The way you relate to people affects all of your relationships, be it with a spouse, friend, work colleague, relative or romantic fling. Your “attachment style” is a key component, but it’s tricky figuring out which style you have. Check out these gals from TV and movies to see how you match up.
1. Baby from Dirty Dancing: Secure
For only being 18 years old, Baby sure is mature. When hunky Johnny Castle pulls away (avoidant, much?) because he thinks he’s not good enough for her, she doesn’t freak out and become an anxious stalker.
2. Summer from 500 Days of Summer: Avoidant
It’s rare that you see unsympathetic, emotionally unavailable women on the big screen, but as Summer, Zooey Deschanel played the part perfectly—always keeping Tom at arm’s length no matter how devoted (albeit slightly anxiously) he was to her.
3. Bridget Jones/Daniel Cleaver/Mark Darcy from Bridget Jones’ Diary: Anxious/Avoidant/Secure
Always on the edge of reason, Bridget (center) is a self-proclaimed “singleton” with more than a few fears about relationships. She winds up entangled with womanizer Daniel Cleaver (right), until he cheats on her with a colleague.
4. Alicia Florrick from The Good Wife: Secure
Alicia is an intelligent, grounded mother and lawyer who, despite having the rug pulled out from under her when her politician husband cheats on her, she handles her situation with strength and maturity.
5. Tami Taylor from Friday Night Lights: Secure
Being the wife of a celeb-status, small-town football coach sure is tough, especially when you have your own demanding career as a high school principal, and both a teenager and baby to raise.
6. Samantha from Sex and the City: Avoidant
Always the self-assured, independent woman, Samantha enjoys “having sex like a man” and demands that her sexual partners leave “an hour after I climax.”
7. Temperance ‘Bones’ Brennan fromBones: Avoidant
Bones might be a genius, but there’s a reason her most meaningful relationships are with dead people.
8. Rachel Berry from Glee:Anxious
Finn Hudson has the patience of a saint. As Rachel Berry’s onscreen boyfriend, he puts up with her matching his and hers calendars, constant cries for attention and mandates for him to quit the football team so other girls won’t flirt with him.\
9. Liz Lemon from 30 Rock: Fearful
After Santa betrayed her, Liz’s love life took a turn for the worse. Between her insanely high expectations (hello, Astronaut Mike Dexter), her extensive list of dealbreakers and her desire to start a relationship 12 years in, dating isn’t exactly her specialty.
10. Nala from The Lion King: Secure
Nala is the perfect example of calm, cool, collected. When she meets Simba in the jungle after he disappears, she worries that (cue music) “he’s holding back, he’s hiding, but what? I can’t decide” (cue Academy Award).