Cell Phone at the Church: Not God’s Work


Pastor admitted taking upskirt photo of woman at Deltona church, report states

By: Jeff Weiner (For the Orlando Sentinel)

A now-former pastor at a  Deltona, Florida  church faces a voyeurism charge, accused of taking an upskirt photo of a woman in his office after a Sunday service, authorities said.

Brian “Rick” Kenyon Jr., 31, faces a felony charge of video voyeurism. He was booked into the Volusia County Branch Jail on Thursday, but was released that afternoon on $2,500 bail, officials said.

According to an arrest affidavit, the 41-year-old victim told Volusia County sheriff’s deputies the incident happened April 8 at the Deltona Church of Christ on Providence Boulevard.

The woman had watched Kenyon’s children for him during the service. Afterward, she went to his office to turn the kids over to him, but soon realized something was wrong, the affidavit said.

 

Kenyon seemed nervous and was avoiding eye contact, she said. Then, he asked her to put his youngest child in a car seat.

The woman, who was wearing a sundress, said she bent forward and knelt to secure the child in the seat, but then felt skin brush against her leg, causing her to turn around and yelled.

According to the affidavit, she saw Kenyon kneeling behind her, bent at the waist, with his hand near the bottom of her dress.

When he stood, she said she noticed he was holding his cell phone.

The woman told her husband what had happened, and later enlisted several members of the congregation to help confront Kenyon.

At a meeting, Kenyon denied taking a picture up the woman’s dress, the affidavit said, claiming he was trying to take a picture of his child but dropped the phone between the woman’s legs.

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He did admit having a “pornography problem,” the affidavit said.

However, at a second meeting April 19, Kenyon confessed to taking an upskirt picture of the woman, the affidavit said. He described it as a “dark moment” that came over him, investigators said.

He said he had deleted the photo, the affidavit states.

Church staff confirmed to a sheriff’s detective that Kenyon had been “removed” from the church, and was never in charge of youth programs or given unsupervised contact with chidlren.

Anyone with information is asked to call the Sheriff’s Office at 386-943-8276.

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I Can Sum Up Marriage In These 11 Texts I’ve Sent My Husband


By Susannah B. Lewis (Blogger):Your Tango.com
Our text messages say a lot about our marriage.

 

While scrolling through my phone and reading the text exchange between my husband and me, I see a love story.

No, I don’t see a bunch of Xs, Os and lovey-dovey emoticons.  But I do see mistakes, arguments, parenting advice and venting sessions . I see two people navigating this life together. I see a parenting partner .I see a best friend. I see a union that thrives on a healthy dose of sarcasm.

When I read our text messages, I see a real marriage   AND I laugh ….

 This may be the most truthful text message I’ve ever sent my husband, but honesty is key in a successful relationship.

11 LOL Texts That Completely Explain Marriage

 Not only does my husband go grocery shopping, but he always takes the time to carefully and considerately explain life’s greatest mysteries to me.

11 LOL Texts That Completely Explain Marriage

 Communication is the lifeline of any marriage. I want to personally thank the inventor of text messaging for keeping ours together.

11 LOL Texts That Completely Explain Marriage

Communication via text is wonderful, but sometimes we still need to pick up the phone for a personal exchange or just to hear our spouse’s voice. Oh, and to make sure they know when to do what they need to do.

11 LOL Texts That Completely Explain Marriage

It’s a common misconception that the little weak lady needs to first consult with the big strong man when handling business. My husband often reminds me that I can do things on my own. Thanks for nudging me towards independence, honey.

11 LOL Texts That Completely Explain Marriage

 Sure, he thinks I’m a beautiful and amazing woman, but I know the difference between a sincere compliment and an “I need sex” compliment. Even through text.

11 LOL Texts That Completely Explain Marriage

 It’s the story of our lives, isn’t it, ladies? They don’t hear a word we say if it doesn’t involve the words, “Get naked now.”

11 LOL Texts That Completely Explain Marriage

 Sometimes I think he messes things up on purpose so I won’t ask him to do them again. It’s actually pretty genius. That’s why I kept running the golf cart into bushes the last time he invited me to play 18.

11 LOL Texts That Completely Explain Marriage

 The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. And the way to mine is if I don’t have to cook.

11 LOL Texts That Completely Explain Marriage

 Firmly letting your better half know that he needs to back off is acceptable.

11 LOL Texts That Completely Explain Marriage

 This. You know you’ve got a good one when he tries to console you and then volunteers to be your PMS punching bag.

11 LOL Texts That Completely Explain Marriage

“A tweet is just a tweet” Someone you know is risking their career and reputation. Could it be you?


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This morning Roseanne tweeted

“Don’t feel sorry for me, guys!!”  “I just want to apologize to the hundreds of people,and wonderful writers (all liberal) and talented actors who lost their jobs on my show due to my stupid tweet.”.

“Guys I did something unforgivable so do not defend me,” she wrote. “It was 2 in the morning and I was ambien tweeting-it was memorial day too-i went 2 far & do not want it defended-it was egregious Indefensible. I made a mistake I wish I hadn’t but…don’t defend it please. ty.”

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“Overshare”

What ever happened to calling a friend?  Perhaps it’s a need for attention or public validation, but someone you know is or has posted something very personal on social media, placing her careers and reputation at risk.

I know of one person who has lost three jobs for venting about those jobs on social media.  A woman who lost her job  after up loading pictures of her simulating a sex act on social media.    ___________________________________________________________

 

What Your Facebook Use Reveals About Your Personality And Your Self-Esteem

https://www.forbes.com/sites/amymorin/2014/10/31/what-your-facebook-use-reveals-about-your-personality-and-your-self-esteem/#72f5825a321f

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Individuals posting detailed information about their troubled marriage, relationships with friends, family members, and colleagues for the world to comment .

One person, after being fired deleted his Facebook account and opened another with a different name, inviting his friends to join him on the new account.  After getting the new job old habits re-emerged. Complaints about clients and co-workers, in less than two weeks he was fired from the new job.

Postings of how many joints they had during the day, the uploading of videos of themselves being intoxicated.

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9 Things You Should Never Share on Social Media

https://www.makeuseof.com/tag/9-things-never-share-social-media/

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Why do some of us Overshare? 

Professor Russell W Belk of York University in Toronto says: The feedback of friends, family members, acquaintances, and strangers therefore provides continual criticism and validation.

“When we’re looking at the screen we’re not face-to-face with someone who can immediately respond to us, so it’s easier to let it all out—it’s almost like we’re invisible,” said Belk, of the so-called “disinhibition effect” that online sharing helps create. “The irony is that rather than just one person, there’s potentially thousands or hundreds of thousands of people receiving what we put out there.”

Still, something seems amiss when people feel it’s more important to express a desire on Facebook for the president to be assassinated than it is to, say, exercise tact or avoid losing your job. (Yes, she was fired.)

 

Another crucial ingredient encouraging online exhibitionism is, as stated by Belk, the “tension between privacy and potential celebrity.” For some people, the longing to be popular far outweighs the longing to be respected, and their social media accounts can verify this.

It’s A Free Country,What’s the big deal? 

Unlike a private conversation between friends. A posting on social media is memorialized.  What you’ve said to a certain extent is now a part of history.  Ideally the user should use the same level of caution then he or she would in an open conversation.

One can have an political opinion, an impression, when the opinion, impression crosses the line of civility the authors reputation and potential carreer could be damaged.   Students randomly tweeting and making racists or insentive videos have been tossed out of colleges all of the county, well after they attempted to delete the statement or  video.   Now apart of record, many of these students had difficultly finding a new college and that video may forever inpact their careers.

More and more employers are accessing your private social media to get a sense of who your are*    From her previous Tweets on social media ABC knew Roseanne was a risk. In the past she has been critical of the Obama Administration and has posted some controversial  theories and opinions online.   Before Roseanne2, she admitted that she had made people angry and said she would stay offline. She slipped, leaving ABC with little choice, to the cancel the show.

*Accessing one’s social media account isn’t difficult as few people vet new friends.

The Internet is public. Remember that. So even when you think you are posting something privately, once it is out into the Internet ether, it is out of your control and potentially can be used against you in the future. This is especially important in a job search. Even though a future employer (assuming they are not the government) may not be able to access your private posts, it is common to begin including coworkers as future friends. They will have access to your stuff. Keep it clean.

With that in mind, here is a list of things you should never post on social media:

Click the Link Below for the Full Story

https://collegegrad.com/blog/10-things-you-should-never-post-on-social-media

Mean spirited gossip, insults, pictures of careless drug and excess consumption of alcohol are red flags for employers.

Roseanne,Donald and You

For some of us, social media is an important part of our daily lives.  Throughout the day we are checking for texts, pictures, comments and likes.  For some nearly, all their social interaction is via an electronic device.  With one push of a button, you can interact with hundreds, millions, and receive acknowledgement from hundreds and millions more.  For some its intoxicating, and for others its an addiction.  These people   on social media, every day several times a day.  Some purposely post controversial topics to stimulate traffic on his page.       Is this you?    Can you refrain from texting or Social Media for 24 hours?

CityFella

 

Update:  Looks like Roseanne’s Twitter silence lasted a couple of hours. As she feels her co-stars threw her under the Bus.   Her tone seems a little less apologestic than this morning.   

 

Geezer Logic


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It sucks to be Mark Zuckerberg these days.  Facebook’s data breech, the Russians, fake News, his company has failed America.   His punishment is appearing in front of the Senate Commerce and Judiciary Committees.  He has to sit through hours of requests and questions and not appear to be condescending or superior to members of the Committee.   From individuals who know very little about Facebook and technology in general.  Hours of questioning and not laugh out loud. We have a few of their questions for your entertainment.

The average age of  members of the Senate  is “63”. Mark Zuckerberg is 33 (he could pass for 16)  like most men his age, he has been exposed to computing and technology his entire life.    While there are many honorable, intelligent men and women in the US Senate. Most of them have very limited knowledge of computing and get by with assistance of their staff .  Some cant turn their machines on or off without assistance .

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Facebook is fourteen years old

The median age of the current US Senators in office is 63.

(they were 49 years old when Facebook began)

Mark Zuckerberg’s Punishment

Senator Dianne Feinstein of California, Chuck Grassley of Iowa, Orin Hatch of Utah, Richard Shelby of Alabama,  Jim Inholf of Oklahoma,  Pat Roberts of Kansas, Barbara Mikulski of Maryland,  John McCain of Arizona are all in their eighties.   

Senator Hatch asked with Facebook being free, the Senator wanted to know how it made money?

Its Unlikely, these Senators can turn their PC.’s off without unplugging them 

17 Senator are in their Seventies

Senator Bill Nelson of Florida asked, “What if I didn’t want ads for chocolate?” 

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This silly question, took Zuckerberg by surprise. When  Vermont’s Senator Patrick Leahy asked ” These unverified divisive pages are on Facebook today *gestures to print out* are you able to confirm whether they are Russian-created groups?  Yes or No?”

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Zuckerberg wasn’t able to answer this question because.  He obviously isn’t familiar with every single piece of content currently on Facebook. The act of printing out a handful of specific Facebook pages and asking Zuckerberg to identify whether they are co-ordinated by Russians is simply silly, though it did lead to some clarity from Zuckerberg, who explained people running ad campaigns will now need to verify their identity on the site. 

38 Senators are in their Sixties

South Carolina Senator, Lindsay Graham asked “Is Twitter the same as what you do?”

Congressman Billy Long of Missouri, asked “What was Facemash and was it still up and running?”  Facemash was an early Zuckerberg project in which users compared two photos of women and picked which was hotter. But Zuckerberg started Facemash from his dorm room 15 years ago and Harvard shut it down within days.

Senator Roy Blunt of Missouri said, ” My son  Charlie (13) is dedicated to instagram so he’d want to be sure I mentioned him while I was hear with you. 

West Virginia Senator Shelley Moore Capito asked, “Would you bring fiber because we don’t have connectivity” 

Georgia Congressman Buddy Carter asked, “Did you know that the Motion Picture Association of America is having problems with piracy and this is challenging their existence?”

23 Senators are in their fifties 

13 Senators are in their forties 

Hawaii Senator, Brian Schatz asked “If I’m emailing within WhatzApp…Does that inform your advertisers?”  The senator didn’t know WhatzApp is a chat, not an email platform.  

Schatz follows up:  “Let’s say I’m emailing within WhatzApp , do I get a Black Panther banner ad?”   and then says “Come on my man, come on”

Senator Maria Cantwell of Washington asked, “Some people refer to ( Peter Thiel ‘s startup Palantir) as Stanford Analytica . Do you agree? ”   There are some who believe Cambridge Analyica’s data gathering was the brainchild of a Palantir employee, as recent media reports have said. There’s no particular reason to think Zuckerberg would know the answer to either of her questions, and he said he didn’t.

Tom Cotton from Arkansas at 39 is the youngest Senator.

 

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As in all the hearings. There are some Senator’s who are genuinely concerned and have staff who help them construct intelligent questions.  Then there are others, who simply wanna tell that little punk off for their constituents in HD.  The Challenge for the majority of the members in the senate is understanding  technology.

Disclosure:  I’m a baby boomer in my sixties.  Many of my contemporaries struggle with technology.  For some  are forced against every thing we know as holy to use these contraptions.  Work, Travel, and god help us if we are unemployed and looking for work.  Are you Linkedin? Shoot me an e-mail.   Boomers are the ones who cant get online at the hotel or airport.   Once weve finally mastered the process, they change it.  The young celebrate changes in technology. Boomers go into shock, like what the fuck now.?    

I’m sure their were some who considered suicide, after Microsoft dropped its long running and popular Windows XP operating system.   I know of a few men who continue to spend big bucks to keep old Betsy running.  Hanging on to a twelve year old  HP laptop, because it’s familiar and serve their needs. 

 I have twenty something friends who keep me fresh.  They’ve threaten to re-arrange the pills in my daily case should I ask a lame question.  With their help, I’ve embraced technology , you tube is my friend. I’ve used their videos to repair my pc’s .  Many of my younger friends don’t own PC or tablets, their smartphones meet their needs.   

Facebook is for old people.  Its time to leave any site where your parents can friend you.   The kids have been trying to wean me from Facebook.   Now that my newly retired seventy something brother has embraced Facebook, I may be leaving.   As he comments on my every post.  #Mommy # Ihatemyfblife .  He insist we read everything he reads.  #blockinghimsoon  The lets make this go Viral posts” requests are  not coming from the kids, its coming from their parents and great, great,great grandparents.   #yikes #killmenow 

Cityfella

 

 

 

Race and Harley Barber: She will be remembered for her Nigger rant


“Say it; forget it. Post it regret it.”

Social Media and the need to be noticed has ruined millions of lives.  Before social media we called a friend and ranted.  Today, I’m embarrassed for friends and family members who go online to vent and later get caught up in a storm when people disagree with their words.

In a need for attention, most people do not vet their friends online. To some, having  hundreds or thousands of freinds is prestigious.  To get 100 hundred likes on the picture they posted.   This has made it easier for employers and some unscupulous people to gain access to someones personal thoughts and actions .

A few years ago I was asked to check the backgrounds on prospective employers.  One particular man interviewed well he was one of the two men considered for the position.   I friended him on Facebook using a female name and using a picture I found on google.  With in a couple of hours I was one a many Fackbook freinds.

On his  timeline there were many pictures of females in swimsuites.   The  fifty something man, had several pictures of himself  kissing women ,some cases squeezing their breasts .  Needless to say he didn’t get the mid six figure job.

I’m far from perfect, as a divorced male, I have taken scary shirtless pictures  and posted  silly pictures social media.   Before I hit the enter button ,I think of how this picture would effect my children, wonder if I could I explain the picture to friends, or to an HR department.   I know once I hit enter my picture no longer belongs to me, it belongs to the Universe and those people who want to cut and paste it.

Monday January 15, 2018 (Martin Luther King Day)

 University of Alabama freshman and  Alpha Phi member Harley Barber  posted a couple video’s on  Instagram.  The first video was posted in the restroom of a  popular college bar. The second video was shot in the car of friends.  This is a edited version of the second video.

Ms Barber, like many on social media thought by creating a fake account only a few people would see it.   She and others should read up on the downfall on Anthony Weiner, who on two occasions thought he was sending picture to people who would NEVER share his photos.

Racist? Harley Barber vs President Donald Trump

A lot of people call her a racist based on her video.  I’m not so quick to make that leap.  No one has come forward and said they have heard Donald Trump call anyone nigger.   Yet we know he is racist.  Based on his actions (discrimination) and words.  He said a federal Judge couldn’t be partial because he was Mexican.  He has disparaged other races and religons and no one(so far  has come forward and said they have heard him say Nigger or negative word about another race.

While its been a long time, I remember being 17,18,19. and wanting to fit in.  She said “She didn’t care if was Martin Luther King Day, nigger, nigger, nigger.” “I’m in the south now bitch, so everyone can fuck off.”   What I hear is a lot of posturing.

Hold on!  I’m not giving her a pass! 

From what I’ve read, she trouble!  She was kicked out of Catholic School.  Her mother told the press ,she forced her daughter to move out last year because she is disrespectful. “ I made her move out in mid December 2016 due to her lack of respect for everyone and everything.”

So there she is in a new setting, finding her way.   In Marlton, New Jersey she may have had a bad bitch following.  However in  Tuscaloosa, Alabama she was just some freshman from somewhere New Jersey.   On Monday, she showed  her new friends (via Instagram) in Alabama she was a badass!    She could say nigger like them!

(Many people from the north and on the coast’s assume the south has racism on lock- I find they are just real about it.  On the coast’s one never knows) 

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That little itty bitty video, that she thought would be seen by her group of friends was leaked.  Perhaps by someone who was offended by her words.  A person who has a black nephew, or cousin or close friend.

The world has changed in the last 50 years. The color lines are blurred.  That old white guy in the Black Lives Matter march has a black grandson who he concerned about.

Because of my dark skin, people assume that all my family members look like me.  My family is black, white, Latin, and Asian.  My children are bi-racial.  A racist of any hue may find me cold and unresponsive to their hatred and generalizations.

My former wife worked for an office where the majority of her colleagues used racist terms including nigger    She is less vocal than I. However in her own quiet way she was more effective.    She took various pictures of  me and the children and selected picture of her extended  black family and placed them on her desk.  The racial slurrs ended in the office.

Harley Barber’s Future 

The University of Alabama expelled her.  The Alpha Phi’s dropped her like a hot glass.  I dobut few of her sorority sisters are reaching out to her because she is tainted.  While she lives in an upper income community in New Jersey.  New Jersey isn’t Montana, over 30% of the state populations is people of color.  Ms Barber rant has tainted relationships. Family friendships with people of color.   People they know are questioning the parents racism. Are they?

At nineteen she doesn’t fully get it.  She doesn’t understand why there is such a BIG deal. In her mind, all African Americans call each other nigga.   Many of her white freinds call each other nigga. That’s the way people speak!   But in the next few months/years she will feel the full effect of her words.

Should she apply to another unversity and that institution googles her name.   When she applies for a job and where there  are African American she will wonder if they have seen the video.   If she applys for any significant job, and they do a background check. She will be the girl who said fuck niggers.

She has closed down her social media.and deleted the videos and yet video lives on.

“Say it; forget it. Post it regret it.”

The Aftermath

Not sure how this video/recording was attained.  Harley is having a converstation with someone (who could have recorded this) and sharing her story …its very interesting.

 

 There are more than 250 copies or her video’s with more than 20 million views.   This is superstar terrority.

Once more in small type

“Say it; forget it. Post it regret it.”

Tell a friend

Cityfella

Australia Goes Krazy for California’s In and Out Burgers


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The Question is will go global before it goes National ?  Will the be an outlet in Dubai before Detroit ?   In the the last few years In and Out with its cult following has opened up Pop up Shops in London and a few other international cities with very favoralble results.  In Australia, In and Out has opened shops in Sydney, Melborne and Perth.

In and Out Following? In you live in Sacramento or any other city in Cali In and Out is common ,like “Jack in the Box”  A few years ago I picked up a freind at SFO who was visiting from Europe.  The first thing he said was take me to an “In and Out”.   I didn’t know where the nearest one was from the airport and before we left , he found one on his cell.  15 minutes later we were in line at a resturant.  No drive through for him.  He wanted the sit down experience!

Whats a Pop up Shop?

A “popup shop” is a short-term, temporary retail event that is “here today, gone tomorrow”. Popup retail is the temporary use of physical space to create a long term, lasting impression with potential customers.

Sorry Baby Boomers, these shops aren’t aimed at you.   Unless your an over achiver.  There is no adverstising,no radio spots.  POOF! Its on your cell via social media, like this madness in London.  Watch!

In and Out Burger opened a pop of shop in Perth, on Australia’s West Coast Monday.  Within hours the shop was sold out. 

Click Link Below for video’s and reviews from Perth Now

https://www.perthnow.com.au/lifestyle/food/perth-goes-crazy-for-us-fast-food-chain-in-n-out-burger-pop-up-ng-b88716154z

CityFella

 

 

Has the Internet make us cold?


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Is technology making us cold? It’s a question I’ve been struggling with for the past few weeks. It started after one of my former students, Stephon, whom I taught when he was in 10th grade, was murdered. Stephon was cool and silly, and he loved to poke fun at any and every situation. So of course everyone posted his image all over social media with loving captions and funny stories that all ended in #RIP, #FlyHigh and #GoneButNeverForgotten. This lasted about two days and then, well, it was over.

I bumped into some of his friends on the basketball court a few days later. I was dropping off some books at this east Baltimore high school and one the guys spotted me. “Hey, Mr. Watkins! What’s up?”

 

I walked over to the gate and they started telling me about what they’d been up to since the last time I saw them. We laughed for 15 or 20 minutes, and then I asked them if they were OK.

Click the link below for the rest of the story

 

https://www.salon.com/2017/12/16/has-the-internet-made-us-cold/