Trapped: Fast Love and Good Intentions

It was real love,true love, you didn’t know each other long, but it made sense to move in together.

After a few weeks, some realities being to settle in. Undiscussed realities begin to surface. Your love spent their very last dime to be with you. While you’ve talked of colors, dreams and positions. No one talked about employment background, or working history.

You leave for work, you love it there. Painful Silence, Casual Hints, Burning Resentments. You return from work, your love is there. Dishes in the sink,overflowing garbage cans. Then one day an explosion. Its not what you expected. Love turns into resentment and rage, perhaps it was too soon.  Your love tells you they’re not leaving.

A friend or family member falls on hard times. You allow them to move in with you until they get on their feet. After weeks, months, your starting to feel if your good intentions are being abused.


You learn after locks are changed and police are called, you learn you can’t just throw them out.

If they are receiving mail at your home, they are tenants. It doesn’t matter if they haven’t contribute one dime towards the household.  Your former love or friends and family would have to be legally evicted.

Which mean you will need to go the county courthouse and file eviction papers then wait for your day in court.  Or move, your not obligated to take them with you,

Of course, This would never happen to you. RIGHT!!!

While Its not romantic and can seem cold, you need to have several discussions before someone moves in with you.

First things, first.  Do not allow their mail to be  delivered to your home.  This establishes their tenancy.   They can buy a box,  get a P.O box.or they can foward their mail to nearest post office under General Delivery at no cost to them.   You and you alone should have the key to the mail box.  If their mail arrives at your door, write “return to sender address unknown” .      Get to know them, before issuing a key.  Some doors require a code for entry.

Once again, this would never happen to you Right?

In some metro areas, it could take six or more months to get your day in court.





Published by CityFella

Big city fella, Born and Raised in the San Francisco Bay Area. Lived in New York (a part time New Yorker) for three years . I have lived in the Sacramento area since 1993. When I first moved here, I hated it. Initially found the city too conservative for my tastes. A great place to raise children however too few options for adults . The city has grown up, there is much to do here. The city suffers from low self esteem in my opinion, locals have few positive words to say about their hometown. visitors and transplants are amazed at what they find here. From, the grand old homes in Alkali Flats, and the huge trees in midtown, there are many surprises in Sacramento. Theater is alive is this area . And finally ,there is a nightlife... In.downtown midtown, for the young and not so young. My Criticism is with local government. There is a shortage of visionaries in city hall. Sacramento has long relied on the state, feds and real estate for revenue. Like many cities in America,Downtown Sacramento was the hub of activity in the area. as the population moved to the suburbs and retail followed. The city has spent millions to revive downtown. Today less than ten thousand people live downtown. No one at city hall could connect the dots. Population-Retail. Business says Sacramento is challenging and many corporations have chosen to set up operations outside the cities limits. There is vision in the burbs. Sacramento has bones, there are many good pieces here, leaders seem unable or unwilling to put those pieces together into. Rant aside, I love it here. From the trees to the rivers. But its the people here that move me. Sacramento is one of the most integrated cities in America. I find I'm welcome everywhere. The spices work in this city of nearly 500,000 and for the most part these spices blend well together. From Ukrainians to Hispanics and a sizable gay community, all the spices seem to work well here. I frequently travel and occasionally I will venture into a city with huge racial borders, where its unsafe to visit after certain hours. I haven't found it here. I cant imagine living in a community where there is one hue or one spice. I love the big trees, Temple Coffee House, the Alhambra Safeway, Zelda's Pizza, Bicyclist in Midtown, The Mother Lode Saloon, Crest Theater, and the Rivers. I could go on and I might. Sacramento is home.

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