Survived another Valentines Day

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February 14, a dark day for those who view it as just another day.   A dark day for that man or woman who forgets to buy flowers, chocolate or a “Kay diamond for their significant other.

A few years ago, a relatively new relationship ended because I didn’t call and wish Happy Valentine day.  Apparently the happy birthday greeting four days earlier wasn’t enough.

I’m a loving caring man passionate man who hates that day.   Why February 14th?  Why not October 5th or July 19th or any other day?

All over the world, there are men and women who buy flowers, diamonds,chocolates, and other gifts for their significant others just because.     However those tokens of love rendered meaningless by Valentines Day .

Non Participants of this manufactured holiday could face tears, anger and resentment.

For years. after being pressured by friends, staff and colleagues.  I bought last minute VD gifts.  I was one of those pathetic men standing in the Drug Store line buying one of those last remaining red trinkets.   One year, a sad rose with glued on sparkles.   I  remember looking back at the long line of men who knew there wouldn’t be peace .if he came home empty handed AND he knew what he bought at the drug store wouldn’t be enough

365 Out of Control

One man, took on extra shifts for years to buy his wife a luxury car on her birthday only to be locked out of the house a day after VD because she was the only person in her office who did not get a gift.

A few years ago I stopped participating in this manufactured holiday.  No longer will I be in line at a Walgreen’s Drug Store buying what ever is left on the shelves.

I’m not trying to start of movement as there are many men and women who look forward to February 14th and to you I say Mazel Tov.   However to those men and women who quietly resent that day in February.  Feel free to create your own day to express your love.  There are 365 days and on February 15th those heart shape boxed of candy are marked down.  Buy several boxes. Candy keeps.   Throughout the year, with every gift include one of those heart shaped boxes to remind your significant other love isn’t one day a year.





Published by CityFella

Big city fella, Born and Raised in the San Francisco Bay Area. Lived in New York (a part time New Yorker) for three years . I have lived in the Sacramento area since 1993. When I first moved here, I hated it. Initially found the city too conservative for my tastes. A great place to raise children however too few options for adults . The city has grown up, there is much to do here. The city suffers from low self esteem in my opinion, locals have few positive words to say about their hometown. visitors and transplants are amazed at what they find here. From, the grand old homes in Alkali Flats, and the huge trees in midtown, there are many surprises in Sacramento. Theater is alive is this area . And finally ,there is a nightlife... In.downtown midtown, for the young and not so young. My Criticism is with local government. There is a shortage of visionaries in city hall. Sacramento has long relied on the state, feds and real estate for revenue. Like many cities in America,Downtown Sacramento was the hub of activity in the area. as the population moved to the suburbs and retail followed. The city has spent millions to revive downtown. Today less than ten thousand people live downtown. No one at city hall could connect the dots. Population-Retail. Business says Sacramento is challenging and many corporations have chosen to set up operations outside the cities limits. There is vision in the burbs. Sacramento has bones, there are many good pieces here, leaders seem unable or unwilling to put those pieces together into. Rant aside, I love it here. From the trees to the rivers. But its the people here that move me. Sacramento is one of the most integrated cities in America. I find I'm welcome everywhere. The spices work in this city of nearly 500,000 and for the most part these spices blend well together. From Ukrainians to Hispanics and a sizable gay community, all the spices seem to work well here. I frequently travel and occasionally I will venture into a city with huge racial borders, where its unsafe to visit after certain hours. I haven't found it here. I cant imagine living in a community where there is one hue or one spice. I love the big trees, Temple Coffee House, the Alhambra Safeway, Zelda's Pizza, Bicyclist in Midtown, The Mother Lode Saloon, Crest Theater, and the Rivers. I could go on and I might. Sacramento is home.

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