Ask the Rodfather: Real people DO cry!


STOP CRYING! MAN UP ! DON’T CRY, IT MAKES YOU LOOK WEAK! MEN, DON’T CRY! IF YOU DON’T STOP CRYING, I’M GOING TO GIVE YOU SOMETHING TO CRY ABOUT!  These wise tales, have damaged generations of people, particularly men.  Crying is a very natural emotion that has nothing to do with strength or character.  ForContinue reading “Ask the Rodfather: Real people DO cry!”

Apparently, I Am the Smelly Co-worker


  Photo: The Cut By: Alison Green\The Cut.com Dear Boss, A week ago, a manager in another department, who is also a friend, sat me down in her office and talked to me because, apparently, I am the smelly co-worker. She was very kind and I could tell that it was incredibly hard for her.Continue reading “Apparently, I Am the Smelly Co-worker”

Is leaving Sacramento and California for a lower cost home enough?


Anyone who lives on the West Coast knows there is a high cost for living here.  From Washington to California’s Mexican Border, the West Coast is pricey, this is also true of Canada. The medium price of a home in Vancouver, British Columbia ($1,360 million)  is considerably higher than Toronto, Ontario ($806,000) Canada’s largest city.Continue reading “Is leaving Sacramento and California for a lower cost home enough?”

The People of Las Vegas


Las Vegas is both stranger and more normal than you might imagine, and for some reason, people don’t think anyone lives there By Amanda Fortini/believermag.com   It’s February in Las Vegas, and because I have managed to step on my glasses and break them, as I do at least once a year, I have goneContinue reading “The People of Las Vegas”

Just Because Someone Else Is Beautiful, Doesn’t Mean You Aren’t


Photo: Google  By: Bev Aron/YourTango.com   This is going to change everything. “She’s so gorgeous,” I said to my daughter, referring to a woman I know. My daughter wrinkled her nose — “no she isn’t!” she protested. It turns out, I was responding to the woman’s vivacious spirit and sparkly eyes, whereas my daughter has a more analyticalContinue reading “Just Because Someone Else Is Beautiful, Doesn’t Mean You Aren’t”

See you at the next funeral


“Ain’t no drama, like family drama, cause family drama, don’t stop!“ Color me hopeful. My father died when I was six years old and my brother is nearly a generation older and didn’t appreciate my existence. There was one man in the family who took me under his wing, my Uncle. He would take meContinue reading “See you at the next funeral”

My I-Robot Tried to Escape


For years I’d wanted one, but they were $500-$600. A Robot to make my life easier. Yesss I imagined a world where I would return from work and all the floors would be vacuumed. The commercials were so appealing, as were the you tube videos.   I even considered getting a cat so he could goContinue reading “My I-Robot Tried to Escape”

Can Taking A Break Ever Work In Long-Term Relationships?


  By: Debby Gullery/ YourTango.com Like most things, it’s complicated. All long-term relationships and marriages have their challenges. People change. Circumstances change. Someone loses a job or gets sick, or the need for a big move comes up. Change is inevitable, and every change brings with it opportunities for growth along with challenges to face.Continue reading “Can Taking A Break Ever Work In Long-Term Relationships?”

What it means to raise a Black girl in white America


Photo: Google When we learned we were having a girl, my aggressive planning for my child’s upbringing had to change This essay is part of a series on fear and impending fatherhood. Read  I used to stare down the barrels of guns . Now I’m going to be a dad , and that’s scarier” andContinue reading “What it means to raise a Black girl in white America”

THE To-Do-List METHOD for PEOPLE WITH CRAZY LIVES AND SHORT ATTENTION SPANS


If you constantly feel like you have too much on your plate, give this trick a try. Lila MacLellen/Quartz Productivity science is generally unkind to standard to-do lists. We’re told that they feed the impulses of our faulty brains in all the wrong ways. They call our attention to tasks that are easy to quantifyContinue reading “THE To-Do-List METHOD for PEOPLE WITH CRAZY LIVES AND SHORT ATTENTION SPANS”