Trapped: Fast Love and Good Intentions

CityFella, , ,

It was real love,true love, you didn’t know each other long, but it made sense to move in together.

After a few weeks, some realities being to settle in. Undiscussed realities begin to surface. Your love spent their very last dime to be with you. While you’ve talked of colors, dreams and positions. No one talked about employment background, or working history.

You leave for work, you love it there. Painful Silence, Casual Hints, Burning Resentments. You return from work, your love is there. Dishes in the sink,overflowing garbage cans. Then one day an explosion. Its not what you expected. Love turns into resentment and rage, perhaps it was too soon.  Your love tells you they’re not leaving.

A friend or family member falls on hard times. You allow them to move in with you until they get on their feet. After weeks, months, your starting to feel if your good intentions are being abused.

A HARSH REALITY

You learn after locks are changed and police are called, you learn you can’t just throw them out.

If they are receiving mail at your home, they are tenants. It doesn’t matter if they haven’t contribute one dime towards the household.  Your former love or friends and family would have to be legally evicted.

Which mean you will need to go the county courthouse and file eviction papers then wait for your day in court.  Or move, your not obligated to take them with you,

Of course, This would never happen to you. RIGHT!!!

While Its not romantic and can seem cold, you need to have several discussions before someone moves in with you.

First things, first.  Do not allow their mail to be  delivered to your home.  This establishes their tenancy.   They can buy a box,  get a P.O box.or they can foward their mail to nearest post office under General Delivery at no cost to them.   You and you alone should have the key to the mail box.  If their mail arrives at your door, write “return to sender address unknown” .      Get to know them, before issuing a key.  Some doors require a code for entry.

Once again, this would never happen to you Right?

In some metro areas, it could take six or more months to get your day in court.

 

CityFella

 

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Moved to the Big Tomata in the nineties from San Francisco. No Suburbs for me with its single colored houses and lawns and the excitement of pulling out my trash can once a week. I'm a CityFella , a part time New Yorker. I'm happiest in the Center City where people the streets and people are alive. I'm still waiting to buy a 34th floor condo somewhere downtown/Midtown with a nightclub. "Hurry I'm old" My politics are somewhere in the middle with a needle that constantly moves. I'm too liberal to be a Republican and too conservative to be a Democrat. Everything interests me . I've come to love Sacratomato, Its a nice town in cheap sensible shoes .