I hate Valentines Day


With a passion!

And I’m NOT alone!   To be fair, I struggle with any and all days that prompt me or obligate me to act or to do something on a particular day, Including Christmas,    I have Turkey all year round and I’ve had duck on Thanksgiving.

Somewhere today someone is being pressured to do something for their significant other.   Somewhere tonight there will be tears and resentment,separation and possibly divorce,because of this day.   The other three hundred sixty four days is meaningless.

I am a romantic man. I rarely miss a birthday and throughout the years  I have bought flowers, gifts, (Diamonds) just because.

Throughout the years I have been pressured, by friends, colleagues to participate in this manufactured holiday.    I have stood in long lines on V-day, at a drug store with other sad sacks, buying whatever that was available so there would be some semblance of peace when I got home.

   For years, a friend worked overtime, he bought nothing for himself, to buy his wife a New Mercedes SUV for her birthday.   Three weeks later, she was outraged!  She said, she was the only woman in her section who did not get anything on V-Day!  The couple fought for a week.

For those who love V-day carry on.   For me participating on this day is disingenuous and I will not participate.  There are some who might say.  This day symbolizes love and a gift is merely an extension of that  love you have for the that special person in your life.

If V-Day, is the only day my love and affection has value?  Bye Felicia!

CityFella

 

 

Published by CityFella

Big city fella, Born and Raised in the San Francisco Bay Area. Lived in New York (a part time New Yorker) for three years . I have lived in the Sacramento area since 1993. When I first moved here, I hated it. Initially found the city too conservative for my tastes. A great place to raise children however too few options for adults . The city has grown up, there is much to do here. The city suffers from low self esteem in my opinion, locals have few positive words to say about their hometown. visitors and transplants are amazed at what they find here. From, the grand old homes in Alkali Flats, and the huge trees in midtown, there are many surprises in Sacramento. Theater is alive is this area . And finally ,there is a nightlife... In.downtown midtown, for the young and not so young. My Criticism is with local government. There is a shortage of visionaries in city hall. Sacramento has long relied on the state, feds and real estate for revenue. Like many cities in America,Downtown Sacramento was the hub of activity in the area. as the population moved to the suburbs and retail followed. The city has spent millions to revive downtown. Today less than ten thousand people live downtown. No one at city hall could connect the dots. Population-Retail. Business says Sacramento is challenging and many corporations have chosen to set up operations outside the cities limits. There is vision in the burbs. Sacramento has bones, there are many good pieces here, leaders seem unable or unwilling to put those pieces together into. Rant aside, I love it here. From the trees to the rivers. But its the people here that move me. Sacramento is one of the most integrated cities in America. I find I'm welcome everywhere. The spices work in this city of nearly 500,000 and for the most part these spices blend well together. From Ukrainians to Hispanics and a sizable gay community, all the spices seem to work well here. I frequently travel and occasionally I will venture into a city with huge racial borders, where its unsafe to visit after certain hours. I haven't found it here. I cant imagine living in a community where there is one hue or one spice. I love the big trees, Temple Coffee House, the Alhambra Safeway, Zelda's Pizza, Bicyclist in Midtown, The Mother Lode Saloon, Crest Theater, and the Rivers. I could go on and I might. Sacramento is home.

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