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See you at the next funeral


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Ain’t no drama, like family drama, cause family drama, don’t stop!

Color me hopeful.

My father died when I was six years old and my brother is nearly a generation older and didn’t appreciate my existence. There was one man in the family who took me under his wing, my Uncle. He would take me fishing and camping and include me in his family events.

This was nine billion years ago when fake wood Station Wagons roamed the earth. It was back in the day, when department stores had a husky department for chubbinel or fat boys. My uncle had a bushel of kids all near my age. They were like my sisters and brothers. I would take the bus, some 17 miles away to his home, a place I felt welcome. My cousins and I would dance to the latest 45’s records on their Sears Silvertone Stereo.

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He was the most important male in my life. I wanted to be like him, have a house full of loving children. I think my love for station wagons and minivans today is due to my admiration of this man . As I grew older, cracks appears in the relationship with my uncle.

Whisper’s from family members hundreds of miles away. He would interview me about the cost of my clothes and this news made its way to the Pacific Northwest. I learned that I was spoiled,took advantage of my mother. At thirteen, I was larger and taller than my uncle. When I was 18, he did something unthinkable to my side of the family. When I challenged him, he hit me in the chest. (my body didn’t move) I didn’t hit him, but I think this scared him.

From this moment forward, I became a pariah.

All contract between me and my grown cousins ended. It was like a death. Then the rumors began…….. My uncle created a number of false stories about my life. It didn’t matter he didn’t know I where I lived or what was actually happening in my life.

From that point forward, my cousins and I only saw each others at funerals. At the meetings, I always felt a spark of days gone by at the sad events, leaving me hopeful . But it wasn’t meant to be.

Days, years, decades. Marriages, Divorces, Children, Grand Children.and of course Death. None of our parents are alive.

Last summer, I learned about the death of one my cousins. The last time we’ve seen each other was at the funeral of her mother. I called her older sister to get the date and time of the funeral. She said, she didn’t know. Other relatives from out of state asked if I had information, because they wanted to attend. After a couple of un-returned calls, I Googled her name.

I learned the services was being held at Funeral home less than three miles from where I live. We actually lived an hour from each other. The downside, the services was taking place the very next day. I contacted my niece and and asked her if she would join me. A grandmother, she was a teenager the last time she’d seen this side of the family.

While it was a sad occasion, I was actually looking forward to seeing this side of my family, my niece brought her son.

Entering the building, I noticed the elder sibling. As children she and I were close and I was greeted with a smile. From there it was downhill. Our reception was chilly. Nice to see you and why are you here!

Although, the services began at two. Most of the people arrived after three. I could feel the divisions within the family. Children, and Grandchildren. Not the loving family, I remembered. Perhaps it was all in my mind back then or perhaps we all too young to develop resentments. Even though I was an unwanted guest, I was happy being with my family.

Forever hopeful, I exchanged telephone numbers with the family and announced that we should make an attempt to stay in touch. I could feel my niece and her son giving me the side eye, like please!! The two of them teased me in the car! A couple of weeks later, I contacted a couple of the cousins and Melba Toast had more moisture than the conversation. It takes two people to have a relationship so…….

Guess, I’ll see you next funeral.

I think its normal to hold on to those special times/memories. However, those memories, moments in time that can cloud our realities. Forever hopeful, we sometines stay in fruitless and sometimes painful relationships too long because of a memory .

If my uncle was alive, I would tell him about the positive impact he had on my life. Those memories make me smile today. At the end of day, we have to accept what is. Not what could be. It takes two to build a relationship. Angry, I’m not and resentments are a waste of time.

My uncle was highly regarded by his children which is to be expected. What he said about me may have irreparably damaged any possibility of relationship with my cousins. My love for them is there and that has to be enough.

CityFella

CoronaVirus-Bingewatching: The Real Housewives of New York Season 9


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(top row from left to right) Luann D’ Agostino, Ramona Singer,Dorinda Medley    (bottom) Tinsley Mortimer, Bethenny Frankel, Carole Radizwell, Sonja Morgan

Season 9

Every now and then when we are making a familiar dish, some spectacular happens.  We didn’t add or do anything different. But it is spectacular, and you can’t get enough.

This is how I would describe the ninth season of the Real Housewives of New York.

Because its the Real Housewives there is drama and loud fights, but there is humor and lots of it.  Season 9 is binge worthy.

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Season Nine marks the arrival of Tinsley Mortimer. Her personal life is more drama filled than any housewife episode. (See her story below)

The Real Housewives of New York is the gold standard of the Franchise.  Unlike the other franchises, who’s wealth is TV ready.  Most of the women in New York  are accomplished and were millionaire before they became stars .  Unlike, Atlanta, Dallas, Jersey, Orange County and the Potomac who started businesses once they became a cast member.

Ramona Singer is the OG of New York.  She grew up in an abusive household and unlike her mother she was determined to have her own money. Before RHONY she was a millionaire owner of  RMS Fashions, Inc. The company, buys excess inventory from retailers and sells it to discount stores.

Carole Radziwill was an accomplished journalist and author before becoming a New York Housewife in 2011.  Carole DiFalco worked for ABC News from 1985 to 1999.   She met her husband Antony Radziwill  at ABC where he as a producer with ABC News.  Radizwill’s father was Prince Stanislaw Albercht Radiziwill of Poland.  Her mother in law was Caroline Lee Bouvier the younger sister of Jacqueline Bouvier Kennedy. Radizwill have had two books on the New York Times Best Sellers List. Carole and her husband left ABC when he became ill,  he died in 1999.

Before becoming a cast member in season seven,  Dorinda Medley was the owner of London’s DCL Cashmere.  Her clients included the like of Princess Diana, and Joan Collins. She was also a successful real estate broker.

 Bethenny Frankel is unquestionably the most successful housewife.  Before becoming a housewife was was Paris Hilton’s nanny. in the franchise.  She started several business, she was actress and a contestant on The Apprentice featuring Martha Steward.

Bethenny earned less than $7500 for the first season of The Real Housewives of New York in 2008. On the housewives we saw her in a supermarket trying to get shoppers to try her healthy muffins it was demoralizing. She struggled financially for years.  She clearly didn’t enjoy the wealth as the other housewives who had successful businesses or who had married well.

In 2010, Frankel was the first housewife to spin off series ” Bethenny Getting Married ”  which chronicled her life with Jason Hobby and the birth of their daughter.   The show was a big hit.  Unfortunately, her marriage wasn’t.

In 2009, she wrote a book called Naturally Thin: Unleash Your SkinnyGirl and Free Yourself from a Lifetime of Dieting , she went on to write other books with the SkinnyGirl theme.  Bethenny created the SkinnyGirl Cocktail Company in 2011 and reportedly shold the Cocktail company for 120 million dollars but kept the name.  Skinnygirl is on everything from Popcorn to Jeans.   Bethenny  has written several books, she had her own nationally syndicated talk show.

 Tinsley (Mercer) was born into money, a debutante and member of society in Richmond Virginia.  Her father was Successful  Real Estate Investor, her mother was Interior Designer in Richmond.   When she was in High School, she met and later married Robert Mortimer.  The Mortimer’s were old New York money.  her husband Robert “Topper” Mortimer’s grandfather was the director of Standard Oil.   

 In the mid 2000’s  Tinsley Mortimer was the it girl. The Queen Bee of New York Society.  The most photograph woman in all of NYC.   She commanded the best seats during New York’s fashion week and had her own reality show (High Society)and has a bag and lipstick  She’s is an Author and has written for magazine, she has a line of housewares products under her name.  After divorcing her husband her stock as a NYC socialite dropped. She moved to Palm Beach and eventually fell in love with a much younger (10 years) man  Image result for nico fanjul.  Alexander “Nico” Fanjul  the son of a sugar baron.  His family didn’t approve of the relationship was kept on the down low.  Rumors of two fighting went public.  Image result for tinsley mortimer police  In April of 2016,  Tinsley was arrested outside Nico’s Palm Beach house. When the police arrived they found her crying and screaming that Nico was inside the house with another woman.   She told the police she was at the house to retrieve her purse.

Tinsley, is back in the Big Apple, living in Sonja Morgan Townhouse, her goal is to find love and regain her status as the toast of New York’s Society .

Season 9 of the Real Housewives of New York is available on Hulu, Amazon Prime, Apple TV

 

 

 

Coronavirus Russia: Cases Jump to 840 has negative impact on Stock Market


Russia has registered just three coronavirus-related deaths so far.Dmitry Rogulin / TASS

Russia confirmed 182 new coronavirus infections on Thursday, bringing the country’s official number of cases up to 840 and marking the largest one-day increase in cases so far.

Most of the new cases, 136, are in Moscow. This week, Moscow changed the way it counts its coronavirus cases, with patients considered coronavirus-positive upon a single positive test rather than having samples sent to a lab Novosibirsk for further verification.

Russia has registered three coronavirus-related deaths so far. Worldwide, the virus has infected more than 460,000 people and killed more than 21,000.

Coronavirus Hits Russian Markets | March 26

The latest on how the ruble and Russian stock markets are reacting to the coronavirus.

Financial markets have seen extreme volatility as the coronavirus continues to spread.EPA / TASS

The Russian economy has been rocked by the coronavirus outbreak, and the breakdown of the OPEC+ oil production pact between Russia and Saudi Arabia. The turmoil has shocked traders around the world and resulted in sharp volatility on the Russian stock markets and swings in the value of the ruble — both of which are down around 20% since the start of the year.

— It was a stable opening across the board Thursday morning in Moscow, as Putin’s address to the nation, the imposition of an emergency week-long holiday, the grounding of all international flights and a pending shut-down of bars, cafes and shops in Moscow failed to jolt the markets too much.

— The ruble was barely moved, trading at 78.8 against the U.S. dollar, slightly weaker than Wednesday’s levels, but comfortably stronger than the record lows registered last week.

— The stock markets were also steady, with the RTS Index and MOEX Index both down by 1.3% and no companies registering individual share price moves of more than 3.5%

March 25, Moscow open:

— A sea of green greeted Moscow traders as they clocked in Wednesday, with the U.S. stock markets posting their biggest one-day gain Tuesday since 1933, and Asian markets rallying overnight as investors seemed to be buying into emergency stimulus packages from central banks and governments around the world.

— Russia picked up the baton, following Tuesday’s strong gains with the MOEX Index adding 3% at the open and the RTS Index up 4%. Not a single stock was in the red, with Aeroflot and Rosneft the strongest performers. Aeroflot has climbed almost 40% in the last week and Rosneft is up one-fifth since its closing price Monday.

— The ruble also saw another stable overnight trading session, with the currency up 0.6% against the U.S. dollar to 77.8.

— The Russian story was helped by stronger oil prices, with Brent crude oil picking up 2% to almost $28 a barrel. However, ING slashed its forecast for average oil prices over the next three months to $20, citing a lack of signs that either Russia or Saudi Arabia are ready to come to the negotiating table for a renewed production cut deal.

March 24, Moscow close

— The ruble held its own throughout the day, managing to stay the better side of 80 against the U.S. dollar for the entire trading session in Moscow, currently standing at 78.6.

— Stock markets also performed strongly, recovering losses of recent days. The RTS index added almost 10%, while the MOEX Index was up 7.5%. Metal and mining companies topped the leaderboard, with the world’s largest palladium maker Nornickel adding a hefty 17%, Polymetal climbed 15% and aluminium firm Rusal was up by 12%.

— Commenting on another day of big moves in the global financial markets, Craig Erlam of OANDA said: “It’s been an incredibly turbulent month, one in which central banks and governments have been forced to announce extreme measures to combat the coronavirus crisis. Despite all of this stimulus, the stock market has continued to plummet, registering the kind of swings we very rarely ever see. Considering how these markets have traded over the last month, I’m certainly not confident that the worst of the rout is behind us.”

March 24, Moscow open:

— The ruble picked up support Tuesday morning, gaining more than 1% against the U.S. dollar to print 78.5 against the greenback as the Moscow trading session got underway. The dollar was weaker against most global currencies following the U.S. Federal Reserve’s latest package of monetary stimulus, unveiled Monday evening.

— The Russian stock market also registered a bumper start to the day. The MOEX Index was up almost 5% and the RTS Index jumped 7%.

— Russia’s state-backed oil giant Rosneft was top of the leaderboard, with a 9% rise in its share price, as the company announced it would take advantage of the market turmoil to accelerate its share buyback program. The company bought shares worth around 400 million rubles ($5 million) on Monday, VTB Capital estimated.

March 23, Moscow close:

— The ruble recovered some early lost ground, crossing back below the 80-mark against the U.S. dollar, holding at 79.8 as Moscow traders started packing up for the day. The currency picked up after the U.S. Federal Reserve announced a package of unlimited quantitative easing and new measures to increase liquidity in the world’s largest economy.

— The Russian stock markets also pared losses, but still stood in the red for the day, with the RTS index and MOEX Index both down around 3%.

— Economists at Nordea highlighted that global markets were still jittery, as “the situation with the spread of the coronavirus remains worrisome, with the risks of further deterioration in mood on the global markets elevated. At the start of the new week, the external background for the ruble remains negative.”

— Oil prices continued to be a drag on the Russian financial markets, as Brent crude shed another 4% to fall below $26 a barrel Monday afternoon. As countries go into lockdown, sapping global energy demand by as much as 10% according to Raiffeisen Bank, and Saudi Arabia ramps up its production, analysts at the Austrian bank expect the price to fall even further in the coming weeks.

March 23, Moscow open:

— With little signs of a recovery in oil prices, the ruble remained under pressure as the trading week got underway in Moscow. The currency stood at 80.8 against the U.S. dollar, 1.2% weaker than at the end of last week.

— The Russian stock markets plunged at the open, with the RTS Index losing 5.5% and the MOEX Index down 4%.

— Forecasts for the economic fallout of coronavirus continue to darken as more and more countries enter lockdown and the spread of the disease shows few signs of slowing. The CEBR, a British think tank, warned Sunday that GDP will fall twice as sharply as during the 2008 financial crisis, adding that the task of governments should be to prevent the coronavirus recession turning into a 1930s-style depression.

— The group said it expected the Russian economy to shrink by 4% in 2020, with little prospect of a post-crisis rebound.

March 20, Moscow open:

— After days of heavy losses the Russian ruble strengthened overnight, falling back from one of its weakest ever levels. The ruble was trading at 77.5 — up 2% — against the U.S. dollar Friday morning in Moscow. Benchmark Brent crude oil climbing back above $30 a barrel helped support energy-dependent currencies like Russia’s.

— Volatility is likely to remain sharp as traders await a crunch meeting of Russia’s Central Bank on Friday afternoon. The market consensus is that the Bank will hold rates at their current level of 6%, although Elvira Nabiullina’ statement will be closely watched for signs of how the Bank views the economic fallout of the coronavirus. The Bank faces a huge conundrum over the coming weeks and months over how to support the Russian economy without sparking further devaluations of the ruble and inflation.

— The Russian stock markets were also in the green, with the RTS Index adding more than 7% and the MOEX Index up 5%. Aeroflot recovered a huge 14% in its share price, while energy majors and retailers also performed strongly.

— While Russian energy companies have “once again” been saved by interventions from the Russian government, producers are not out of the woods yet, VTB Capital said in its Friday morning research note. “The formidable $123 billion loss in annual oil revenues is shared between numerous parties: the budget, crude producers, refineries, customers and even the population. However, the loss is heavy and, although ring-fenced and supported, the Russian oil industry is likely to face challenging times ahead.”

March 19, Mosocw close:

— The ruble flitted up and down throughout the day, but closed the Moscow trading session where it started — 80.5 against the U.S. dollar. This is around the levels last seen in the 2016 financial crisis and on par with the ruble’s weakest level against the dollar since it was redenominated in the wake of the 1998 financial crisis in Russia.

— Russia’s Central Bank announced more details on its measures to stop the collapse of the currency, stepping up its sales of foreign currencies — the logic being higher demand for rubles can keep its value up. The regulator also shared more details on how it will use the proceeds from the sale of its stake in Sberbank to Russia’s Finance Ministry to increase its ruble-buying program.

— Russia’s stock markets notched up one of its better days in recent weeks, with the RTS Index up 6%. News of measures to support Russia’s oil companies through the period of low prices helped energy companies score double-digit climbs.

March 19, Moscow open:

— The Russian ruble remains at its lowest level in five years, having crashed through the benchmark rate of 80 against the U.S. dollar. Overnight the currency slipped as low as 82.7, before recovering slightly to 80.5 as trading in Moscow got underway. That marks a 32% depreciation since the start of the year.

— Traders don’t expect the currency to stabilize anytime soon. The ruble is already the worst performer this year, and the futures market has it as the second most volatile currency over the next three months, business site RBC reported Thursday. Against huge economic uncertainty, the U.S. dollar is now stronger than it has ever been, as calculated by its reading on the trade-weighted index.

— Russian stock markets, however, were stable at the open, with both the RTS Index and the MOEX Index showing little movement from Wednesday’s closing level.

— Nevertheless, the readings were only balanced by some big share price moves in opposite directions. Retailers such as Lenta and Magnit saw their share prices jump, while national airline Aeroflot shed another 7%. A poster child for the coronavirus hit, just one month ago Aeroflot was worth $2.2 billion, the latest plunge takes its dollar market capitalization below $750 million.

March 18, Moscow close:

— The Russian ruble has fallen to its lowest level in five years, as the economic fallout of the coronavirus continues to weigh on the Russian financial markets. The ruble slipped to 79.8 against the U.S. dollar Wednesday evening in Moscow, putting the currency down more than 25% for the year so far.

— The plunge came as oil prices — which have a large impact on the Russian economy — also dropped to their lowest level since the 2014-16 price crisis. Brent crude was down below $27 a barrel. It started the year at $66.

— Russia’s dollar-denominated RTS index lost more than 9% Wednesday, while the MOEX Index, calculated in rubles, was down 3%.

— Analysts sharpened their assessments of how bad the economic costs of coronavirus will be around the globe. Deutsche Bank warned of “a severe global recession” with “declines in GDP growth … to exceed anything previously recorded going back at least to World War II.”

— Russia’s economic response to the crisis remains moderate compared to the huge rescue packages being outlined in the U.S. and Europe. All eyes are on a crucial meeting of the Central Bank on Friday in Moscow, as governor Elvira Nabiullina will weigh up how to respond to the economic turmoil, a falling currency and heightened inflation prospects.

March 18, Moscow open:

— The ruble slipped heavily overnight, trading at 76.8 against the U.S. dollar Wednesday morning in Moscow. Analysts say the mammoth stimulus package unleashed by the United States and other developed economies around the world accelerated a rush into dollar-backed assets, with currencies of emerging markets suffering.

— The Russian stock markets were knocked back, picking up from a poor session in Asian trading, and taking the steam out of a bounce in the U.S. markets overnight. The RTS index was down more than 4% at the open, and the MOEX Index shed more than 1%. Russia’s national airline, Aeroflot, was one of the biggest fallers, with Wednesday morning’s tumble meaning the company has now lost half its value — around $1 billion — in the space of four weeks.

— The ruble’s woes were compounded as oil prices once again started the day in the red, with benchmark Brent crude falling close to $28 a barrel, setting a new low not seen since January 2016. “The pressure on the oil market has been relentless, [and] risks remain to the downside as we move into the second quarter,” said ING’s Warren Patterson. “The demand picture continues to deteriorate as more countries implement shutdowns and put in place travel restrictions which have seen airlines cut capacity. Meanwhile the pickup in oil supply from April following the breakdown of OPEC+ talks does mean that these weak prices are likely to linger for quite a while longer. Lower prices are clearly going to hurt oil exporting countries.”

March 17, Moscow close:

— After picking up in the morning, the ruble slipped back to fall below the 75-mark against the U.S. dollar. A $1 bill would get you 75.2 rubles on the money markets Tuesday evening. The 1% daily fall would be big news on any number of other days, but following huge volatility over the last two weeks, traders might count today’s move as a sign of stability.

— The Russian stock markets also reversed their earlier upward trend, falling back in afternoon trading. The RTS index, denominated in rubles, was down 4.3% for the day and the MOEX Index dropped 2.8%. Construction group LSR fell more than 10%, followed by retailer Detskiy Mir and financial services group Tinkoff.

— Brent crude oil dropped back below $30 a barrel in Tuesday afternoon trading.

— “The situation remains tense, as the pandemic in Western economies has not yet passed its peak — and perhaps is the beginning,” said Sergei Suverov, analyst at BCS Premier. “Now the main question is whether the authorities will be able to help with large-scale anti-crisis stimulus to prevent mass bankruptcies.”

March 17, Moscow open:

— Markets were subdued Tuesday morning, with the huge overnight moves which have characterized trading in the last few weeks failing to materialize. The calm comes after another bloodbath on Wall Street on Monday, where stocks fell 12% in the worst daily performance in 33 years. “The Federal Reserve’s emergency move Sunday apparently failed to impress markets Monday, with investors questioning the efficiency of monetary policy for fighting the virus outbreak,” wrote VTB Capital’s Maxim Korovin in his Tuesday research note to clients.

— The ruble gained almost 1% overnight, trading at 74 against the U.S. dollar.

— The Russian stock markets registered small but steady gains, reversing some of yesterday’s losses. The dollar-denominated RTS index was up 1.6% to 982 points in the first minutes of Tuesday trading, while the ruble MOEX Index climbed by the same extent, moving back above 2,300. Blue chips Gazprom, Sberbank and Sistema were top of the leaderboard.

— Brent crude oil also climbed overnight, hovering slightly above the benchmark $30 a barrel price which traders have fixed on since the collapse of the OPEC+ deal earlier March.

March 16, Moscow close:

— The ruble fell again Monday, down 2.5% to start off the week, trading at 74.2 against the U.S. dollar. Earlier in the day, the currency fellow the benchmark level of 75 to the dollar.

— The Russian stock market also lost 5% as global stocks plummeted following an emergency rate cut from the U.S. Federal Reserve announced late Sunday. The RTS index, which is denominated in dollars, stood at 938 points (-5.4%), while the ruble-based MOEX Index was at 2,216 (-4.3%).

— Oil slipped to a fresh multi-year lows, with Brent crude falling 10% below $31 a barrel. Edward Moya, analyst at OANDA said: “Oil’s worst-case scenario seems to be coming true.  The coronavirus is paralyzing economies across the world and no-one has any clue how much worse it will get. You can basically start pricing a complete collapse in crude demand for much of the world.”

10 Romantic Stay-At-Home Date Ideas To Try With Your Partner During The Coronavirus Quarantine


10 Romantic Stay-At-Home Date Ideas To Try With Your Partner During The Coronavirus Quarantine

By: Sofia Stewart / Your Tango.com

Being stuck inside is more fun than you think.

It’s nice to go out and enjoy a walk through the city with our loved ones. It can be a bright and sunny day that symbolizes peace, but right now that simply isn’t the case. If you’ve noticed restaurants, libraries, museums, and local stores shutting down, then you already know our lives have drastically become interrupted thanks to the coronavirus. Most fast food or coffee shops are now to-go orders only, and stay-at-home mandates are happening all across the country in an attempt to slow the spread of the virus through quarantine.

For the duration of what’s been declared a national health emergency, we are urged to stay inside our homes and away from people as much as possible until things settle down. Even though we’re tempted to enjoy absorbing some vitamin d by going on a walk or visiting the park, just remember who you’re putting at risk the longer you’re out. Social distancing has been interrupting our daily routine with work, family, and friends, but it’s for the greater good.

In the midst of people losing jobs due to mandatory quarantines, social distancing, college classes across the country changing to online, curfews in various cities, and hospital rooms becoming full, it can feel overwhelming — as if the world may be coming to an end.

But we can look at the bright side too. There are more people working at home now than before. Online shopping, deliveries, classes and more help reduce carbon dioxide (CO2) from vehicle transportation. Not only vehicles affect the atmosphere but also human activities that result in carbon footprints, which are defined as greenhouse gases resulting from human activities that produce tons of CO2. Staying at home uses fewer greenhouse gases to help reduce tension in our atmosphere.

Now that you’re stuck at home with your partner or spouse, what are some fun activities to do with your spouse? Unfortunately date nights away from the kids probably aren’t going to happen anytime soon, so instead, let’s try to look at the positive — we get the chance to spend more quality time with our loved ones, right here at home.

So if you’re looking for something a little more romantic to do at home after the kids go to bed (or maybe they are just watching TV in the other room), take a look below at our list of the best romantic date night ideas you can do right at home.

1. Write a song together.

Something about writing a song with your partner without worrying about time carries a certain type of peace. You could write about how you both first met, what loves you, or how two is better than one. Music always brings people together in troubling times where fear and anxiety are common.

2. Do a fun DIY project together.

There’s nothing more exciting than creating projects with our own hands. Couples who engage in more activities together have a strong and healthier relationship together.

There’s plenty of doing it yourself projects for couples, like repainting furniture with your own twist to it, planting vegetables and herbs in mason jars decor, transfer photos on blocks of wood, or even making a coffee table from wood pallets you have stashed in the garage.

3. Make conversation over a classic board game, or while playing cards.

I remember the best conversations I’ve had when I used to play card games with family and friends. Card games help to enjoy each other’s company without steering off into binge-watching Netflix shows the whole time.

Games like Rummy, Gin, Black Jack, and War are great card games for couples. Maybe you would like to have a double date night. Cards games like Cards without Decency or Couple Trivia games help bring everyone close together unless you’re super competitive. Otherwise, I’d recommend focusing on the less intense games.

4. Build a fort-like you’re ten years old again.

This particular idea will never be too old to outgrow. You can get some lavender scented candles as the only light source while making the room smell appealing. After taking all of your sheets, pillows, and blankets into building a fort, go ahead grab a flashlight to tell dramatic stories to each other.

5. Host a tasting party for two.

This is the time to try tasting food and drinks together that you’ve been meaning to satisfy your curiosity. You can take your time while taste testing wine, ice cream, cookies, whiskey, or even tropical smoothies.

If you love posting videos on YouTube, then this could be a creative reaction video. It’s always entertaining to observe other people’s reactions when they try either heavenly or utterly disgusting food or drinks.

6. Create a spa night together for total relaxation from a busy life.

Relaxing together can become super romantic for any couple. Draw yourselves a bath to fill with Epsom salt, bubble soap liquid, and essential oil body scrub to help soothe each other.

There’s nothing more pleasing than assisting your loved one in making them feel clean. Don’t forget to get your favorite smelling candles to place around the bathtub for a steamy romantic night as well.

7. Do a couple’s painting class right in your living room.

Grab your favorite wine, paintbrushes, and a couple of fresh canvas. Don’t worry about the expenses, because there are places that offer cheap canvases online. Look up creative YouTube tutorials about painting using different objects, like newspapers, sponges, and string.

One of my favorite art projects was with a friend. We had four canvas to paint on and recreate a picture we took for senior year. Even though it was time-consuming, painting with her was one of the best moments to look back on.

8. Host a one-on-one karaoke night.

If your neighbors don’t mind, having a karaoke night can help express how you feel. If you’re feeling romantic, then serenade to your girl or guy about how they make you feel. Who cares if you’re not Mariah Carey or Michael Bolton, because this about you two singing your hearts out.

Having special prizes for the winner who can sing the most songs without messing up. These are the types of nights that help with endorphins and serotonin to help build a healthy relationship.

9. Learn a new language together.

Even though learning a language won’t happen in one night or two, it is also a wonderful learning exercise for couples. We’re all in confusing times where we can’t detect how long the quarantine will last. In the meantime, why don’t you learn a language that you’ve been meaning to get around?

Perhaps you both have family members that speak different languages, that you’ve been wanting to learn to communicate better. You both want to travel to either Italy, Mexico, or France one day and you want to be prepared for it one day. I recommend buying lots of sticky notes to place on furniture or other objects to learn the basic words or grammar phrases first.

10. Read together.

If your partner and you enjoy reading, quarantine is the perfect time to set up a comfy reading section at home. This could be inside a tent with pillows and blankets, or two comfy chairs while sipping on hot tea. I recommend London Fog or Jasmine Peach tea.

This is a wonderful time to get to that relationship book, you’ve both been meaning to go on a journey with. Grab any travel magazines reader to start planning any trips or mystery books that you talk about to each other afterward.

In Pictures: The witch hunts of Bangui


Elderly people in the war-torn Central African Republic are being accused of witchcraft, with fatal consequences.

By: Marco Simoncellit & Davide Lemmi /Al Jazera

Coronavirus: Saudi Arabia suspends prayers in courtyards at Makkah, Madinah mosques


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The temporary suspension is aimed at combating the coronavirus pandemic.

Saudi Arabia said on Thursday it suspended Muslims from conducting their five daily prayers and the weekly Friday prayer in the overflow area just outside the walls of the  of two holy mosques in Makkah and Madinah, to limit the spread of coronavirus.

The temporary suspension, which comes into force on Friday (March 20), is aimed at combating the coronavirus pandemic.

“The authority and the security and health agencies decided to halt the presence of people and prayer in the outer courtyards of the Grand Mosque in Makkah and the Prophet’s mosque in Madinah staring from Friday (March 20), as part of the precautionary and preventative measures to contain the spread of the coronavirus,” said the spokesman according to a statement on Twitter.

The General Presidency of the Grand Mosque and the Prophet’s Mosque calls upon everyone to cooperate with all precautionary measures for the health and safety of the pilgrims of the two holy mosques by preventing the spread of virus among worshipers, the statement added.

The psychological reasons people are panic hoarding toilet paper amid the coronavirus pandemic


The other day I went into Costco to buy some toilet paper . It came as a small shock when I couldn’t find a single roll.

The new coronavirus is inspiring panic buying  of a variety of household products such as toilet paper in cities across the U.S. and world.

While it makes sense to me that masks  and hand sanitizer  would be in short supply because of the outbreak, I wondered why people would be hoarding toilet paper – a product that is widely produced and doesn’t help protect from a respiratory virus like COVID-19. Toilet paper is becoming so valuable there’s even been at least one armed robbery.

As an economist, I am fascinated by why people hoard products that are not having supply problems. Toilet paper hoarding in particular has a curious history and economy.

Past panics

This wouldn’t be the first panic over toilet paper.

In 1973, U.S.consumers cleared store shelves  of the rolls for a month based on little more than rumors, fears and a joke.

At the time, Americans were already worrying about limited supplies of products like gasoline, electricity and onions. A government press release warning of a potential shortage in toilet paper led to a lot of press coverage but no outright panic buying until Johnny Carson, a famous late night television host, joked about it  during his opening monologue. Instead of laughing, people took it seriously and began to hoard toilet paper.

Americans aren’t alone in panic buying to ensure they have plenty of squares to spare. Venezuelans hoarded the commodity in 2013 as a result of a drop in production, leading the government to seize a toilet paper factory in an effort to ensure more supply. It failed to do the trick..

100 rolls a year

The average person in the U.S uses about 100 rolls of toilet paper each year. If most of it came from China, this could be a huge problem because supply chains from that country have been severely disrupted  as a result of COVID-19.

The U.S., however, imports very little toilet paper –less than 10%  in 2017. And most of that comes from Canada and Mexico..

The U.S. has been mass producing toilet paper since the late 1800’s

. And while other industries like shoe manufacturing have fled the country, toilet paper manufacturing has not. Today there are almost 150 U.S. companies making this product.

Why people hoard

So then why would people hoard a product that is abundant?

Australia has also suffered from panic buying of toilet paper despite plentiful domestic supply. A risk expert in the country explained it this way.’Stocking up on toilet paper is … a relatively cheap action, and people like to think that they are ‘doing something’ when they feel at risk.”

This is an example of “zero risk bias,” in which people prefer to try to eliminate one type of possibly superficial risk entirely rather than do something that would reduce their total risk by a greater amount.

Hoarding also makes people feel secure. This is especially relevant when the world is faced with a novel disease over which all of us have little or no control. However, we can control things like having enough toilet paper in case we are guaranteed.

It’s also possible we are biologically programmed to hoard. Birds, squirrels and other animals tend to hoard stuff.

How to handle shortages

There are a number of ways to handle shortages, including those caused by hoarding.

The best way is to convince people to stop doing it, especially with plentiful products like toilet paper. However, logic often fails when dealing with emotional issues.

Another way is by rationing. Formal rationing is when governments allocate goods by specifying exactly how much each family gets. The U.S. used rationing during World War II  to allocate gasoline, sugar and even meat. China rationed a lot of goods including food, fuel and bicycles until the 1990’s.

Sometimes businesses enforce informal rationing. Stores prevent customers from buying all they want. The Costco I went to for toilet paper had a sign limiting shoppers to five packages per customer.

Modern economies run on trust and confidence. COVID-19 is breaking down that trust. People are losing confidence that they will be able to go outside and get what they need when they need it. This leads to hoarding items like toilet paper.

While the government advises preparing for a pandemic by storing a two-week supply of food and water, there’s no need to hoard stuff, particularly products that are unlikely to suffer from a shortage.

As for my local Costco, I stopped by a few days later, and the toilet paper aisle was fully stocked.

By Jay L. Zagorsky, Senior Lecturer, Questrom School of Business, Boston University

Party like its 2008?


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On October 3, 2008,  President George W. Bush signed the $700 Emergency Economic Stabilization Act, often called the bank bailout bill.

Citigroup received $25 billion dollars from the bailout. The corporation laid of 52, 000 employees before the end of 2008.

While Citigroup lost more than $27 billion dollars in 2008.  It paid more than $5.billion dollars in Executive bonuses with nearly 750 staff members receiving more than a million dollars each.

Citigroup wasn’t alone, there were many companies using bailout and tarp money to pay for personal use of company jets, country club memberships. home security, and chauffeurs  Despite losses, companies held corporate parties and vacations in Hawaii for staff members.

While there were restrictions in the Bank Bailout and the Tarp money, there were no restriction that prevented corporations from buying back stock and paying executive bonuses.

Last night, the Senate version of the bill failed to get the required 3 fifths votes to pass.  The bill would send $1,200 checks for most U.S. adults and hundreds of billions for businesses that have been hit by the pandemic.

Democrats say McConnell is trying to jam through a bill that would give big corporations a bailout with too few strings attached. They fear that CEOs would take taxpayer funds and then enrich themselves with stock buybacks and executive pay hikes once the panic has passed.

Senate Minority Leader Charles Schumer said. The bill would “Significantly cut back on the money our hospitals, our cities, our states, our medical workers and so many others needed during this crisis.” ” The plan as written included a “large corporate bailout with no protections for workers” and did not provide enough funding for healthcare workers and medical funding,

Another vote will take place today. Will the Democrats get the corporate restrictions they want or will the corporations party like it’s 2008?

 

Why Sweden isn’t going to run out of toilet paper any time soon


Why Sweden isn't going to run out of toilet paper any time soon
Sweden’s biggest toilet paper manufacturer produces three million rolls every day for the Swedish market alone. So is there really any need to panic buy?

It has become emblematic of the countries hit by the coronavirus: pictures of empty toilet paper shelves, of people mounting rolls into their shopping carts or walking the streets with two packs under each arm.

All reassuring words from government officials and the industry alike, pointing out that there’s no shortage of hygienic white paper and that citizens can and, in fact, should stop buying rolls by the dozens, seem to  be to no avail. Many Swedes continue to stock up, leaving the supermarket shelves empty by midday.

Swedish press officer Henrik Sjöström at Essity, the world’s largest producer of hygienic and health products, including toilet paper, tweeted  about his local Ica grocery store: “Not a single shelf is empty in our Ica, except for toilet paper. Do people think Covid-19 is some bowel disease?”

There have also been creative solutions. Australian media outlet NT News, for example, decided to add eight white, unprinted pages to their newspapers, meant for citizens who had run out of toilet paper.

“We are surely witnessing an increase in demand,” Per Lorentz, a press officer at Essity Sweden, told The Local.

Their headquarters are in Stockholm, and Essity has several production centers throughout the country – many more throughout the world. “We are currently producing three million rolls daily for the Swedish market alone,” Lorentz said, which equals about one roll for every three citizens.

Is there a risk they will be running out, any of these days?

“Not at all, we do not experience any shortage. Panic buying is completely unnecessary.”

The toilet paper business must be flourishing, then, amid a suffering economy?

“Well,” noted Lorentz, “it’s true that people buy more toilet paper, but they probably won’t use more of it than regularly. Whatever they buy now, they won’t buy later.”

Remains the question: why toilet paper, of all things hoardable?

Sure, it would be an annoyance to sit in self-isolation and have none. But aren’t, say, bags of rice, canned beans and frozen vegetables more essential to getting through times of uncertainty (although according to Swedish authorities there is no immediate risk of Sweden running out of those either than our hygienic wipes?

Behavioral and consumption experts alike seem to agree that this worldwide roll hoarding is, in fact, irrational and has little to do with actual risk assessments. It rather seems to be the consequence of our instincts to, in times of crisis, stack up on basic necessities.

Psychologist Mary Alvord, associate professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at the George Washington University School of Medicine, told magazine Time that there is “comfort in knowing that it’s there. We all eat and we all sleep and we all poop. It’s a basic need to take care of ourselves.”

Moreover, Alvord noted, we are social creatures who need the larger community to survive. People who are regarded as unclean run the risk of being ostracized. “It’s about being clean and presentable and social and not smelling bad.”

The Local

The X,Y’s and Z’s of Online Long Distance Dating


Technology has changed our lives.  We call, text, DM, skype, Marco Polo, or face time?

If you are single or “stepping out”  there is a app or site for that.  No more back alleys.  Anything you want is online.

If you’ve been in a long term relationship for for 25 or more years, it may take you a minute to heal, and take all they time your need.   There are well meaning people who  may want to introduce you or insist that you get back into the field.    Just remember who’s life it is., you are not under any obligation to date or ‘get out there” until your ready!  A respectful friend or family member should respect your wishes, if they don’t, insist they do!

First things First 

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They look good, they even smell good online.  If you cant afford to travel to meet them, don’t play them or yourself.   Look in your area code!!! 

What Do You Need From Relationships?

Before falling for the romance, both parties should be aware of their emotional needs. “If you are someone who needs physical touch and/or quality time activities together to build a relationship and be happy with your level of connection, you’ll be setting yourself up for more heartbreak and disappointment,” warns Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD, sociologist & intimacy coach  and author of the book From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women. But on the flip side, those who respond best to words of affirmation and gift giving/receiving may be perfectly content with virtual conversations and special surprises sent by mail. Further, “People who already have very busy and full lives, and also people who are independent or content living alone (if they don’t have a roommate), may appreciate the flexibility and lowered expectations of a long-distance relationship,” she says.

The short answer is that it depends on your needs, limitations, and what it takes to feel fulfilled in a romantic relationship. “‘Success’ in a relationship is not necessarily defined by a particular duration of time or a particular end result (e.g., co-habitating, marriage),” Dr. Stefani Threadgill, a sexologist, PhD, LMFT, and founder of The Sex Therapy Institute explains. “I define a successful relationship as one that creates pleasure and happiness for both people in the couple, for as long as the relationship lasts.”

That said, if you decide to give it a go, Dr. Sue Varma (@doctorsuevarma on social media), a couples and sex therapist and sex educator, says that the first step is to clarify your intentions. “I’m big on people being clear and up-front about [their intentions], in their own mind and for the other,” she says, adding, “If you are looking for a long-term, committed relationship, you may be willing to make the extra effort [of dating long-distance].”

There are also some other questions to ask yourself as you go forward with a far-away romance. Ahead, some things to consider before taking that digital step.

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“The perfect man or woman is rarely local, unless local means Uganda 

There are thousands of sites online, before committing to any site or app.  Research the site, get a feel for the occupants there.   If the responses or non responses is not to your liking after a few weeks, move on to another or return to traditional dating methods.

 There are some sites and apps are designed for hook ups.  Others are more  specialized.   There are women who like men dressed in women’s clothing.  Gay  male sites who match regular size men with men who weigh 400 plus.   Take a moment, read the profiles before you commit.  While most sites are free there are other specialized sites that for

Online-dating companies are privy to the fact that people use them for travel.  Tinder launched a paid feature called Passport that lets people swipe on members anywhere in the world. And Scruff, a dating app for gay men, has a section called Scruff Venture that helps users coordinate travel plans and connect with host members in foreign countries. Scruff’s founder, Eric Silverberg, told me the company added the feature when they noticed lots of users were already posting travel itineraries in their profiles; now one in four members posts a new trip every year.

Why enter into a Long Distance Relationship? 

There’s a potential benefit of being apart—it forces you to learn how to have extended conversations with someone,” says Andy Merolla, a professor who studies interpersonal communication and long-distance relationships at the University of California at Santa Barbara. “If we think about this as a skill, distance puts it to the test.” His research has found that LDRs last longer than geographically close relationships, but only for as long as the couples stay long-distance.

One explanation suggested by his work is that long-distance daters tend to idealize their relationships. “When you don’t see your partner in person, you don’t get as complex a view of what they’re like on a day-to-day basis. You don’t see how they are in the morning just after they wake or after a bad day of work,” he says. When people in LDRs were reunited, they reported missing their autonomy, feeling more jealousy, and noticing more of their partner’s negative traits. But Merolla doesn’t think this idealization is necessarily a bad thing, and suggests it might even yield benefits for the types of daters in never met relationships. “Maybe there are people who, if they meet someone face-to-face right away, have difficulty forming a relationship or wouldn’t hit it off right away. But having the distance could open up new relationship opportunities.”

Be honest with yourself?  are your looking for forever or for now?

“Playing yourself has huge consequences”

 

The Introduction 

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Hi…… 

or hello is  where the conversation starts.  You stumble around a bit until you find things in common.  It could be television, movies books, and sex.  In the conversation is successful  one conversation becomes two, two becomes daily and after some time you exchange telephone numbers.   And of course, you live in Eugene, Oregon and he lives in Duluth, Georgia.  Your heart is pounding   You want to see him……..

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The Conversation 

 The downside of  internet relationships is often not in the same place, words on the screen or face time cant replace personal interactions.

Meeting someone online and offline is intoxicating.  Early conversations are often filled with romance, dreams and lust.   You talk about eventually meeting.   When you talk of meeting, does he or she talk of you visiting? or do you both talk about visiting each other?

Take a moment and turn down your heart and listen to words, as words matter. 

How long have you chatted?  What do you know about this person outside of sex and dreams?   Has he or she talked about friend and family? Work?  Hobbies?    Continue talking.   Listen closely to his life plans, if all he talks about is you and loving you, pause.   Do you know what he does (work) and how long he’s been on this job?  Doe’s he or she lives alone or with friends or family?  Some believe at a minimum wait six months before traveling to meet each other.

When the topic of visiting comes up, does he expect you to visit? or does he want to visit you.  If he or she comes up with excuses why they can’t visit you consider it a warning to things to come.

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They’re only words on a screen and a strangers face and voice”

Red Flags

There are some red flags you can look out for through your correspondence. Dr. Varma says that flakiness, unreliability, canceling potential meet-ups, and telling stories that don’t add up should raise your suspicious. And in general, she advises, you should always trust your gut. For example, “if they are only interested in phone sex, sending sexually provocative images or messages early on, you will know their intentions, so don’t be fooled,” she says. Also, Dr. Threadgill notes, it can be easy to experience a false sense of security after just a few days of continuous messaging — and that’s not always a good thing. “Faux intimacy can be a consequence of relationships initiated through apps/online dating or texting,” she explains. “It is the sense one ‘knows’ another person, yet in reality, they have never met; it is a hazard of dating in the digital age.”

But with all this in mind, the experts agree that starting a long-distance relationship with someone you met online isn’t automatically a bad idea. In fact, it can be incredibly fulfilling for those who proceed with caution and are willing to make some sacrifices. Dr. Gunsaullus shares her final thoughts: “If you have a connection with someone that feels particularly special, unique, and supportive in a way you haven’t been able to find in your home area, then maybe you want to give it a shot.”

Do You Trust This Person?

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The matter of trusting someone’s authenticity when you haven’t actually — you know — met. (After all, you’ve seen Catfish, right?).”While it’s amazing to be able to meet people to potentially date from around the world, there are bigger issues to think about before diving into a long-distance relationship that doesn’t begin by first spending time together in person,” Dr. Gunsaullus says. “The fact that you’ve never spent actual time in the same physical space together has two primary concerns: First, the other person may not be who they present themselves to be online or from a distance, so they could be leading you on. Also, it’s hard to assess sexual chemistry if you haven’t spent time together.”

Love, Lust and Money 

For months now, the you have bared your soul to this person you have never met and feel a special bond to him or her.  You have a friendship like none other. Then one day, they ask you for a loan or some other financial assistance Mortgage, Rent, school, car payment ( fill in the blank). Respectfully decline and wait.

The net is filled with miscreants, jerks, who will filled you with words of love just to get your hard earned mo-Nay.    Some will keep returning to the well until its run dry, then see ya SUCKER!!!

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They need your help, for some reason, no one in their town, state or area code will help them.   You, So they turn to you, the person they love and trust. “Cause- One day you’ll be together”   So you trust this person WHO you have never met. WHO pulls at your heart strings and you give him or her your credit card number.

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The heart can mislead. Your not comfortable, but you don’t want risk offending him or losing her, so you ignore the advice of  friends, family and common sense and you wire this stranger your hard earned mo-NAY.   In most cases, never to hear from him again.

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How often do you contact your online friends in Ireland when you need cash?

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  Most of us have friends and or family members who  we can borrow money from. The only other reason he needs your money is because he has bad credit or he has burned friends and family.

A very attractive women traveled from Texas to Sacramento to meet a man she met online.  They spoke on the phone several times a day for nearly a year.  Including the afternoon she was due to arrive.  He agreed to pick her up at the airport.  She called him several times after arriving to Sacramento. She waited five hours in the terminal and decided to get a hotel room.  At the hotel, she told the desk clerk she had given him over $14,000 to help him start of business.  She spent three unsuccessful days trying to locate the stranger she said she loved.

Loneliness ii such a sad affair 

And I can hardly wait to be with you again

Come back to me again

And play your sad guitar
Don’t you remember you told me you loved me baby
You said you’d be coming back this way again baby
Baby, baby, baby, baby, oh, baby
I love you, I really do

Superstar (1969) Written By ‎Bonnie Bramlett‎; ‎Leon Russell

How Far & How Often Are You Willing To Travel?

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Another aspect to consider is how far a distance you’d be willing to travel, and how often, in order to see your partner. For instance, would you be okay with making a four-hour drive to spend the weekend together, or flying halfway across the world two times a year? Or, would you consider a two-hour train ride a huge inconvenience, given your need to be with your beau? “How much distance you’re willing to deal with depends on how busy you already are, and how much physical touch matters and being able to do activities together,” says Dr. Gunsaullus. “It also matters how much time and money you have to be able to travel and vice versa, because a long-distance relationship, where you’re traveling quite a bit, means that your friends and work could be negatively impacted, as well as your wallet.” Of course, the commute may be more tolerable if one of you is willing to relocate, should things get serious.

Reciprocity

Is he or she willing to make the journey to visit you or are you going all the heavy lifting? (traveling)   Over time this may be problematic, unless your work takes you to that part of the country.

Do’s and Dont’s of Long Distance Online Dating

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There are many wonderful stories about people meeting online.  There are also many tragic stories. There are many people inside and outside our communities wanting to take advantage of hiding behind a screen. This is especially true of opportunistic people from disadvantaged countries looking to connect with lonely men and women in western countries in order to escape their realities.

Sometimes the ego cant get enough from hearing how wonderful and beautiful you are and how its impossible to believe someone like you is single……

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Too Good To Be True Usually Is

Do take absolutely everything ANYONE you meet online (local or foreign) with a grain of salt. Always assume it COULD be untrue. Listen to your gut, if something feels off then it probably is. Do use your judgment and smarts.

Don’t let loneliness, ego and the desire to feel special and loved cloud your judgment and ignore red flags. People tell you what they want to tell you, especially online. You can’t trust or believe everything you see or hear. I can be anyone I want online and so can you AND so can they.

The First Meeting before and after 

Do get your own hotel room. You don’t really know this person is from Adam.  Do tell a good friend where your going. Where your staying and who your seeing. Give them all the deets.  Pictures, addresses and telephone# and screen name.  Meet him or her in a restaurant and don’t take them or go to there room, hotel the on first night.  On the second night, don’t give him the room number, meet him or her in the lobby and escort them to your room.  

Don’t Allow her to come up to your room the first night.   Do no share the room number.  Trust your senses, if your feeling real odd or things aren’t matching up… Abort, Cancel.  Don’t force it, even though you’ve came all that way.

Personal Safety

Do remember that stranger danger is real. Protect yourself by never sharing your personal information, pictures of your home, information about your finances with these strangers online regardless of how comfortable they make you feel or what they ask for.

Don’t ever send money to these people regardless of their sob story or how special they make you feel. This is FRAUD. Also be careful about what information you share with them.

Keep Loneliness in Check

Do fill up your days with activities you enjoy – classes, volunteering, meetups, events – surrounded by people that make you happy and fulfilled so you won’t be so lonely that you are tempted into these interactions and relationships. Meeting new people in new social situations will also help you expand your social circle, which could help you meet a romantic partner.

Don’t let loneliness or a moment of weakness cloud your judgment when dating.

Face to Face Interactions

Do remember that the true test of someone’s intentions that you meet online is their willingness to meet offline. I advise people that you should be able to meet someone in person within two weeks of meeting online. No exceptions, no excuses. Skype or video doesn’t count. If someone wants to be with you and is serious about it then they will meet you in person. You can’t verify someone is who they say they are unless you are able to interact face to face with them on a regular basis. Short trips don’t count, it’s easy to be Romeo and Juliet for a weekend or week.

Don’t believe excuses that people have for not meeting in person – financial, personal, emotional, mental, whatever. Sending and receiving pictures and online video chat doesn’t replace face to face in person interactions.

It’s NOT Complicated

Do remember that “it’s complicated” is not a relationship status. A good relationship shouldn’t be complicated. Long distance online dating is almost always complicated. Why would you settle for that? Being alone is better than being with the wrong person.

Don’t romanticize the “it’s complicated” relationship status. It should never be complicated. It should be easy. A love story should be simple and unrequited love, although sounds romantically tragic, you should never settle for anything less than an in person relationship that’s just easy.

Before you add & communicate with a stranger online ask yourself: Where are they from? How did they find you? what do they want from you? Why did they add a complete stranger? Who are they really?

Long distance relationships that work are usually the ones that someone meets a romantic partner on a trip, or they grew up together and they were separated for a reason or those that you meet in person FIRST and then need to use online tools to keep in contact. Either way there has to be a consistent schedule of seeing each other in person and a plan to live together in the near future. However, long distance online dating nearly never works out and is full of risk. You need to be very careful with who you meet and what you share with those you meet online. A true test of this type of encounter is meeting face to face as soon as possible and verifying truths. Remember stranger danger is real and protect yourself first. Date smart because it’s better to be alone than falling for the wrong person and situation.

CityFella,

 

Important World News: Should you keep Ketchup in the fridge or in the cabinets? (Experts weigh in)



By Luke Matthews/UK Mirror

If you’re someone who is a firm believer that ketchup should be kept in the fridge and not the cupboard, we’re afraid we have some bad news for you.

Which? gathered the feedback 444 consumers on Twitter  relating to how they store their condiments and said it discovered ‘a lot of confusion, misinformation and downright bad habits – including ones that could put our health at risk’.

Most of us have never looked at the back of our bottles to follow the guidance on how they should be stored.

Despite a Heinz Tomato Ketchup recommending users to refrigerate once open (and eat within eight weeks), A team of experts made up of a public analyst, a special adviser on food and drink, and registered dietitian Dr Sarah Schenker said it’s just taking up unnecessary space in your fridge.

They said: “There’s no need to keep ketchup in the fridge. Not only does it contain vinegar, but tomatoes are naturally acidic, and this helps to preserve the product in ambient (room temperature) conditions.”

Dr Schenker added: “Sometimes people keep ketchup in the fridge, simply because they prefer a chilled taste, but otherwise it doesn’t need to be refrigerated.”

It’s a different story for mayonnaise, which they say should be stored in the fridge as, although it contains vinegar, there isn’t enough to keep it safe at room temperature.

Keeping it cool will limit the growth of bacteria that can be introduced when you dip cutlery into the jar.

The team had their say on 21 of the most popular condiments and whether they should be kept refrigerated. Here’s the summary:

Fridge:  Mayonnaise, pesto, salad cream, maple syrup, tartar sauce, redcurrant jelly.

Cupboard: Ketchup, brown sauce, honey, mint sauce, pickle, olive oil, soy sauce, mango chutney, malt vinegar, hot pepper sauce, Worcestershire sauce.

Fridge or cupboard: English mustard, Dijon mustard, wholegrain mustard, piccalilli.

They also advised that ‘use by’ dates are about safety, while ‘best before dates’ relates to quality. It even provided a lovely rhyme which goes:

“Use by; say goodbye. Best before; eat some more.”

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