‘I am an officer first and then a woman’


Meet Colonel Dr Alka Goswami, a Vishishth Seva Medal awardee, who has served in the Indian army for 36 years   Colonel Dr Alka Goswami What do you do when as a first-time young mother you have a premature baby that weighs just one kilogram and a work schedule that doesn’t take that into consideration?Continue reading “‘I am an officer first and then a woman’”

Sex: Why slower (and older) may be better


  Recently, my very own mother discovered romance anew and is having what can only be described as a love affair. Her last boyfriend passed away a couple of years ago, so I’m happy for her in all her giddiness. And while nobody likes to think about their parents having sex, I can’t help butContinue reading “Sex: Why slower (and older) may be better”

Gay US author Armistead Maupin outraged by Aussie restroom slur


A PROMINENT American author and gay rights activist has spoken of his anger after his partner was refused access to a toilet in an Australian restaurant after allegedly being told it was for the use of “real men” only. American author and gay rights activist Armistead Maupin says he is in shock after an AliceContinue reading “Gay US author Armistead Maupin outraged by Aussie restroom slur”

When a Friend Gets Divorced: The Male Perspective


Earlier this week, when I decided to entertain the topic of how married men process the fact a close friend is getting divorced, I thought of several films I’ve seen over the years featuring orphans. Stay with me. Have you ever watched an orphan movie? And I don’t mean the time you acted as aContinue reading “When a Friend Gets Divorced: The Male Perspective”

The Claim Game: A Man Won’t Claim A Woman He Doesn’t Want


There’s a big difference between actually being in a relationship and just thinking you’re in one. If there’s any confusion as to which one you’re in, chances are you’re experiencing the latter. But the real way to tell is if the other person is willing to claim you. Look at how Nelly denied ever dating singer Ashanti duringContinue reading “The Claim Game: A Man Won’t Claim A Woman He Doesn’t Want”

Channeling Lucy


Weekend in a small town visiting a close bud. A free deluxe room in a small town with a whirlpool… A large whirlpool….   I know there are Jacuzzis in heaven. I fill the whirlpool with water……    Arrange, remotes, Gatorade,  within fingers reach… Excited, I dive in the whirlpool….   Water being too hot, I dive out.Continue reading “Channeling Lucy”

HOTEL CONFIDENTIAL: It’s My Pleasure to Be Your Night Auditor


I also enjoy those imaginative little surpirzes you leave me in the stairwells. The unwrapped poopie diaper, the chucky vomit (which I find easier to clean than the puree type), and of course ,the night wouldn’t be complete if Ididn’t get to clean up a hallway full of chewed and spat out sunflower seed husks. My alltime favorite by far was the cleverly devised trail of partially sucked-on jelly beans during easter weekend that led me on a marry cleaning spree down two hallsways and up three flights of stairs ending at a colorful,sticky pile near your doorway. I wonder if you’d noticed your little dears were out on their own having such fun.