw these things as simple oversights. Only, once it happened over and over again did I realize it had anything to do with race. And I began to feel these slights personally.

So too with the prejudices of family and friends. In the past, when someone made a racist comment, I might have called them out on it but would forget it fairly easily. Now, I feel personally attacked. Because they’re talking about the person I love, as well as the multiracial world I live in.

There are more practically pertinent examples. While his Muslim parents were in exile during apartheid, he was raised by his Catholic grandmother. Nonetheless, the name on his ID is Muslim. As a Jew, I never thought I would have a problem visiting Israel (or America, for that matter). But if I want to go there now, I have no guarantee my boyfriend will be allowed in (or at the least, that he won’t be harassed by security).

My point is that, as much as my white skin will always convey upon me a privilege not extended to non-whites, thinking of myself in binary racial terms is disingenuous.

Claudia Rankine’s (at times brilliant) Citizen contains an essay that made me question her racial identity. She writes about Zinedine Zidane’s infamous headbutt against Marco Materazzi in the 2008 World Cup Final. Rankine claims that Materazzi said the words “Big Algerian sh*t” and “dirty terrorist.” She writes about his reaction as an actualization of the same unfairness that she herself feels in her daily life. The same as Serena Williams has experienced throughout her career.

Now, Zidane himself dispelled those claims years ago. Materazzi had, in fact, insulted his mother (or sister). It had nothing to do with racism. But what struck me was Rankine’s assumption that an Algerian Frenchman’s experience is the same as that of an African American woman.

There we have the problem with racial binaries. In order to accuse someone of cultural appropriation, you have to draw a clear line as to what black or Indian or colored culture is. You have to homogenize the experience of every member of that race. And once you’re doing that, you undermine personal experience. You create exclusion.

A white friend of mine, who now lives in the UK, has two adopted black kids. When they were in school in South Africa, they were called coconuts and oreos by the other black kids. But they never felt accepted by the white kids, either. A black friend of mine grew up ostracized by her black peers because her black parents only taught her English.

I also know a brother and sister who grew up in an orphanage in which they were the only white kids. They speak like the black kids there, dress like them, share their language and culture. None of these people fit into the binaries, and yet none are guilty of cultural appropriation. According to those outraged by Kasi Mlungu, they all end up among the excluded.

It’s easy to call out the Kasi Mlungus and Rachel Dolezals as appropriating black culture. They’re easy targets with their naivety.

They open their mouths and their obliviousness to white privilege pours out. But this needs to be a more measured discussion. Away from the hysterics of social media racism, South Africa really is advancing as a rainbow nation. The number of coconuts and wiggers (if that’s still a word) is only getting bigger.

Even I, an undeniably privileged white boy, am unsure of my racial identity……..

Joshua Marcus is a professional freelance writer and author. He writes creative fiction and non-fiction stories, articles, and blogs. He lives with his husband in South Africa. Follow him on Facebook, Twitter @josh72m, and LinkedIn.

They know where your BUTT is (Really!)


A Japanese telecom firm announced the creation of an app to help workers find available bathroom stalls — and to tell employers if they spend too much time in there.

KDDI said the app, which will be available to businesses in March, will tell workers in participating buildings where they can find the nearest available bathroom stall.

“People often waste time by looking around for an available toilet on various floors or by waiting until one becomes available,” KDDI spokesman Daisuke Maruo told The Japan Times. “We believe this service will help people waste less time.”

The app uses sensors installed on the stall doors to determine whether they are occupied or available for use.

The sensors also notify an administrator if a toilet stall is occupied for more than 30 minutes, a service the company says is designed to notify bosses of potential accidents in the bathrooms, but could also be used to bust employees using the bathroom to avoid work — a 2012 survey indicated 30 percent of middle-aged businessmen in Japan use bathroom stalls to take naps at work.

“Even though people sometimes complain that the number of bathrooms in a building are not enough, it is often hard for facility administrators to increase the numbers,” Maruo said. “We believe this solution will help solve the problem by streamlining how bathrooms are used.”

The company said the service will be made available in office buildings next month, but could eventually be used at locations with high bathroom traffic, such as sports stadiums, train stations, and shopping malls.

UPI

45 Sadness


He is my president, the 45th president of the United States of America.  Like many Americans I  hoped for the best and told myself I would to give him a chance.

That was January 20th

As of the February 19, I am mortified, embarrassed and sad.

Doing a reality check I asked myself, am I a sore loser, am I angry?

Disappointed yes, its one of many disappointments I’ve experienced when the best man lost.    When 43( George W) won I was dissapointed. There weren’t statements or questions in his character that led me to believe he might damage the country.

In less than 30 days, 45 has manage to damage our image. He has managed to bring the stability of the United States into question.   He has insulted our allies and caused most of us to be on constant alert. What will he do or say today?

Despite all the alternative facts, I’m not in shock.  President 45 and Candidate Trump are the same person.   I’ve never been at odds with his supporters, in fact I understand why they supported him.  While his candidacy has  awakened a racist element ,I don’t subscribe to the notion that all of his supporters are racists.  However since the election, some of my Indian, Mexican and Iranian friends have been attacked, some physically.  The citizenship of anyone with an accent is now questioned.

I find it difficult to respond, whenever one of my international friends ask why-how was he elected?  I lay of lot of the blame on my candidate, Hillary Clinton, and the other candidates,Marco Rubio, Chris Christie, Bernie Sanders, Lindsey Graham, Martin O’Malley,Carly Fiorina, John Kasich, Rick Perry and Jeb Bush.     Not one of these candidates stepped forward the day or the after he made that racist statement about Mexicans.   No one said this isn’t acceptable, he is wrong and doesn’t represent my  America!  Jeb Bush who’s wife is Mexican, their  children have relatives in Mexico was uncomfortably silent.   We have seen the careers of sportscasters and other notable individuals end, after making racists comments.  One wonders how successful he would have been if one or more of the candidates immediately spoke out against him.

The root of my sadness comes from the news.  Rarely a day passes without a  an international misstep by 45 or someone in his administration which is later blamed on the evil media. It also comes from Social Media.

There is an upside…..

People are awake!  There are daily demonstrations all over the country.   The Women’s march gave me hope.  I participated in the Muslim demonstration at Sacramento International.   One demonstration I wont participate in is “45 isnt my President”  With so many demonstrations I worry that they will eventually lose their impact.

To counter my sadness, I limit the time I spend of social media and watching the news. With so many people in shock, one thing is missing is humor. SNL has been a god send for me, through the writers I can exhale.

I’m gonna be okay, so will the rest of us.   Please don’t recommend therapy or snappy happy pills. I promise I wont throw myself in traffic or eat a case of Lil Debbie treats.  Its not that serious. I am an an optimist, today is today, and in time it will get better.

I wish more people would refer to him as 45.  The narcissist loves hearing his name and 45 would make him crazy, or are we too late.?

CityFella

Eight weird habits you’ll pick up in Germany


Eight weird habits you'll pick up in Germany
In Germany men sit down when taking a pee. Photo: DPA
When you go back the homeland for your Christmas hols don’t be surprised if people look at you a bit funny – you’ve probably picked up one of these peculiarly German habits.

Not crossing the street until it’s green

Berlin’s famous Ampelmann. Photo: DPA

In the Anglophone world it might seem like perfectly reasonable behavior to step out into the road if you’ve scoured both horizons and not found a vehicle in sight.

But in Germany it’s considered downright reckless – and a bad example to children, who might be watching out of windows even if they’re not there beside you on the street.

Give yourself a few months and you’ll be waiting with the crowds for the little man to turn green – if you don’t, prepare to get shouted at.

Saying hello and goodbye to shop owners

A small late-night convenience store. Photo: DPA

It would seem downright rude to ignore a shopkeeper or cashier in Germany, even if you don’t end up buying anything.

Germans may not be known for their friendliness, but they never fail to greet you as you come into the convenience shop, grocery store or pharmacy and almost always sing a melodic “Tschüß” as you walk out the door.

Perhaps it’s because shops tend to be smaller and thus feel more intimate than they do in the US – just imagine greeting all of Walmart’s workers as you walked in.

Clapping when the airplane lands

It’s always an entertaining clash taking a flight from the US to Germany and witnessing the German half clapping upon landing while the rest look around utterly baffled.

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Especially when there’s a bit of a bumpy ride beforehand, it’s actually quite a nice gesture to show appreciation to the folks upfront who managed to bring an enormous, flying metal bird back down to Earth safely.

Obsessively collecting bottles for Pfand

Getting Pfand for empty bottles. Photo: DPA

Germans take recycling seriously – as you can tell by each apartment complex’s courtyard dedicated to an elaborate system of specific bins.

Beginners’ German classes sometimes even spend time explaining the process, almost as a matter of German pride.

But on top of that, supermarkets make it extremely easy to turn in bottles for their Pfand deposit and immediately get the cash reward through automatic machines.

Thus you will see long queues of folks on weekends awaiting their chance to earn a few extra cents per bottle – and huge collections of bottles amassed in each German’s household, rich or poor.

Simply tossing a beer bottle in the normal garbage bin would feel almost sacrilegious when you know the next passing bottle collector could put it towards their next meal or good night’s sleep.

Sitting while peeing

For men, sitting down is a must. Photo: DPA

If you come from the barbaric Anglophone lands where the lesser sex still stand up while doing a number one, you may have to deal with weeks of passive aggressive muttering from German flatmates before they finally concede their ire at the fact you don’t bend the knee when taking a pee.

This isn’t just something that will bother female flatmates, German males are often just as insistent. In fact it’s an issue taken so serious,one landlord recently took a tenant to court over it.

Throwing in English words while speaking German

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German culture is so heavily influenced by American culture that sometimes it seems like every second word has been pinched from English – even for words that already exist in German.

After a while you’ll feel that it’s too weird to use the actual German word you learned so diligently in school and start using the English one instead – but with a heavy German accent to it of course.

Being totally cool with nudity (and mixed sex saunas)

Naked sunbathing in Munich. Photo: DPA

This is the one that us prudish Anglo-Saxons probably take the longest to get used to. But it is accepted – if not widespread – to be naked in certain areas at the beach or by the lakeside.

If you are a member of a gym in Germany you will also have to get used to the fact that you’ll be the only one wearing speedos in the sauna if that’s how you choose to go about it.

And there’ll be naked members of the other sex too. This is one habit that is sure to cause a storm if you take it back to the Anglo world with you.

Having lightning speed hands at the cash register

She’s never as decisive as when packing her shopping. Photo: DPA

When you head to the checkout counter at grocery stores in Germany, you have to be both physically and mentally prepared. Those cashiers don’t mess around. And no one is going to bag your food for you like stores in the States.

Nope. German grocery store checkouts are survival of the fittest, a competition between consumer and cashier to see if you can keep up with their lightning-speed hands, throwing veggies, milk and eggs across the scanner as you scramble to pack things in a bag before they read out your total.

Those who are too slow should expect frustrated sighs and passive aggressive watch-checking from both the cashier and the customers behind them.

Real Housewives of Atlanta S9 Ep14 Who’s A Lesbian?


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This is de episode   The rumors about who is skinny dipping in the lady pond comes full circle and someone falls hard out of the closet. 

One more day in the Woods

The Lesbian conservation swirls. Kandi is still pissed and is done. DEE OH N E!   She doesn’t want to travel with the ladies and arranges he own ride to the ATL.   When Kandi tells Cynthia she’s leaving .Cynthia’s response was like.  I’m done with all the drama . BYE Girl.

The next day the ladies climb into bus and please believe Sheree isn’t done and Phaedra doesn’t have a glass in her mouth to prevent her from talking.  Sheree wanted clarity and Phaedra had a bout of “flash amnesia ”  she didn’t remember anything. Any conversation about Kandi and her lesbianism.Porsha tried to clean her role up, but no one on the bus was buying dat gov-mint cheese

At the lake house, Cynthia traumatized her daughter Noelle about Lesbians. 

The Kenya Surprise.

Your girl is turning 50 and getting a divorce. So you get your girl , a card, a cup cake, a night with the girls.  Kenya, wants to give Cynthia something unique and she does with a lil shade. She takes Cynthia for a laser vaginal rejuvenation.  Of course Kenya doesn’t need one because she’s younger and her VaJJ doesn’t get much use.  (Kenya is much younger at 46 or 47)  As a bonus, we get the see some of the procedure.  Bravo cuts to flowers and butterflies to distract us.

Its official, Apollo is her ex

Phaedra rolls up to her lawyers office in that black benz which is on fire.    The office conference room  has a giant sign(KAPLAN FAMILY LAW) so fans in Atlanta know where to go.  Her lawyer Ronnie tells her the judge finalized her divorce.  However SHE would have to tell Apollo they are finished.   Now Apollo can tell his girlfriend he’s free.

 

Daddy Dearest Momiger and Porsha’s 1.4 new house

I’ve never understood why a deadbeat daddy would want to be on TV.   Once again, after demanding that he be allowed to see his daughter Russell “Bloc” Spencer was once again a no show. Riley is clearly hurt and done.  Kandi encouraged her to put her feelings on pen as she has difficulty expressing her feeling and takes her to the studio.    Even with auto tune, Riley is no Solange, however Kandi get bonus points for being a supportive mom.

Across town frick and frack gets together at Porsha’s HUGE new 1.4 million house.

Cynthia is having a fashion show for her new purse and bag line in Atlanta and tells Sheree there maybe a spot for her son Kairo in the fashion show.   Sheree is bout da business and asks if he is getting paid.   Ah, no  how bout a backpack.   Sheree son has never been in any show and tells Cynthia she would prefer  the show to be on a weekend.

Porsha sits down with her unemployed boyfriend Todd and put him in check.  With all that time on his hands he’s upset Porsha has a job and cant be available when  he’s available which is all da time.  ” She tells him that he’s almost 40, so she thought he would be more responsible.   Prognoses , Nooooooo!

 The Main Event

“Who is in the Lady Pond?”

After the camping trip, Kandi meets with her staff and hubby Todd at the Kandi Factory and tell them the main event of the glamping trip.

In the meeting we learn that Kandi, Porsha, and Todd were dancing at a late night stop. With Porsha on one side, Kandi in the middle and hubby Todd bringing up the rear.  Porsha and Kandi kissed (with tounges) and Porsha offered to eat Kandi’s yum,yum until till she came.    WELL FUCKING HELLO!!!!!!

And her staff and this reviewer went wild.   WTF!

Kandi has her moments, but rarely does someone question her integrity!

Kandi admitted she has dipped into the lady pond and says that only someone who had done that before would say it just like that, so obviously Porsha has done something. Meanwhile, Todd says that whole night was pretty fun because they went to Waffle House afterward.  One of her staff members said, well if you cant eat a……

Kandi and Porsha meet for lunch and the streets (patrons) got an ear full.   Kandi is still annoyed and Porsha goes left right and to the moon.   Porsha goes in hard.  She says everyone knows Kandi is a lesbian as she has had a secret seven year relationship. She says Todd is calling women pretending to be someone named Marvin.  Porsha says  Kandi has a sex dungeon.

When Kandi brought up the kiss between the two of them and the offer of the happy meal.    Porsha took a lesson from Donald Trump, she creates news to deflect from the truth. Its fake news until she slipped.  She went into her deniel mode (it neveh evah happened) and told Kandi she wouldn’t be interested in a Tea Cup like Kandi !   So what kinda women are you interested in.

In the confessional, Kandi reminds us, she is IN THE SEX business.   She has a sex talk show,  a very successful sex toy business and she thought the Idea of a sex dungeon would be cool.

Who’s a Lesbian Now?

See ya in a couple of weeks

CityFella