Believe the woman!
I am a supporter of the #meetoo movement. For hundreds of years men, have abused women, at home, school and in the work place simply because they could. I was one of those men who remained silent because speaking up could damage my upward mobility. Many women suffered in silence for those same reasons. Its not just an American issue, its a global issue. It is one of the reasons that I believe women should have a greater presence in government, because the root of the abuse is power.
Silence at the Boys Club
It is also why I believe those in powerful positions almost feel its is within their right to abuse women and others.
I recently learned that someone accused me of touching them in appropriately at a holiday party last year. The individual said I brushed her breasts and she was offended. I don’t remember the incident or the women. But apparently she knows me and has spoken to others about the event. Two women at a resent gathering defended me, they have known me for sometime and alerted me. If given the chance, I would apologize to her. I wish she would have said something when it happened as I would have bent over backwards to apologize.
Today, I’m troubled. I am powerless and will have to let it pass. If she was afraid to talk to me a year ago, its not likely she will speak to me today. I am not a high profile person, but known in some circles. I wonder how many people has she told and how many people believe her? It will pass.
There is a sudden turn, a brush as the two of you are reaching for the same dinner roll. Hands…..there is intent and accidents.
There are many men, especially men of color who are/were in prison,others killed because someone believed the woman. If the woman says she was uncomfortable, or harassed I strongly believe the matter should be investigated. While I support the movement, I’m not ready to give anyone a blank check . I wonder have we tilted too far in one direction. Believe the woman……. Consider the Man?