Race and Harley Barber: She will be remembered for her Nigger rant

“Say it; forget it. Post it regret it.”

Social Media and the need to be noticed has ruined millions of lives.  Before social media we called a friend and ranted.  Today, I’m embarrassed for friends and family members who go online to vent and later get caught up in a storm when people disagree with their words.

In a need for attention, most people do not vet their friends online. To some, having  hundreds or thousands of freinds is prestigious.  To get 100 hundred likes on the picture they posted.   This has made it easier for employers and some unscupulous people to gain access to someones personal thoughts and actions .

A few years ago I was asked to check the backgrounds on prospective employers.  One particular man interviewed well he was one of the two men considered for the position.   I friended him on Facebook using a female name and using a picture I found on google.  With in a couple of hours I was one a many Fackbook freinds.

On his  timeline there were many pictures of females in swimsuites.   The  fifty something man, had several pictures of himself  kissing women ,some cases squeezing their breasts .  Needless to say he didn’t get the mid six figure job.

I’m far from perfect, as a divorced male, I have taken scary shirtless pictures  and posted  silly pictures social media.   Before I hit the enter button ,I think of how this picture would effect my children, wonder if I could I explain the picture to friends, or to an HR department.   I know once I hit enter my picture no longer belongs to me, it belongs to the Universe and those people who want to cut and paste it.

Monday January 15, 2018 (Martin Luther King Day)

 University of Alabama freshman and  Alpha Phi member Harley Barber  posted a couple video’s on  Instagram.  The first video was posted in the restroom of a  popular college bar. The second video was shot in the car of friends.  This is a edited version of the second video.

Ms Barber, like many on social media thought by creating a fake account only a few people would see it.   She and others should read up on the downfall on Anthony Weiner, who on two occasions thought he was sending picture to people who would NEVER share his photos.

Racist? Harley Barber vs President Donald Trump

A lot of people call her a racist based on her video.  I’m not so quick to make that leap.  No one has come forward and said they have heard Donald Trump call anyone nigger.   Yet we know he is racist.  Based on his actions (discrimination) and words.  He said a federal Judge couldn’t be partial because he was Mexican.  He has disparaged other races and religons and no one(so far  has come forward and said they have heard him say Nigger or negative word about another race.

While its been a long time, I remember being 17,18,19. and wanting to fit in.  She said “She didn’t care if was Martin Luther King Day, nigger, nigger, nigger.” “I’m in the south now bitch, so everyone can fuck off.”   What I hear is a lot of posturing.

Hold on!  I’m not giving her a pass! 

From what I’ve read, she trouble!  She was kicked out of Catholic School.  Her mother told the press ,she forced her daughter to move out last year because she is disrespectful. “ I made her move out in mid December 2016 due to her lack of respect for everyone and everything.”

So there she is in a new setting, finding her way.   In Marlton, New Jersey she may have had a bad bitch following.  However in  Tuscaloosa, Alabama she was just some freshman from somewhere New Jersey.   On Monday, she showed  her new friends (via Instagram) in Alabama she was a badass!    She could say nigger like them!

(Many people from the north and on the coast’s assume the south has racism on lock- I find they are just real about it.  On the coast’s one never knows) 


That little itty bitty video, that she thought would be seen by her group of friends was leaked.  Perhaps by someone who was offended by her words.  A person who has a black nephew, or cousin or close friend.

The world has changed in the last 50 years. The color lines are blurred.  That old white guy in the Black Lives Matter march has a black grandson who he concerned about.

Because of my dark skin, people assume that all my family members look like me.  My family is black, white, Latin, and Asian.  My children are bi-racial.  A racist of any hue may find me cold and unresponsive to their hatred and generalizations.

My former wife worked for an office where the majority of her colleagues used racist terms including nigger    She is less vocal than I. However in her own quiet way she was more effective.    She took various pictures of  me and the children and selected picture of her extended  black family and placed them on her desk.  The racial slurrs ended in the office.

Harley Barber’s Future 

The University of Alabama expelled her.  The Alpha Phi’s dropped her like a hot glass.  I dobut few of her sorority sisters are reaching out to her because she is tainted.  While she lives in an upper income community in New Jersey.  New Jersey isn’t Montana, over 30% of the state populations is people of color.  Ms Barber rant has tainted relationships. Family friendships with people of color.   People they know are questioning the parents racism. Are they?

At nineteen she doesn’t fully get it.  She doesn’t understand why there is such a BIG deal. In her mind, all African Americans call each other nigga.   Many of her white freinds call each other nigga. That’s the way people speak!   But in the next few months/years she will feel the full effect of her words.

Should she apply to another unversity and that institution googles her name.   When she applies for a job and where there  are African American she will wonder if they have seen the video.   If she applys for any significant job, and they do a background check. She will be the girl who said fuck niggers.

She has closed down her social media.and deleted the videos and yet video lives on.

“Say it; forget it. Post it regret it.”

The Aftermath

Not sure how this video/recording was attained.  Harley is having a converstation with someone (who could have recorded this) and sharing her story …its very interesting.


 There are more than 250 copies or her video’s with more than 20 million views.   This is superstar terrority.

Once more in small type

“Say it; forget it. Post it regret it.”

Tell a friend



When America shopped at Sears J.C Penney’s and Macy’s at the Mall

There was a time in America when people lived just outside the Central City. The Central City was the hub for retail and entertainment.

Over time families left the Central  City for larger and less expensive homes in the suburbs and one by one,retail followed them.    I can clearly remember when J.C. Penney’s closed in downtown San Francisco.

The first large shopping center in the United States designed around the automobile is The Country Club Plaza in Kansas City, Missouri. opened in 1923.

In the early days developers built single anchor shopping centers  with one department store surrounded by several smaller stores and eateries on the edge of subdivisions.

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In America, Anchor stores are typically department stores. There are Regional Department stores and National Deparment Stores  (J.C Penney’s, Macy’s and Sears)  Capwell’s was a Regional Department Store located in the East San Francisco Bay Area. 

As more people moved to the suburbs the shopping center grew in size.  Intially there was some resistence from the national department stores to move into shopping centers as  tennant.  Shopping centers/malls pay a percentage lease, where rents are based on a percentage of the gross receipts of tenants.  Most of the single anchor shopping centers were anchored by Regional department stores.     Sears  built stand alone stores in  large neighborhoods and in the suburbs.    Other National Department store chains built stand alone stores along busy highways in the suburbs.

The Rise of the Regional Mall and The Fall of Downtown

A regional mall is, per the International Council of Shopping Centers, in the United States, a shopping mall which is designed to service a larger area than a conventional shopping mall. As such, it is typically larger with 400,000 sq ft (37,000 m2) to 800,000 sq ft (74,000 m2) gross leaable area with at least two anchor stores and offers a wider selection of stores. Given their wider service area, these malls tend to have higher-end stores that need a larger area in order for their services to be profitable but may have discount department stores. Regional malls are also found as tourist attractions in vacation areas.  (wiki)

By the early seventies Regional Malls were replacing single anchor opened air shopping centers.

These were mammoth complexes often a half a mile long.  Unlike the older shopping centers,these were placed next to major highways and interstates.  These super regional malls have three or more anchors.

The Regional Mall was responsible the death of retail in many American cities. The mall was sanitized for your shopping experience.   Unsavory individuals were escorted away by mall security in perfectly pressed shirts.   The Mall replicated the central city,  additional to  shopping, one could do their banking, drop of their laundry, mail their letters and get their shoes repaired. See a movie, skate, grab a fast meal or eat in a resturant.  Nearly everything  you can do in the Central City you could do in the climate controlled enviroment.

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SunValley Mall (1960’s) Concord, California(Google)

SunValley Mall was one of the first SuperRegional Malls in the San Francisco Bay Area.  In opened in 1967 with 1.3 million square feet of shopping.   It is nearly twelve times larger than the El Cerrito Plaza. 

While there are Regional Department Stores, nearly every mall had one or more of the Big Three, National Department Stores. J.C. Penney’s, Macy’s and Sears. Department Stores were complete back in the day.  In addition to the standard fare Appliances, Electronics, Radios, Records, there were beauty Salons and Restaurants inside the Department stores in the larger malls.  Sears and Penney’s would repair your car as you shopped.

For decades, Sears is where America shopped.  J.C. Penney’s was distant second.  Macy’s was the upscale store.

There were Sears stores in nearly every small and medium town.   If you lived to far from a Sears  retail store you shop at home with the Sears Catalog.  Where one could find anything from Baby Clothing to Tractors.   A stamp and a check and within weeks the items would be delivered to you home .  The Sears Christmas  Wish Book  was a must have.  Filled with toys, and Christmas Ideas

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While J.C Penney’s and a couple of Regional Department Stores offered Retail Catalogs.  Sears offered many specialty Catalogs. Today, Sears still have catologs and small stores throughout America .

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Marketers believed the public would drive if the prices were low enought.  In 1962 Wal Mart opened its first Store in Rogers. Arkansas.    The same year K-Mart opened its first store in Garden City, Michigan.   Target opened its first store on Roseville, Minnesota

The Rise of the Discounters

In the 70’s, Wal Mart broke the mold.  Many of their stores were built before the  subdivisions.  The land was cheap and there was no competing stores for many years.    They didn’t use the Regional Mall models and built on proposed large roads. Marketers believed the public would make the drive if the prices were low enough.

K-Mart, Wal Mart and Target had stripped away business from the Big 3.  By the mid eighties K-Mart, Wal-Mart and Target had surpassed everyone but Sears.

By the 90’s  Wal Mart, and Target were the number one and number two retailers in the nation.  K-Mart didnt with the times and they lost sales to Target and other discounters.  In 2002 , K-mart filed for Bankruptcy protection.  J.CPenney’s and Sears were closing stores all over America.

The discounters has changed the way America Shops.  Lured by lower prices many Americans where bypassing the Mall and heading to Wal-Mart and Target and other discounters. The Regional Department stores were hit particulay hard. Many stayed in the Central City.

Fresh from bankrupcty. Discounter K Mart set their eyes on Sears.   November 17, 2004, Kmart’s management announced its intention to purchase Sears for $11 billion.  The two chains formed Sears Holdings.       Critics of Sears,  say with rapid diversifcation, the retail side of the company suffered.   At its peak, there were more than 20 subsidiaries from Hardware and Travel Agencies, Home Care Store and Sears Rental Cars

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Between 1990 and 2008 more than 40 Regional department stores closed across America. As sign of changing times.     Regional chains like Mervyn’s in the West, Pizitz in Alabama, Zolkower Department Stores in Michigan, Emporium Capwell in California, Davidson’s in Atlanta, dissappeared.    Many of these stores were anchors in shopping malls across America.

In 1992 Macy’s filed Chapter 11.  At this time Macy’s owned I Magnin and Bullocks.  In 1992 Macy’s closed two thirds of the Magnin and Bullocks stores.

1994 saw a merger of Macys with the Federated Department store based in Cincinnati Ohio.   Weakened, many Regional chains merged with Federated Department Stores. In 95 Fedeated Merged with the Broadway Stores ( Emporium, Capwells and Weinstocks )  .  By 2001, they merged with  Hawaii based Liberty House stores .  In 2003, Federated close the large Davidsons chain based in Atlanta.      In 2005, Federated bought the May Department Store chain.  Meier and Frank in Oregon. Hects, Filene’s Davidson and many others.  One by one 330 stores became Macy’s stores    By 2007,  These regional stores had anchor stores also located in the same mall as Macys.  In 2007, Federated Deparment Stores the second largest chain in the nations was renamed “Macy’s Group”    Duplications in the mall resulted in closures. Some of these stores became Macy’s Men or Macy’s Furniture.

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At their peak Sears had more than 4000 stores ,it was where America shopped, by the end of this year there will be less than 1000 Sears and K-Mart stores.  There were more than 2200 stores bearing James Cash Penney in America and at its peak Rowland Hussy Macy’s had more than 1200 stores  by the end of 2018 there will be 600 Macy Stores in America.’

Off priced stores like T.J. Maxx, Ross and Marshells opened in older shopping centers and shopping centers where there was an existing discounter.     Not only did these stores chip away at Traditional Deparment stores they also han an effect on the national discounters .

In the mid 90’s few people had heard of Amazon and E-Bay. E-commerce was a notion in the late ninties. Many traditional brink and morter stores opened E-commerce departments however their focus was on tradiitonal sales.

Today, Amazon com is far an away the largest E-tailer its sales is larger then Sears, Macy’s and J.C Penneys combined.

More than 5000 stores closed in 2017.  The mighty Wal Mart is facing completion from the net and other discounters like Dollar Tree and Dollar General who plans to open 900 stores this year.  Wal Mart is opening fewer Supercenters and building smaller stores. The company just announced it will be closing 269 Wal-Mart and Sam Clubs by March.

In 2018, another 1000 stores will close, most of them in Malls

Dying mall Regency Square

The wall where this vending machine is was once the front door of a Macy’s 

Once an Macy’s, Sears, or J.C Penney’s closed their doors the mall can expect an 30% drop in foot traffic.   Within a year 30% store near the anchor  will close their doors.  If the anchor is in the heart of the mall the effect can be devastating.    Money magazine predicts more than 25% of America’s malls will close within the next five years.


Macy’s Sears and J.C Penneys: The Future


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Macy’s, Sears and J.C Penneys have a presence in nearly every mall in America. Buildings ranging in size from 76,000sf to over 250,000sf.  Real Estate holiding nearly impossibe to sell,  Macy’s with many stores in the Central City is in a better position to sell its holdings.

Survival means smaller stores and a strong Net presence.  The stores will need to appeal to a rapidly changing demographic.

Macy’s saw its holiday sales increase by 1.1 %    While Macy’s marketing is fresh there stores are stale.   Macys’ with real estate holdings central city is probably in the best position financially.

With the exception of its large flagship stores in New York and San Francisco. The company is closing their downtown stores. Most of its other downtown stores may be closed in the next five years . Macy’s plans to close 11 stores nationwide by Spring.

A Unique Experiment

To compete with off price stores like Ross and Nordstrom Rack.  They have opened a few BackStage Stores inside some ot the existing stores.  The are no sales figures available for BackStage.

The bright note for Macy’s ,is its E-sales, which is up 29%.  However the increases by its E-Sales could not stop the slide from its brick and morter stores.

Sears is bleeding in every direction.  Where Macy’s and J.C Penney’s saw small increases this year.  Sears sales has dropped by as much as 17% The stores did not change with the times.  Sears says it will close 39 stores by April.  Sears is still the place where America buys its Appliances, Tools, and Mattresses.  However, the rest of the retailer is a mess.   It wants to downsize,  It would like to open smaller Appliance stores. But unlike Macys it doesnt have extensice real estate to sell.  Unlike Penney’s there hasn’t been changes within the stores.    The once mighty retailer didn’t change with the times.  This is true of  K-mart. In 2018, Sears still have Catolog Stores in this Internet world.

Experts thought J.C Penneys was going to go to Department Store heaven by 2013.  A New CEO tried to resphape Penneys and retail.  The results were disasterous. He was replaced, and a new CEO was installed.   The stores have a bright and fresh look to them.   While the sales slippage has slowed, Penney’s still suffer with the same problems the plague the industry.   While Macy’s E-Sales department is very sucessful,  Penney’s E-sales are flat.    J.C Penneys downsizing started before Macy’s and Sears.  J.C Penney’s  opened more new stores  in the big box  format than Macy’s and Sears.

Two years ago, Perhaps in an attempt to get Sears Customers.  J.C Penney’s began selling Major Applianaces, the last time Penney’s sold appliances was 1983.  During the Holiday season J C Penney’s sales increased 3.4% the highest of the big three.   There are no planned closers for the first quarter of 2018,

J.C Penney’s, Macy’s and Sears are apart of the fabric of America.  All the stores are one hundred years old.  Generations of Americans have shopped at these stores.




Has the Internet make us cold?

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Is technology making us cold? It’s a question I’ve been struggling with for the past few weeks. It started after one of my former students, Stephon, whom I taught when he was in 10th grade, was murdered. Stephon was cool and silly, and he loved to poke fun at any and every situation. So of course everyone posted his image all over social media with loving captions and funny stories that all ended in #RIP, #FlyHigh and #GoneButNeverForgotten. This lasted about two days and then, well, it was over.

I bumped into some of his friends on the basketball court a few days later. I was dropping off some books at this east Baltimore high school and one the guys spotted me. “Hey, Mr. Watkins! What’s up?”


I walked over to the gate and they started telling me about what they’d been up to since the last time I saw them. We laughed for 15 or 20 minutes, and then I asked them if they were OK.

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John McCain: Honor at no extra charge

My mother said dont, send me flowers after I’m gone.  For months,I had planned to write about Senator John McCain a man I have admired since 2008.  Being the master procastinator I am, I’ve waitied until what could be his final days.

Perhaps service wasn’t an option for John Sidney McCain III.  His father,   John Sidney McCain jr and his grandfather John McCain Sr were Admirals.   Everyone knows of his heroic service, capture and torture by the Vietnamese.

I became a fan of John McCain in 2008 when he was running against Barack Obama.  After defeating Hillary Clintion in the primaries, I chose to support Obama.

I always loved politics.  Politicians generally play it safe, playing to audience where they have support.  John McCain got my full attention when he visited Memphis Tennessee to commemorate the death of Martin Luther King Jr.      Congressman McCain, voted against establishing a holiday for Dr King, saying it wasn’t nessarary to have another federal holiday, it was too expensive and other “President’s ‘ weren’t recoginized.  In fact, Arizona did not honor the holiday until in 1993.

So there he was in Memphis, courting black voters, having a press conference at the Lorraine Motel where Dr King was killed.   There he was in hostile territory being booed and heckled.  He said he was wrong for voting against the holiday.

Now some may say his trip to Memphis was a desperate attempt to woo black voters, others a photo opt.   But I don’t remember a single politician attending an  event where he knew, he would face an hostile audience.  John McCain did!

   I later learned he often stood alone. This was evident at a rally where one of his supporters said “I can’t trust Obama. I have read about him,  he’s an Arab.”  Most politicians would have been silent.   But the Gentleman from Arizona corrected her.  He said his opponate was a decent family man, a citizen that he just happen to have disagreements with on fundamental issues.   “He is a decent person and a person that you do not have to be scared of as President ,”  “If I didn’t think I’d be one heck of a better President I wouldn’t be running, and that’s the point. I admire Sen. Obama and his accomplishments, I will respect him. I want everyone to be respectful, and let’s make sure we are. Because that’s the way politics should be conducted in America.   

This wasn’t well received by members of his campaign committee and members of his party. In fact, he was bood by some of his supporters in the audience.

I began following the man who was often a thorn for some in his party.  A man who was well respected on both sides of the aisle.

The Senator, the Gentleman from Arizona, stood alone aganist his party as he was one of the few who challenged our current President.  His loyality to the people outweighed his loyalty to his party.    

Again, some might say its personal.  The candidate said he wasn’t a hero.  But those who know McCain, say’s it isn’t personal, its John McCain.

These are ugly times in the nation, our leaders have openly participated in dividing a nation.  It’s grade school , where if your his friend, he can’t be mine! Leaders of the parties have said you will NOT be seen socializing or talking to members of the other party.

John McCain(Republican) and former Vice President Joe Biden’s(Democrat) friendship has lasted nearly 40 years

A few months ago, he was diagnosed with an aggressive tumor called glioblastoma a brain tumor.   It was the same tumor that took Biden’s son Drew in 2015.

Biden appeared on ” The View” Wednesday.  McCain daughter Megan is one of the panelist.   Taking her hand he said “One of the things that gave Beau courage was John. You may remember, when you were a little kid, your dad took care of my Beau. Beau talked about your dad’s courage. Not about the illness, but about his courage.”

Vice President Biden,breifly talked about his best friend, the disagreements they’ve had through the years and how solid that friendship is today.

The days have been difficult for the McCain family. After the dianoses, others may have retired, but they aren’t John McCain.   Staffers senses he’s tired, but he smiles and tells jokes.

I have long admired mavericks, individuals who aren’t rubber stamps.  There aren’t enought of them.  It inst easy to stand alone and disagree.  It takes a lot of courage. There are few John McCains in the world.  I hope he survives for personal reasons.  America needs him RIGHT NOW!

I try not to live my life assuming.  Assuming that they know.   Using real words, I tell my family and those in my circle I care for them, I love them.   As my mother said, at the funeral its a bit late.  

This is simply a check list for me, all self serving.   I will never meet Senator McCain and he will never see this blog about him and how much I admire him as an invidudual.   All the best to him and his family.



4 out of 5 choosy Former Grand Wizards of the Klu Klux Klan choose Trump

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Crazy Right? 

He’s come unhinged again, but its not the Muslims or the Fake Fake Media or Obama’s birth certificate.   It’s Mikey Flynn and Russia! Russia! Russia!  Who is Mueller and Company gonna call next?  Its the great unknown and he has no control and the Prez is FREAKING OUT!!!    If only he could say, off with their heads!

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The Prez is playing directly to his ever shrinking base. Some Ultra Conservatives who believe immigrants are the downfall of America especially Muslims who are inherently evil and wants to kill Americans.  Anyone named “Obama” cant be an American?


Trumpy Hate’s Joe Scarborough

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If there is one name in news Prez Trump mentions over and over with so much venom its Joe Scarborough at MSNBC.   The truth is he wants the former and highly respected Congressman from Florida respect more than any other news personality.

The former conservative republican is highly respected by current and former politicians on both sides on the aisle.    He is less of a fan of his co-anchor and fiance Mika Brezinski who some consider a liberal democrat.

Yesterday the Prez in a tweet, floated a conspiracy theory surrounding the 2001 death of one of the congressional aides who worked for Joe Scarborough.

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Not Funny

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Most of the world has caught on to the Trump Show and his distractions. What makes some of us nervous is, what lengths will he take to distract us from Russia?





The Operating Hours of the Boys Club may change without notice

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If your over 50 and currently employed your nights are a bit restless.   The world you knew changed a few months ago.   Women are coming forward with memories that spanned decades.  Their memories are clear and often detailed.   So you wake up in a small panic, was I inappropriate?  EVER?

The face of 66 year old Minnesota Senator Al Franken best represents a lot of baby boomers.   Did I?  Are there others?  How do you defend a brush or a touch (not grab) that took place 30 years ago ?

As a manager, I can clearly remember two female employees telling me they did not  want to be touched or hugged. I respected their wishes and there was no retaliation. Women rarely came forward in my years in management.  Are there women out there who feel that I was inappropriate in the 90’s or 2000? and what it the appropriate response?

There were members of the Boys Club who abused their power.  Everyone knew who they were and while you may not have been comfortable as they boasted about conquests you remained silent .

Throughout the years if a female staffer had a complaint you took it seriously.  But that was before the fall of 2017.

The question for many is why now?   If there was a problem in 2010 why wasn’t addressed in 2010. 



It was sometime after the Anita Hill, Clarence Thomas hearings.  I was given a directive.  I was to personally spend the next few days speaking directly to employees about the company’s new sexual harassment policy.   There were no real directions, just a box of brochures and business cards.  This was the nineties, there were no smartphones or laptops.

My words brought confusion and concern.   Uttering those words “Sexual Harassment” resulted in many red faces. What do you mean sexual?    Is this from the union ?   No.  Should we contact the union?  You can if you like.   “If you ever feel uncomfortable for any reason by anyone you can call the number on the card 24 hours a day.

No one was quite sure what to do, one thing was clear, the company was serious.    Locations had five days to respond to any complaint and to forward all complaints to headquarters.  Failure to follow the new mandate would result in disciplinary action.

Before the mandate, there really wasn’t an official response to an individual who said he or she was being sexually harassed.  Quite often she was told someone would keep an eye out for her.   Yes, there were outdated guidelines from human resources  but the truth was no one was was equipped to respond to questions of sexual harassment.   It was my experience the victim wasn’t taken seriously.

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It has been a Boys club since the beginning of time.  The club had long resisted female members.   Once  you  became a member you quickly learned when to speak in the meeting and when to simply go along.

While you have never been inappropriate with a female, you know managers and professional who were.  In fact all the managers knew who the perpetrators were as many boasted about their actions.   As a member you may have participated in the banter as your male colleges have made comments about women who work for the company, you have laughed in the presence of female managers who seemed okay with the shenanigans, boys being boys.

A common question is why didn’t women speak up.  Why now?  

I was a black man wanting to move up.  I don’t speak for all black men or women.   When you a minority or a women the dance is very delicate as you move up the ladder.  Most clubs are filled with white men, with an occasional minority or woman. If your objective is an office upstairs, you played the game. You smiled when the boss or the majority of the room is being inappropriate.  Objecting could result in a delay in your ascension or halt it all together.

At a business dinner to honor our clients.    My boss loudly announced they were serving watermelon and which should make me happy!   Many of my colleagues  and clients were embarrassed.   Inside I was hurt and embarrassed, outside I was professional,”oh that guy”

I could have complained , could have sued the company, there were more than one hundred witnesses.   But it would have ended my career.   From that moment on, I would have been branded.   Nice guy, but!    Didn’t he sue? Didn’t he file a complaint?  I’ve been in those meetings,so I knew what the consequences were.

Women know this all too well.  They are outnumbered in the Boys clubs. So when one of the boys comments on the tits on the new girl in the mail room, they may smile uncomfortably or  look away.

Fall 2017

The abuse of power in the Boys Club is well known. Abuse comes in many forms, it is fueled by power.    From the fast food manager asking for  sexual favors in exchange for hours.   To department heads who s access to slush funds to pay for and elected members of our government who have made it very difficult for someone to complain.

The abuse by some of the members of the Boys Club was tolerated  if the member was generating income for the organization.   Beginning with the 100+millions in payouts from the Fox News Corporation followed by the  Weinstein scandal the stakeholders /shareholders declared there weren’t  any sacred cows.  NBC’s  Matt Lauer was being fired today.

Some members of the Boys Club are in shock.  The abuse of power is  so deeply ingrained in the culture.   After Donald Trump infamous Access America tape was released. some of his supporters dismissed it as being simply locker room talk.  His son, Eric, said it’s just what happens when men hang out together.  Its simply, Boys being Boys.

There are many men who believe while these actions against women were wrong.  They view the punishment to severe.

The Mee too movement is a beginning, however real change will not take place until the Boys Clubs becomes the Boys and Girls Club.  The institution has to change.

  There needs to be more than just one or two women setting policy.  One or two women in a sea of men.  This change needs to take place today.  The irons are hot!

















Gobble Gobble Gobble: Texas Congressman Joe Barton Say those are his giblets on social media but he may be a victim of revenge porn

Joe Barton, seen during a 2010 House committee hearing on the role of BP in the Deepwater Horizon Explosion and Oil Spill.


“Well Hello There” 


Elected in 1988 he is the most senior Representative in Texas, Dallas area constituents has seen a lot of Congressman Joe Barton in the last few days.   You don’t have to look hard, he’s everywhere on Social Media!  In the last few years he has sent several explicit pictures and messages to a women he was interested in .   Those pictures have made it on to the net.


 While separated from my second wife, prior to the divorce, I had sexual relationships with other mature adult women. Each was consensual. Those relationships have ended. I am sorry I did not use better judgment during those days. I am sorry that I let my constituents down.

Before the grand Reveal?

This women who he was involved with( years before his divorce from his second wife) has received  many explicit photos, videos and messages from him throughout the years


A woman whom the Washington Post did not identify told the newspaper of Barton’s threat over the sexually explicit photographs, videos and messages he had sent to her. The woman described sexual encounters and contact extending over five years, beginning with her posting a message on Barton’s Facebook page in 2011.

She also shared with the Post a secretly recorded telephone conversation with Barton in 2015 in which he warned her against using the material “in a way that would negatively affect my career”.


Texas Rep. Joe Barton may have been the victim of revenge porn, after an anonymous Twitter user posted explicit photos and texts of the longtime congressman.

In a statement Wednesday night, he said that he had suffered “a potential crime.” A Texas law, the so-called revenge pornography law, makes it a misdemeanor to intentionally publicize images or videos of someone’s genitals or sexual activity without consent.

 How many reports has there been on high profile or elected women sending pictures of their genitalia in the last five years? 




The 68 year old is up for reelection in 2018