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White women like me, we need to talk (about not calling the police)


(CNN)   Did you hear about the white woman who called police in Memphis earlier this month because a black man who wanted to buy a house was trying to take a look at it first? What about the white people who called the police on black people simply for sleeping in their own dorm lounge at Yale, barbecuing at a park, shopping at Nordstrom Rack, waiting in a Starbucksor … the list goes tragically on and on.

Kristin Rowe-Finkbeiner

White women like me, we need to have a talk. Enough is enough and we need to make ourselves part of the solution. You. Me. The woman next to you in the grocery store line, at the bus stop or on the soccer field. The writing is on the wall. We’ve got to stand up and speak out because right now, we’re part of the problem.
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Wife catches husband having five-year ‘affair’ with prostitute, takes him back then charges £40 every time they have sex


The woman said she could accept it better if he’d “screwed a few here and there” (Image: Getty)
A wronged wife was forced to undergo a HIV test and was driven to self harm  after discovering her husband  of 30 YEARS had been having a five-year  affair  with one prostitute.

And after wringing the truth from her lawyer husband, the anonymous woman began charging her husband £40 every time they have sex – the same price he paid per session with the prostitute.

The woman is demanding codes of conduct are implicated at brothels masquerading under the guise of spas, to stop sex workers monopolising one punter.

She said had her husband “screwed a few here and there” she could accept it better.

“Why the same person?” she asked, when speaking to the Sunday Mercury.

“The fact that it was the same person, that really does bother me.

“That is the main betrayal.

“If he’d screwed a few here and there I could accept it better – it would still be devastating, but I could accept it better.”

The high-flying professional in her 50s, from the West Midlands, said her husband admitted his ‘affair’ with the prostitute began after he discovered poppers – a sex-enhancing drug.

The woman said her partner always slept with the same prostitute after discovering sex-enhancing drug poppers (Image: Getty Images)

And after finally discovering the truth, the humiliated wife had to undergo a HIV test.

To protect her children, the woman remains anonymous, but is referred to as ‘Sarah’.

“Thankfully, the test has been all clear,” sighs Sarah, speaking about the test.

“The nurse was looking at me and I said ‘This is not my fault’.

“She replied ‘I’m a nurse, I don’t judge’. I just repeated ‘This is not my fault’.”

From the outside, the pair’s marriage appeared solid, idyllic even.

Sarah was similarly content with her lot – until the shocking truth emerged last November.

The hard facts – and questions spawned by those facts – have tortured Sarah to the point of self-harm.

“It scares me that he could be so duplicitous,” she said.

“It’s awful to live with someone who has that much power over you.

“My mum said ‘I didn’t know he had it in him’. I’m no nearer to getting to the real truth.

“Why was it only her for five years? How many times did you meet?

“Did she undress you? Did you undress her?

“Was she in her slinky red or black underwear that you can buy for £2.99?”

Time and again, Sarah has mentally pieced together the scenarios. In her imagination, the meetings between her husband and the hooker darken with each passing day.

“I can imagine what she looks like,” Sarah says bitterly.

“Long, dark hair, brown eyes, she’s going to be very typical.

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Sarah now charges her husband £40 every time they sleep together (Image: Getty)

“I have children, I am half-a-stone above my ideal weight, but I still look bloody good in a Liverpool shirt.”

“I know my worth,” she spits out defiantly.

“I know of all the women he could’ve chosen, I was the golden standard.

“A good woman is worth more than rubies, the Bible said, because she will keep herself just for him. I have invested so much in our marriage.”

Sarah first confronted her husband in 2013 after dialing a number on her husband’s phone and being put through to a Birmingham massage parlour.

“I confronted him, and he said he went there, but didn’t do anything,” says Sarah, shaking her head.

“Lies, lies, lies, but I believed him.”

Darker discoveries were to follow. In 2015, Sarah found a handful of poppers in an office drawer.

“I said ‘What are these?’” she says.

“He was literally crying. I said either you are gay or there is another woman.

The woman now charges her husband for sex – £40 a go, the same as he paid for the prostitute (Image: Getty)

“I saw those things disappear and return. He didn’t give any information.

“There was a number on his phone and it was the Romanian. I rang her and said ‘You are a prostitute, aren’t you?’ and got abuse.

“I said ‘Keep away from my husband!’ and deleted the number.”

Bruised and sickened, Sarah was prepared to forgive, if not forget.

But that number was again discovered on the phone late last year. This time, the cast-iron evidence drew a confession – and another call to the other woman.

“He said it was just the poppers, just the chemicals,” says Sarah.

“He just didn’t get it.

“I told her ‘He has to pay you. I do it for free, and I do it because I love him.”

Not anymore. In a show of strength, Sarah has told her husband that sex between the two of them now comes with a starting price of £40.

“I hate the girl,” she snaps angrily.

“I hate what she’s done, not just to me, but to anyone else. Is she aware, or does she care, that our world has fallen apart?

The wronged wife now wants brothels to have codes of conduct

Sarah says her husband has attempted to heal the wounds he’s caused, and knows he ricked everything for a cheap, if regular, thrill.

“His brain has blocked everything,” says Sarah. “He says he is not that person anymore. He says he’s fallen in love with me again.

“He spends more time with me. All I do is hurt him. It is unreal, totally unreal.

“I’ve told him I’m not prepared to take on his guilt – and I’m very good at dealing with other people’s rubbish. That’s what I do on a daily basis in my job.

“It is the lack of trust that’s left. I can’t trust him – and he is the one person I should be able to trust completely.

“If he goes out of the house, I feel anxious. He has done that to me and I’m supposed to be the most important person in his life, the person he should be able to trust implicity.

“Forgiveness is a sticky thing. Some people say you should forgive all of it and start again.

“The lesser part, I have forgiven, but the ramifications of the infidelity are so much greater.

“He denies he had a relationship – so what was it?”

Sarah has a simple message for those who believe their partners are unfaithful.

“You need to listen to that inner voice, it was certainly nagging me all the time,” she says.

She believes her story underlines the reason why more should be done to stem the steady stream of massage parlors offering extra services.

“I think the local authorities turn a blind eye,” she adds.
“How do we know who and what are in these places?  “There needs to be a department dedicated to ensuring these places are run properly.”

Portrait of a Hypocrite: An Outspoken Supporter of the #MeToo Movement failed to Protect her female aid from her male Chief of Staff


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“For too long, the culture in Washington has accepted entirely unacceptable behavior,” . “That needs to change — period.” (Novemeber 2017) Elizabeth Esty

 

“You better fucking  reply to me or I will fucking kill you,” Tony Baker (Esty Chief of Staff) said in the May 5, 2016, recording left for Anna Kain, a former Esty aide Baker had once dated.

According to e-mail optained by the Washington Post, the Congresswomen found out about the episode within a week.  She also spoke to Kain on May 11, emails show; Kain said she provided detailed allegations that Baker had punched, berated and sexually harassed her in Esty’s Capitol Hill office throughout 2014, while she worked as Esty’s senior adviser.

Kain and Baker met in Esty’s office following her 2012 election. They dated casually in 2013 before being promoted to senior adviser and chief of staff, respectively, in early 2014.

Baker did not leave for three months. By his last day on Aug. 12, according to documents Esty provided to The Post, he and Esty had co-written a positive recommendation letter he could use in a job search and signed a legal document preventing her from disparaging him or discussing why he left. Baker went on to work for Sandy Hook Promise, the gun-control group created after the 2012 shooting in Esty’s district. He was dismissed from the group this week after The Post contacted him.

Tony Baker received five thousand dollars in severance pay.

According to Kain’s petition for a restraining order, Baker punched her in the back and “repeatedly screamed” at her in Esty’s office while threatening to retaliate professionally if she reported his behavior. She did not tell Esty or the House Ethics Committee out of fear for her safety, her petition stated.

Kain told The Post that she was so anxious about imperiling her boss’s chance of reelection that she removed her cellphone from the House’s WiFi network so that she could privately look up how to report misconduct to the Ethics Committee.

“I was 24 and doing a job that I believed in for an institution I was proud to be a part of,” Kain said Thursday in an interview. “But I was being severely abused and had nowhere to turn. Nobody talked about things like this. I was suffering and thought it was weakness.”

On May 5, 2016, Baker called Kain approximately 50 times and said he would “find her” and “kill her,” she alleged in the petition.

Ricci disputed that Baker punched Kain but did not challenge her other allegations. He said that Baker was too intoxicated at the time to remember leaving the message and that he offered to resign after Esty learned what had happened. The congresswoman said Baker never offered his resignation.

Baker was barred from working out of Esty’s Capitol Hill office starting on July 24, 2016, according to the separation agreement, which required Esty to serve as a reference in his job search outside of Washington. A draft letter of recommendation from Esty that was attached to the agreement praised his “considerable skills.”

Baker accompanied the congresswoman to the Democratic National Convention in Philadelphia from July 25 to 28 before sending a departing email to colleagues on Aug. 12.

A spokeswoman for Sandy Hook Promise declined to comment on Baker’s departure this week.

In retrospect, Esty said she dealt with the situation poorly. She said she plans to reimburse the U.S. Treasury for what she described as the roughly $5,000 Baker received in severance. She also plans to improve how she runs her office.

“What I did was not good enough and it didn’t protect [my staff] enough,” Esty said Monday in an interview at her home in Cheshire, Conn. “ . . . I’m hopeful now with this conversation and this coming out that I’ll be able to be much more direct and help other people in Congress understand the risks they are placing their staff at when they don’t think they are.”

Esty said she plans to advocate for greater accountability in how congressional offices are managed.

 

Sex under the Capitol Dome: State Senator Tony Mendoza resigns


 

 

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The Me Too\We Said Enough movement is rocking the Golden Dome of California’s State Capitol. Last October a letter circulated by lobbyists, female lawmakers and legislative staff members and some political consultants cited a pervasive culture of harassment in the capitol.  Sexual harassment is common and sexual assaults have taken place in the Capitol.

While some staffers have come forward, many are still afraid to name to harassers as others experienced retaliation after filing formal complaints with the Legislature. 

Unlike state employees and your employer, legislative workers have no civil service protection.

Bills to provide them with whistle blower protection against retaliation has died in the Legislature four years in a row.

Under a new process instituted this year, the Assembly Rules Committee refers complaints deemed valid to an independent law firm — legislators say they believe that will speed the process of assisting victims.

Ten allegations of sexual harassment are pending before the Assembly, according to Speaker Anthony Rendon’s office.

A wave in the dome is in motion and slowly building strength.

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In November, Los Angeles Assemblyman Raul Bocanegra resigned after six women came forward with stories of aggressive attacks by Bocanegra dating back nearly 10 years.  In 2009, Bocanegra  had been disciplined by the Legislature following allegations that he had groped a fellow legislative staffer. In 2010, he forcibly kissed and groped a woman at the MIX Nightclub in Sacramento. http://www.latimes.com/politics/la-pol-ca-bocanegra-accusation-harassment-20171120-story.html

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A week later, Assemblyman Matt Dababneh representing Woodland Hills resigned. After Sacramento lobbyist Pamela Lopez came forward.   Lopez claimed in 2016, Democratic Assemblyman Matt Dababneh followed her into a bathroom in Las Vegas, masturbated in front of her and urged her to touch him.

Another woman, Jessica Yas Barker, alleged that Dababneh routinely spoke of his sexual exploits and made disparaging comments about women while she worked as his subordinate office from June 2009 until December 2010.  Dababneh said, both allegations are false.

In an interview Dababneh said,”My stepping down isn’t out of guilt or out of fear. It’s out of an idea that I think it’s time for me to move on to new opportunities”

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Allegations are growing for Assemblywoman Cristina Garcia from Bell Gardens.  Garcia is one of the faces of the #MeToo movement in government.  Garcia, who is currently on a voluntary unpaid leave of absence as the Assembly investigate the charges.

In 2014, Daniel Fierro told POLITICO as a 25-year-old staffer to Assemblyman Ian Calderon, he was groped by Garcia. He said she cornered him alone after the annual Assembly softball game in Sacramento as he attempted to clean up the dugout. Fierro, who said Garcia appeared inebriated, said she began stroking his back, then squeezed his buttocks and attempted to touch his crotch before he extricated himself and quickly left.

Fierro is not the only one claiming improper advances by Garcia. A prominent Sacramento lobbyist says she also accosted him in May 2017, when she cornered him, made a graphic sexual proposal, and tried to grab his crotch at a political fundraiser. He spoke to POLITICO on the condition of anonymity out of fear of reprisals.

The lobbyist, who represents a major industry association, said that Garcia appeared to have been drinking heavily at a fundraiser hosted by Governor Jerry Brown for state Senator Josh Newman at the de Veres bar in Sacramento. He said he was heading out the door in part to avoid the assemblywoman — who had been increasingly “flirtatious” and had called him on a few occasions before for late night drinks which he repeatedly declined.  She spotted him and said,“Where are you going?” the lobbyist said.

“She came back and was whispering real close and I could smell the booze and see she was pretty far gone,’’ he said. “She looked at me for a second and said, “I’ve set a goal for myself to fuck you.”

At that point, Garcia “stepped in front of me and reaches out and is grabbing for my crotch,’’ he said. That was “the line in the sand,” according to the lobbyist, and he stopped her. “I was four inches from her, eyeball to eyeball — and I said, ‘That ain’t gonna happen.’”

But his account of the groping incident was corroborated by another high profile political operative in Sacramento, who declined to be named for publication. She said at the time the lobbyist was both angered and “humiliated” by the encounter, and disturbed that his sexual rejection of Garcia could have implications for his industry.

Both she — and the lobbyist — believe it may already have.

The Cristina Garcia sexual-harassment scandal expanded when J. David Kernick then a field representative to Garcia,  engaged in a night of heavy drinking and urged about a half-dozen staffers to play spin the bottle, the game in which players end up kissing.

Garcia “was seemingly not critical of [Kernick’s] work until after he questioned the appropriateness of her suggestion that after a fundraiser at a whiskey bar that [he] sit on the floor of her hotel room and play spin the bottle,”

In  his complaint to the State Fair Housing and Employment. Kernick said that after “protesting this sexual harassment,” he was written up for insubordination and fired. Kernick said the write-up prevented him from finding another job in politics.

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Yesterday, Democratic State Senator Tony Mendoza representing Los Angeles resigned hours before a possible vote to expel him .

Senator Mendoza’s has denied the accusations made by six women and said the investigation was unfair, illegal and racially motivated.  He say’s he intends to sue.

The Attorneys conducting the investigation concluded that Senator Mendoza “more likely than not” engaged in behavior such as offering a 19-year-old intern alcohol in a hotel suite at a Democratic event, suggesting a young woman in a Senate fellowship take a vacation with him and rent a room in his house, and asking several women about their romantic lives.

The investigation found that Mendoza likely engaged in unwanted “flirtatious or sexually suggestive” behavior with six women, including four subordinates, a lobbyist and a young woman in a fellowship with another lawmaker.

He is the third California lawmaker to resign over sexual misconduct allegations since the #MeToo movement erupted nationally last fall, leading millions of women to share their experiences on social media.

The events surrounding the 46 year old married Senator sounds more like “Dynasty” than the Real Housewives.   

Three of Mendoza’s aids were fired after meeting with  the Senate Rules Committee staff and detailed allegations that Mendoza engaged in a pattern of inappropriate behavior with his district director Ava Perez.
Multiple sources told The Sacramento Bee that Mendoza,  invited the young woman back to his place to review resumes, including hers, on the night of a party at the Mix Nightclub Downtown. The woman, Ana Perez worked as a fellow in his office through a prestigious Sacramento State program that places graduates in legislative offices for 11 months
At least two of his aides complained about the way Mendoza’s district director, Perez treated them. One questioned why she was even working for the Senate given her felony record for lying to a grand jury to cover up campaign finance fraud in Commerce, sources said.
Mendoza has repeatedly denied firing the aids for complaining.  As for Perez and her criminal background, he believes in second chances.  As for the outstead aids, they are silenced by confidentially agreements.  Its not uncommon for aids to sign such agreements.

I’m leaving, but not QUIETLY!

In a Richard Nixon-esk exit.   Mendoza went after the leader of the Senate and former roomate  Kevin de Leon in his resignation letter.

“Its clean that de Leon will not rest until he has my head on a platter to convince the MeeToo movement of his sincerity in supporting the cause.

He wrote, that he wasn’t able to see the evidence against him and was ordered to remain silent about the allegations. He said he couldn’t get a fair hearing with so many of his fellow Democrats running for higher office and thinking about their own political futures.   He called the Senate’s process farcical and  “more likely than not” was a low standard of proof that didn’t merit a penalty as high as expulsion.
He said, he might run for his seat in the fall

 

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Women of Value


I arrived at the end of a fight in the parking lot of a discount store. The woman I was standing next to was a friend or a sister who was angry with the woman with the blood stain on her shoulder and the large hole in her top.

The friend or sister is standing with her arms folded angry, talking to herself. I cant believe it!  she took off her job to fight this women or should I say all the women her man has fucked.  It don’t make no sense!   

For more than four decades, a wife lived across the street from the woman who was having an affair with her husband.   To perhaps soften the blow.  The wife held lavish parties inviting children, grand children and great grand children. There were glossy pictures all over their home. In public she often said, my husband, Peter did this for me.  But everyone knew, all her friends and all the children knew of the affair.  The wife knew where he was, whenever his car was in the driveway.   He was with the love of his life.

As a male I have never understood why some women allow this form of treatment. Its clear the man she has chosen doesn’t respect or value her.  But where is her self worth her value?  Some women have told me the other woman is a safer target.  Other’s believe there is an ownership and another women should respect the relationship. Some say its for the children, I struggle with this, because not only has he disrespected his wife, he has disrespected the entire family.  They have less of him and the message to the children is this is normal behavior.   

I knew of these women, as a teenager, I used to drive one of these women around in my car.  She wasn’t looking for her cheating husband ,the man she took vows with.  The goal was ultimate humiliation.  She was willing to publicly humiliate herself and the other woman at place of employment.   There wasn’t an end game, just humiliation as their was no guarantee that the planned event would end the affair.    At one point, she took a lover,   (you can’t beat um join um) after all he had been unfaithful for more than three years.  When he learned she had a lover, he left the family.  Not with the women he was having an affair with, but another women.  It seems he was cheating on the side chick too.       

    You rarely find a male, fighting with another man over his cheating partner.  Rarely see two men fighting in a Wal Mart parking lot over a cheating spouse.

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2017 was going to be different ,she told herself.  She planned to pull out all the stops and produce more than anyone in the department.  She WAS going to be noticed next year.    She’s been with the company five years. She knows all of her male colleagues earn more than she does.   Her salary review last year, went no where.  She read books to help her be more assertive and convinced herself there were other companies willing to pay her more should her currently employer didn’t meet her wage demands.

From the moment the door opened her confidence disappeared.   When they said, they where pleased with her work,she felt the tears.  (Pleased?) What kinda shit is this? She thought to herself.    She knew she produced more than everyone in her department and it wasn’t noticed.   When they offered her a six percent raise she didn’t speak.     She shook her head when the offered seven, because she thought they may change their minds. Weeks later she learned that one of her colleagues received a twelve percent raise.  Humiliated, the  next day she called in sick.

“We teach people how to treat us”

Men scream about their accomplishments, women whisper.  A male employee may pound on desk, and argue why they deserve a raise .Some women are afraid.  Like many women my friend hoped that she would be fairly judged based on her accomplishments and the quality of her work.   She agreed to  a 7% raise when she wanted a 15% raise.  She wasn’t comfortable asking for what she wanted.   She brought all the necessaries to the review, she had the stats, she knew what she brought to the company.  But she was uncomfortable.saying it. So she took what she that was their final offer.

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A lifetime doesn’t change overnight.   Women have told me they were raised to be second place.  Their mothers, aunt’s have told them to do what ever it takes to make the marriage work .  One day he will get tired of beating on you . If he cheats on your, just remember you have the paper. 

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It was important that black people get elected to office , to vote in major blocks, to have a seat at the table.   Men are in control all most places in the world.  It important they remain  in control. Until the power is shared, womens issues will always come second.

Women, have been under attack for many years, because they do not have enough seats at the table to make a significant difference.  Every year, more women are under attack, health care, reproductive rights, childcare and this will not change until there are more women voices, more places at the table and It doesn’t matter which party belong to.  

Women of Value   

 The women in my life aren’t second to anyone.  Sometimes in life we choose the wrong person, someone who isn’t worthy of our loyalty or devotion. Its not a critical error, it was a mistake .  Hopefully we will learn and make better choices in the future. 

I believe if you have committed yourself, you should do your absolute best to make it.   If its broken try to fix it.  Using your words, ask for what you want.  Its unlikely you’ll get everything. Its a step forward in your relationship or your profession,  its a victory.   

These are my opinions, of course these do not apply to every man or everywomen.  I’m not a psychologist, or sociologist.  I am simply a dad ,brother, uncle, and a friend who wants a better world for his daughters, nieces and friends and their daughters.  A world  where they stand beside their male counterparts and not behind.

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Wife spills all the tea after 62 yo Hubby ditched her for 19 year old


John Copsey has ditched his wife Jacqui, 63, for 19-year-old Daisy Tomlinson (pictured, the pair together)
John Copsey was once the Conservative mayor of Bridlington, UK .  After over 30 years of marriage to his wife Jacqui he left her for his 19 year old mistress.  The two share a flat and he tells friends its the real thing and he wants to get married. 
The current Mrs Copsey said the saga has been a nightmare and that she feels they are a laughing stock and she spills the tea to the Daily Mail.
Daisy Tomlinson is 43 years younger than former mayor John Copsey.

 

John and Jacqui Copsey had been through a lot together. Their connection weathered jealously, divorce, children, an election and even a brain tumor. While it seemed like the couple who had drifted apart and found each other later in life were built to last, all it took was a pretty 19-year-old girl to tear them apart.

Charismatic, outgoing and larger than life, the electrical engineer with a passion for local politics was a popular choice in the East Yorkshire seaside town.

And John, looking distinguished in his mayoral robes and chains, took to civic duty like a duck to water. He never missed an official function, even though Jacqui, 63, was often too ill to join him as mayoress after treatment for a brain tumour.

A tireless charity-fundraiser, John, 62, let people try on his mayoral chains for a £1 donation to the local air ambulance and was a natural in front of the cameras.

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He and Jacqui, who first got together 38 years ago, were respected VIPs and regulars at the local yacht club and have a 34-year-old son who is first officer on luxury boat charters.

Jacqui was so proud of John. But not any more: today, she is devastated, humiliated and betrayed.

The whole town was scandalized when it emerged the former mayor had ‘ditched’ Jacqui for 19-year-old agricultural student Daisy Tomlinson — a young woman 43 years his junior.

It’s one thing to have to deal with your husband trading you in for a younger model, but another thing altogether when it’s for someone who’s young enough to be your granddaughter.

Splashed all over the papers were photographs of the new couple out and about, hand-in-hand, looking less — it must be said — like lovebirds than a teenager taking her doddery grandad out for the day.

‘I think he’s gone completely nuts,’ says Jacqui, still in shock by the sudden and tawdry end to her partnership with John.

‘He must have gone mad, because I can’t find any other way to explain it. He’s too old for a mid-life crisis.’

For Jacqui, the whole saga has been nothing short of a ‘nightmare’. She says she feels like a ‘laughing stock’ every time she leaves the house.

The love-struck pair, however, remain defiant.

Now sharing a flat with his teenage lover, Mr Copsey said after the scandal broke: ‘We are very much in love and intend to marry. You can put that down as our official engagement. There is nothing more to it.’

Daisy added: ‘We are very happy. We are at a loss why anyone is interested. It’s quite boring. My parents are happy. They say they are happy as long as I am happy.’

Mr Copsey, who met Daisy at a rock concert when she was only 17, insisted their friendship turned to romance only recently, adding that there was ‘no abuse of position’.

But in her first interview, wife Jacqui claims Daisy admitted she and John had been seeing each other once a week for the past two years.

Furthermore, Jacqui denies being ‘ditched’, saying that she kicked John out of the marital home last month after her attempts to reason with the star-crossed lovers fell on deaf ears.

When contacted by the Daily Mail, Mr Copsey  who though no longer mayor is still a town councilor said he had no further comment to make either on his relationship with Daisy or on anything his ex-wife has to say.

‘At first, I thought it was just a foolish schoolgirl crush which would fizzle out with time,’ says Jacqui, who now faces having to sell their jointly owned £235,000 three-bedroom home in a painful division of assets.

‘I don’t know how many times I said to John: “She’s only 19!” I thought he’d come to his senses and realize he was being a silly old fool, flattered by the attention.

‘John was a very good mayor and someone in his position shouldn’t have given her the time of day. It’s just crazy.

‘I can’t even begin to understand what she sees in him. I asked him: “What do you speak about? What do you have in common?” He just told me: “Oh, we get on very well.”

‘Perhaps it’s because she’ll just listen to him and not question anything, whereas I don’t. Or it’s the sex and his brain is in his crotch. I just don’t know.’

Jacqui says the couple’s son is horrified at his father’s behavior.

‘He says that even he, at 34, wouldn’t entertain going out with a 19-year-old,’ she says.

‘Even Daisy’s mother, at 49, is too young for John. The whole thing is ridiculous.’

Married in 1980, seven months after meeting in a nightclub, Jacqui admits her relationship with John has not been without problems.

In 1992, following a series of rows over what Jacqui calls John’s roving eye, they divorced. She claims he has always been ‘a ladies’ man’ and a ‘bit of a player’.

Nevertheless, in 1997 they reconciled after John’s second marriage broke down and Jacqui split from her policeman boyfriend. She says they had both realised they still loved each other.

The couple never got round to remarrying, although weddings were booked twice, but they had lived as man and wife ever since.

‘We just kind of drifted back together,’ says Jacqui. ‘We had a son, who was still a teenager, and I was feeling vulnerable after the death of my father from cancer. Our marital home was still in joint names. John was tall, good-looking and — despite being full of himself — a lively man to be with.

‘I thought it was better second time round, but now I think I was deluded and blinkered. I wish we’d never got back together.’

In 2011, shortly after John was elected to Bridlington council, Jacqui had an MRI scan to investigate loss of hearing and night-time seizures, and was shocked to be told she had a brain tumor.

John was so upset when I phoned him with the news,’ she recalls. ‘He had to pull over in the car he was crying so much.’

John was with her when she underwent radiotherapy in Sheffield to successfully treat the 2cm tumour, but the after-effects continue to this day.

Ever since, she’s suffered seizures, dizziness, tinnitus and extreme fatigue, forcing her to retire from nursing through ill-health.

John was elected deputy mayor in 2014, but Jacqui found herself unable to fully support him in his civic duties.

‘I remember John telling me after I was diagnosed with the brain tumour: “Don’t worry, Jacqui, I will stand by you,”’ she says. In 2015, three weeks before John was elected mayor, Jacqui collapsed at home following a massive seizure.

It was their son, who was home at the time, who called the ambulance.

‘I was so poorly, I was like someone with Alzheimer’s for a couple of weeks,’ she recalls.

‘I was on anti-epileptic drugs, which I shall be on for life, and steroids to reduce inflammation. The steroids caused me to put on three stone — not that I was bothered what I looked like — and my head felt full of polystyrene, but during that time John never dropped one civic engagement.’

Jacqui blames her illness for not noticing the warning signs sooner.

She says she knew Daisy only as a local teenager who belonged to a troupe of amateur performing artists, dressing up as trolls and wearing grotesque masks to entertain crowds at civic events and lark around for the cameras.

So no alarm registered when last year she saw a photograph of Daisy — minus her troll mask — posted on Facebook, showing her wearing John’s mayoral chains, with the caption: ‘Decided being mayor is not for me — I’m sticking to farming.’

‘One day John told me: “Oh, Daisy came up to me in the street and pinched my bum while I was talking to a gentleman.” And I replied: “Aren’t you the lucky one to have such a young admirer?”

‘I thought her a funny little thing, quite plain and nondescript, and I made a joke of it, because why on earth would such a young girl be interested in someone of John’s age? Later, at a civic lunch, I teased him and told everyone, “Oh John’s got a follower called Daisy” — and they started singing the song “Daisy, Daisy, give me your answer do, I’m half crazy over the love of you”.

 

‘John laughed it off and said: “I don’t know about Daisy, but you’re all crazy!”’

At a Dickensian festival at Christmas, Jacqui made a rare appearance with John and happily chatted with Daisy, telling the teenager she’d been poorly lately, but was feeling better.

But Jacqui’s suspicions were raised when, on Christmas Eve, John’s mobile phone kept ringing with calls from the teenager.

‘John told me Daisy just wanted some electrical advice because her grandad had been trying to fix their kettle and she was worried,’ says Jacqui.

‘I thought then it was a bit strange and wondered if she had a schoolgirl crush. Maybe that’s what it was in the beginning, but John should have had the control and decency not to follow it.’

Jacqui believed Daisy’s infatuation would quickly fizzle out if she ignored it, and claims John assured her that he, too, regarded it as a bit of a nuisance.

‘He told me Daisy was just a silly girl who wouldn’t leave him alone,’ she says. ‘He said he wished he’d never set eyes on her and was giving her the brush-off — and, more fool me, I believed him.’

But this year Jacqui found out John and Daisy had been on dates and had enjoyed a picnic together.

She then received a message — sent from a fake Facebook account — informing her that the pair were seeing each other behind her back.

There followed tears, rows, accusations and denials, so Jacqui decided to contact Daisy to ask what was going on.

‘I tried to reason with her, telling her: “Daisy, you’re young — your heart will soon mend. John is old enough to be your grandfather,”’ Jacqui says.

‘I thought maybe she was looking for a father figure, but she insisted that wasn’t the case.

‘She said that she was in love with John and he with her. I couldn’t believe it.

Daisy (pictured) said she was 'very happy' with Mr Copsey and that her parents were 'happy' with her relationship

Daisy (pictured) said she was ‘very happy’ with Mr Copsey and that her parents were ‘happy’ with her relationship

‘She told me: “I have messages that prove John told me he loved me and wants to be with me. I know I shouldn’t have got involved with him, but I fell in love with him deeply.”’

Jacqui opens her laptop and reads — in a flat, beaten voice — the text messages she says Daisy forwarded to her as proof of John’s love for her.

In one, John apparently tells Daisy he wants her to have his baby. He calls her his one love, his possession, his dream and — reassuring her she is not just a bit on the side — his future wife.

‘When I confronted John, he told me the text messages must have been doctored,’ says Jacqui. ‘I believed him at first, but I don’t see how they could have been.

‘I felt so hurt and angry, but I’m not a nasty person and I gave them both more leeway than I should have because Daisy was so young and naive.

‘I gave John chance after chance to end it, and he kept insisting that he had or that he was trying to.

‘He told me: “I’ve told her all sorts to put her off.” But, in the end, he just couldn’t do it — or he didn’t want to.’

Matters came to a head on Friday September 8 after John and Jacqui both attended a memorial at the yacht club, where an old friend’s ashes were being scattered.

Afterwards, they went into town together to have a drink and then get a takeaway to bring home, but ran straight into Daisy.

‘I took one look at her and instinct told me that the relationship wasn’t over. “You’re still together, aren’t you?” I said — and they both said “Yes”.

‘I was very calm, but the next morning I thought, “That’s it, Jacqui, enough is enough”, and chucked him out.

‘John moved into lodgings first, and then he and Daisy got a flat together.’

Today, relations remain strained, to say the least. Jacqui reckons it is only a matter of time before Daisy tires of her elderly fiance, and she says she wouldn’t be surprised if John asked if he could come home.

She says he recently sent her a text message, apologizing for all the upset and adding: ‘I understand you hate my guts, but I will help you in any way, shopping, financial, whatever you need.’

‘I do miss him and I don’t like being on my own, but I’d be a complete idiot to have him back,’ she says. ‘I can’t humiliate myself further.

‘I gave him all those chances. He didn’t have to do this.

‘I’d be unhappy if Daisy was 50 or 60, but the fact she’s only 19 makes it so horrible. She’s so young, and he’s old enough to know better.

‘It makes me wonder if John ever really loved me, or if he knows anything about love at all.’

 

From Daily Mail/UK

RHOA: S10 Ep2 Not Over It


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Ladies and Gentlemen!  I give you Cynthia Bailey.!  All of her!   I’ve watched all the Bravo franchises and have never seen a housewives getting in the tub and shaving her legs in the tub.  Yes, Angela Stone from the Real Housewives of Auckland took pictures for the cover of her book in the tub.  This seemed like a commercial for a woman’s shaver or bubble bath.   Just an observation and yes she has it.

We join Ms Bailey on date in what looks like a giant chicken coop.  He date blindfolds her and reveals they are in his studio. Dinner is prepared.  Did I mention her date is  a photographer,who takes pictures of her. The cynical me says the photos are to boost his career.   At dinner they discuss age, he’s 29 she’s not end of story.

Across town at Porsha’s sister Lauren and her child is moving in, there is some baby daddy issues.

Sheree sees a Life Coach, the abuse that surfaced last season with Bob is a heavy cloud she can’t shake.  Despite the show airing, she still hasn’t had the discussion with her children. Her Coach recommends a dry run, where she inacts a conversation with friends. She has the dry run at Kandi’s House.

After Cynthia divorced, she thought she and Kenya would be burning up the streets as two single women.   We learn the beginnings of Kenya super fast relationship.  Sounds like hubby has a couple of coins.  Problem is he is a private person who married a public person and she is worried about their future.

Shamea, Porsha’s bestie is  getting married in Kenya.   From the moment Phaedra entered Porsha’s life her relationship with Shamea has been bumpy .    The Bentley driving Porsha, says she cant afford a 10K first class ticket to her besties wedding. and she has a medical condition that prevents her from flying coach.

Shamea has an shower.  Everyone is in hats.   I didn’t recognize Sheree ,wearing a dark blonde wig.  Porsha said she looked like Kim Zolciak (yall leave Porsha alone, only Porsha would think Sheree looks like white woman.)   Porsha also thinks she and Kandi are okay.  When she joins the table, Kandi gets up and leaves.

Kandi returns with friend Carmon on the other end of the table.  (we know Carmon has jokes)   Shamea and Porsha have known each other since they were children and she wanted to know why wasn’t she attending?  Porsha, well I sent you a not from my doctor.   Carmon reached into her purse and said she has a note for everything.   Porsha at one point said she basically has low blood pressure that wont allow her to set for long periods.   Carmon came back with yes she not used to having her legs down that long cause they are usually  up in the air . (Now come on Bravo, yall was being shady and we love it. I question if they were sitting at the same table cause Porsha would have turned over that table if she heard any of Carmon’s comments. )

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The episode ended with Shamea and Porsha arguing.  Porsha’s upset, that Shemea brought this up in front of Kandi.    Clearly there are deep feelings from Shemea wanting her bestie at her side.  As the door was closing Porsha called Shemea a bitch and said she will love her from afar .

This Episode was a 5 out of 10

CityFella

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