A week or so ago, some of the panel on “The View” were disturbed after seeing images of actress, model, television hotel, author and restaurateur Barbara Smith (B Smith to the world) who has Alzheimer’s. Other’s, notably host and friend of the couple Sunny Hostin who was angry that Dan Gasby has a girlfriend who lives part time with the couple.
Host, Sunny Hostins, grand father left her grandmother who had Alzheimer’s, she and her family cared for her grandmother.
Last December, Gasby announced on Facebook that he was “feeling great” with his new girlfriend, Alex Lerner,
writing “#WhyLie.” It became clear from social media posts that Lerner was occasionally staying at the couple’s home.
Since the posting, Gasby has faced a backlash from the public. Most were troubled by his relationship with his girlfriend. Beleving it was being disrespectful to his wife and their marriage for others, its his white girlfriend.
Mr Gasby, appeared deeply hurt on “The View” yesterday. He said that his wife is in remarkably good shape from the eyebrows down, but mentally. she is a toddler.
He talked how she would escape from their former home and freely get into any car with a black man thinking that man was him.
He said when his wife got the diagnosis in 2013, She told him, She wanted him to go on.
However, some of the co-host wondered how Gasby could know Smith was consenting to his extramarital relationship, and Lerner’s presence in their home. He said,“I’m not doing anything we didn’t discuss — we were in business, we were two sides of a coin.”
He said many wouldn’t understand how “extremely difficult” it is to “love someone, to have done what we’ve done and what we’ve accomplished together… to be criticized and not have a forum like I’m having today to have my side of the story told.”
One thing I know is consistent is I’ve listened to what she said. We made these plans a long time ago. What I’ve seen Alex deal with, my daughter, myself… makes me realize I’m doing the right thing. I’ve gotten grief no matter what I do.
“I wanted her to have the dignity of freedom. Sanity for me.” He insisted, “I’m keeping my vows. Vows are to protect, to care for.”
One thing Gasby brought up was the preparation for death and preparation to take care of you spouse should they fall ill. He said, in his will, there are do not resuscitate instructions.
I’m not, prepared for death and I imagine few are. Should I die today, my death would cause a lot of stress to my love one.. They don’t know where my insurance papers are , or burial plans. I hope to change this.
Its difficult being a caretaker, no matter what the illness is. I’m not sure how I feel about Gasby having a girlfriend. On one hand, he has someone to help him through this very difficult journey. On the other hand, it seems inappropriate. No one knows, what he and his wife discussed. The fact that his daughter seems to be on board with this, makes him believable. He has options, but he is honoring his vows “Till Death”