I never get caught up in the lives of celebrities, from Tiger Woods, to Angelina Jolie, who cares? People fall in love and get their hearts broken every day. So why am I touched by Sandra Bullock’s heartbreak?
Perhaps because she wasn’t your typical Hollywood movie star. In the 16 years (since Speed) we have known her , she has been under the radar. Unless she was promoting a new film,Bullock sightings are rare. Unlike Julia Roberts and Meg Ryan tabloid pictures were difficult to find. If they wanted a picture, they would need to travel to Austin,Texas.
With the exception of Troy Aikmen and Matthew McConauhey the men she dated were under the radar. She waited for the right man and married him at age 40, accepted his children .
This very private person went public with the love she has for the man she attributes to where she is in here life and career. Before ,she could fully enjoy the fruits, the carpet was yanked away.
I’m touched by a seeming ordinary person (who just happens to be a celebrity) who didn’t marry four or five times, a person who married someone for who they are (Jessie James?-had to be love) ,a person who seemed very much in love and then to be publicly humiliated.
This will not be the last time this happens. Somewhere in the world someone is getting the shock of their lives.
Here is one such story……….
How Sandra Bullock can get her mojo back
America’s Sweetheart — take a lesson from predecessor, Debbie Reynolds
Jesse James has turned to an Arizona rehab facility. Sandra Bullock should turn to Debbie Reynolds.
As Bullock must eventually decide her next steps, professionally and personally, she’s got a great role model in another woman who once wore the same mantle of America’s Sweetheart — and was publicly humiliated by an unfaithful spouse.
Sienna Miller broke her engagement to Jude Law after he was caught pants-down with his kids’ nanny. Minnie Driver supposedly learned Matt Damon was ending their relationship by hearing it on Oprah. Laura Dern and, more famously, Jennifer Aniston lost their significant others to Angelina Jolie on film shoots.
And this isn’t a heterosexual thing: Ellen DeGeneres had to face Anne Heche leaving her for a cameraman.
But Reynolds comes to mind most of all.
For those not old enough to recall the famous Hollywood scandal, the star of “Singin’ in the Rain” was ranked one of the top 10 box-office stars in 1958 and the happy mother of two when her husband, singing idol Eddie Fisher, abruptly left her for their best friend, Elizabeth Taylor — the Jolie of her day. Reynolds was universally beloved for being a versatile, spunky, straight-talking celebrity, and she immediately won the public sympathy vote in the break-up, while Fisher and Taylor were vilified.
As news broke about her husband publicly romancing the notorious sex symbol, Reynolds provided a legendary photo op outside her Beverly Hills home. Holding her 18-month-old daughter Carrie Fisher and 6-month-old son Todd while wearing jeans, a man’s shirt and a kerchief on her head, she looked like she’d just stepped away from dusting.
The photo remains an iconic image of a wronged woman, alongside the picture of Princess Diana alone at the Taj Mahal.
Reynolds went on to star in light romantic comedies and musicals. And soon after her divorce was finalized (when Fisher married Taylor three hours later), she had a best-selling hit with her recording of the popular song about love gone wrong, “Am I That Easy to Forget?”
So what’s next for Bullock? It’s unlikely that she’ll be recording. But let us channel our inner Reynolds and offer her some advice.
Get back to being seen
More specifically, set up that definitive photo, video and audio soundbite that will run worldwide. We suggest it’s with your most famous and funniest friends: a raucous night out with George Clooney, Betty White, George Lopez, Tim McGraw. Throw in Hugh Grant for good measure. When the images are inevitably run side-by-side with those of James’ goose-stepping, tattooed playmates, we know who’ll come out ahead.
And maybe we’re overly optimistic, but wouldn’t the most perfect happy ending be if Clooney and Bullock finally hooked up? It would a nice change from his usual assortment of juvenile models, actresses and cocktail waitresses.)
Get back to work
Your name is currently attached to four projects in development including two comedies, a romance and a Christmas movie. Even before the James mess erupted, audiences and the industry were anxious to learn what your first post-Oscar film would be, and you’ve acknowledged the weightiness of the decision.
Go for it. Do that project that you considered the ultimate longshot, whether it’s the biggest tearjerker or sappiest girlfriend comedy. Now’s your chance to do a film that’s guaranteed to draw in a huge female audience.
And since men are on your side as well, they might not even bristle at having to come along.
Prepare some one-liners
Even those who don’t care much for your work probably like you as a person — you consistently come off grounded, straightforward and kind. (One of my best friends, a well-known and famously cynical LA entertainment reporter, has always been a diehard fan of “Sandy” and admitted to hating having to cover the marital problems.)
While a People or TODAY show interview would be an invasion of the privacy you’re clearly seeking, have a few solid one-liners memorized to toss out when you’re inevitably buttonholed in public. That’s what publicists are for.
About your marriage …
All of us on the outside assume that you’re going to be ending the marriage as carefully as possible to avoid damaging James’ children. But some pundits are theorizing that if you wind up taking James back, it’ll be the worst career move possible.
We have just two words for them: Hillary Clinton.