It’s difficult to find to many mothers who have sympathy for twenty year old Bree Hajek-Richardson who was pummeled by a mom outside of the Nordstrom Rack in Colma. (near San Francisco) After telling the mother she should quiet her child down a few days ago.
She said, asked the child’s mother to quiet the child down, but nicely.
“She (the mother) came to the side of me and told me not to tell her child what to do. And I told her that I didn’t ask your child what to do, I asked you very nicely to calm down your child just a little bit,” Hajek-Richardson recalled.
Hajek-Richardson said she then told the mom off. “I told her to go to hell and she told me I’ll see you there,” she said.
When Hajek-Richardson left the store, she said the mom followed her to her car. “Was asking me, ‘Where’d you tell me to go?’ So I repeated again what I said to her, and I told her that I told her to go to hell,” she said.
As a result of the attack Ms Hajek-Richardson is bruised and could lose some teeth.
As I read the blogs connected to this story, while most of the women do not support the violence, they can understand it.
Hajek-Richardson, clearly doesn’t have children, if she did, she would have never approached the mother. Children do not come with an off switch and no amount of now dear, will silence a child in full tantrum.
I remember some idiot telling my wife, she should talk to our child. (Imagine talking to a child in full scream) Today, I think I would find the person and drop my child at the idiots feet and say, go for it sweetie, knock yourself out, silence my three year old Diva!
Look Straight Ahead and Stay on Course!
I am reminded of this story as I walked through the West Sacramento Super Wal-Mart today. A child somewhere in the front of the store was having an Apocalyptic Turbo Charged Tantrum. For more than 25 minutes, he was at Defcon 2 and gaining strength, it was amazing, in all that time there wasn’t any sign of fatigue,
Unlike twenty year old Bree who’s ears was assaulted by the noise, people in Wal Mart simply moved to other(quieter) lines.
If you have a child, your choices are few, you complete your daily life or become a prisoner of your child.
Nearly every parent can relate to the look. The mothers and (occasionally fathers) look straight ahead, not looking right or left, avoiding the eyes and embarrassing glances of others. Doing your absolute best to stay on task, with your screaming in child in the cart. These parents are operating on auxiliary power to get through the store. So to have someone to approach you about a sound your very familiar with is gutsy.
God or the higher power has a sense of humor
If you are first time parent this comes as quite a shock. The child who was just cooing is now screaming so loud that he or she can be heard by air travelers at 33 thousand feet.
Your not beating them. but it sure sounds like you are and you’ll soon realize they can scream longer, and louder than you could ever imagine.
Of course, young Bree’s child will be different, she will have done her research and have more on control of her child.
The good news, these tantrums go on for only a year or three, the bad news they go on for a year or three.
It does get better, you have conversations at home, in the car, and just before going into the store.
My kids are all grown now. My Diva is 25, but I remember and I have sympathy for the parents going through it.
Reading through the blogs and reports, this wasn’t the first time Bree has told a parent to control her child.
Let’s hope she never visits a Chuck E. Cheese.
Comments from other Blogs
However, I could totally understand why she lost it on you. I mean, you did question her parenting skills, put your nose where it wasn’t supposed to be, and you told her to go to hell clearly on a day things were not going well for her. A day where she was probably trying her best to hold it together.
Us moms do have our limits you know.
But to tell her to go to hell? She was probably already there.
And one day you will be there to.
With your very own tantrum sitting in a stroller or cart spewing tears and screams. People will stare at you. Some will sympathize. Others will not.
And you will remember that day.
Mom rage: It’s real, people. Mind your business.
Hell hath no fury like a momma with a child melting down!
She admits this isn’t the first time she’s spoken to a parent about a loud child, although she’s never received a beatdown for her troubles before. Personally, I think this is a pretty strong message from the gods that she should keep her trap shut when a kid’s misbehaving, because while no one likes to be around someone else’s bratty behavior, there’s no reason to get involved. Who knows whether that child had a medical issue that contributed to the situation? Pay for your discounted Nordstrom gear and go home, lady. It’s a heck of a lot easier than losing a tooth because you can’t MYOB
The crying was “hurting your ears”? Please get over yourself. This chick deserved what she got. It was more her telling the mother with her child to “go to hell” that set the mother off, not being asked to keep him queit. Even before i had children if i saw an overwhelmed mother in line ahead of me i would attempt to distract or make the kid laugh, give the poor mom a chance to pull out her wallet and pay. This girl is the ass in the situation.
Offer a simple explanation then just go back to ur own business. A punch to the face for a simple request? Sounds like kids mom was already stressed and defensive about the situation, but srsly? There’s no reason to get violent.
I am sorry but the girl doesn’t deserve to catch a beat down because a mom has a fit-throwing toddler in a nice business establishment. Weve all been there at nice places and somebody elses kid ruins it and the parents just sit there like its fine. Maybe the girl was wrong to say something– particularily if the mom and kid were in line to leave– but the mom definitely wasnt right either….what does this teach her child?