15 Things You Do Because You’re Still In Love With Your Ex


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1. You still think about what-ifs

You think about the what-ifs and what-nots. You evaluate your worth what you could have done right or wrong that did not the materialize the break-up.

2. You stalk his social media accounts often

The easiest way to know whether he is missing you or not, or for that matter if somebody else is missing him or not, is to stalk his social media accounts.

3. You regret losing your true love

You regret losing him. You go back to time all the time and regret the times you rebuked him or agreed to have broken up with him.

4. You compare him with other people

Inadvertently you end up comparing him with every other guy. Nobody can match up with his obsession for X-box. For you, he makes the best cheese sandwich in the whole world. You feel nobody is good enough besides him.

5. Too many hookups

To channelize your inner anger and frustrations, you take shelter in the form of meaningless sex. Later, again you berate yourself for letting someone else for touching you in places where you actually yearn to be touched by your ex.

6. Overthinking about the time spent

Yes, you think and over think the good, bad and ugly times in your head again and again. You nitpick everything he did. Not only that you try to justify his every action in your head.

7. You find reasons to contact him

It does not matter how silly or big the occasion is. It may be your best friend’s birthday or the bad omelet you had in your breakfast, you try to contact him for the silliest reason.

8. You go back to the happy times

For you, he is the most important milestone in your life. What better to celebrate your life than reminiscing about the happy times you have had — the cuddles, quickies, the stares, you go back to every happy time.

9. You have a hard time coming to terms with rejection

You cannot still come to terms why he broke up with you. You question yourself all the time. Your ex is such a sensitive topic for you that your parents and friends hesitate to bring his name or an instance pertaining to him in front of him.

10. No future plans

You do not know what lies ahead of your future. You just cannot see yourself kissing another man or walking the aisle for another person.

11. You still talk about him

He invariably is a part of your conversation. He is not anymore present in your life. But you keep bringing him back his context in your conversations with your friends.

12. You stay in contact with his friends and family

You cannot get over the fact that he has moved on from you. So, you try and invent ways to keep tabs on him. It kills you to not know what he is doing at present. You are still in contact with his best friend or sister to get scoops from his life. You want to know, “Does he miss me?” You want to the new girl who he is dating. You try to gauge how serious they are.

13. You still have hope

The most obvious sign that you still are not over your ex, is that you still have hopes of patching things up with your ex.

14. Having doubts about you

You still have not recuperated from your bitter break up. It has taken a toll on your confidence that you fear if you can do something perfectly.

15. You do not date at all

He is so deeply invaded your blood that you do find anybody dateable at all. No matter if the guy looks like Ryan Reynolds, has money worth Mark Zuckerberg, or has the heart of James Harrison nobody is good enough for you to date.

Breakups are messy and moving on is difficult. But life goes on. Try to move on from the one that got away. Because the best is awaiting you.

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Debra Messing would rather share an elevator with Trump than Susan Sarandon


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Debra Messing would rather be trapped in an elevator with President Donald Trump than with Susan Sarandon.

The “Will & Grace” star revealed her preference in response to a viewer call on “Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen.”

“I think Trump,” Messing, 50, said.

Cohen pointed out that Messing could use the opportunity to go over policy changes with the POTUS “because she’s a very convincing person,” which she agreed was why she chose him over her Hollywood political nemesis.

“I think that if I had a moment alone with him [I could change his mind],” she said.

Messing and Sarandon, 72, have been at one another’s throats since the 2016 presidential election.

The actress was a staunch supporter of Hillary Clinton and blamed Sarandon, a Bernie Sanders supporter, for the Democratic nominee’s loss to Trump.

In November 2016, Messing accused Sarandon of voting for Trump, which Sarandon denied.

Last month, Messing told Sarandon to “shut the fuck up” about Trump in response to a Variety interview that she hadn’t yet viewed in full.

I wanted to tap the bumper


 

I carefully squeezed to the right of the Honda avoiding some discarded wood on the curb.

As I looked in the Honda, a young woman was texting on her phone. It was clear as I went by, she didn’t give a shit that she was blocking traffic. The world would simply have to wait!

She looked up at me as I passed by texting. BITCH! I said to myself !! It’s not just about you!

A white Chevy truck attempted to follow me but was too wide. Behind the truck was six other cars. I was hoping the girl in the truck would drag her ass out of the car. BITCH!!!

Lindsay Graham Donald Trump Lovers ?


 

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Lindsay Graham and Donald Trump were once adversaries.  Politics is adversarial by its very nature gets deep dark and ugly.  But some thing are so personal that they seems unforgivable.  When Donald Trump implied Ted Cruz’s wife was unattractive and his father was involved in the Kennedy assassination, I’m not sure, how it possible to have a beer together after that.

Lindsey Graham called Donald Trump a “race-baiting xenophobic bigot”.  He called him the “World biggest Jackass” for trashing his good friend John McCain.   He has call him unfit to be President (Questions?)   He says his Character made him unfit.

They disagreed about the Charlottesville rally .President Trump  suggested  there is moral equivalency between the white supremacist neo-Nazis and KKK members who attended the Charlottesville rally and people like Heather Heyer who was killed .I, along with many others, do not endorse this moral equivalency.

In a pair of tweets, Trump responded  “Publicity seeking Lindsey -Graham falsely stated that I said there is moral equivalency between the KKK, neo-Nazis & white supremacists and people like Ms. Heyer. . . . Such a disgusting lie. He just can’t forget his election trouncing. The people of South Carolina will remember!”

In January 2018, Graham was at the Oval Office meeting where Trump said he opposed letting in more immigrants from certain “shithole” or “shithouse” countries. Georgia GOP senator David Perdue, who was also in the room, called the reported quotation a “total misrepresentation.” But Graham couldn’t bring himself to lie for Trump. “My memory hasn’t evolved,” Graham told reporters. “I know what was said, and I know what I said.”

Is it in his Kiss? 

In 2018, Lindsey Graham changed.  In 2015, Trump was a racist, in 2018 Lindey said he had NEVER heard Donald Trump make a single racist statement.  After calling him a kook, he says he “intends to support him in 2020 without equivocation.

Graham said it was policy is what changed his mind. “He’s on track to do big things,” Graham says of the president. “He built up the military. I campaigned on it. He got out of the Iran deal. I campaigned on it. He’s destroying ISIL. I campaigned on it. He’s restructuring the tax code and the way we do business. I campaigned on it. He’s doing much of what I campaigned on, and I’m pleased.” Graham now speaks regularly with Trump and has become a close ally on matters ranging from North Korea to health care.

“One, I got to know him,” Graham says. “I’ve played golf with him. You know, play golf with somebody for three or four hours, you get to know them better. He’s funny as hell. He’s got a great sense of humor. There’s a method to the madness.”

“He’s nobody’s fool,” Graham adds. “Very smart. And he asks a lot of good questions.”

Graham, supports the Presidents North Korean Policy he believes Trump agrees with him that a war with North Korea is better than letting North Korea develop an arsenal of nuclear-tipped missiles that could strike the United States.

When President Trump was arguing he was forced to impose a policy of separating children from parents who had illegally crossed the border because a law passed by Democrats tied his hands, Graham said on CNN that it simply wasn’t true: “President Trump could stop this policy with a phone call.” But Graham didn’t call on Trump to actually make that call. When Graham was asked on CNN on June 15 whether his newfound support for Trump was “two-faced,” he had a simple answer: “If you don’t like me working with President Trump to make the world a better place, I don’t give a shit.”

 

CityFella

 

 

The Wrong Side of Women


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Nearly 27 years ago, Senators Chuck Grassley, Orrin Hatch, Mitch McConnell and Richard Shelby were on the Judiciary committee.

Eighty five year old ,Senate Judiciary Committee Chairman Chuck Grassley (Iowa) said Wednesday that he doesn’t doubt Christine Blasey Ford believes she was assaulted by Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh in high school.   “I don’t doubt that she believes what she says, and in fact, I have a responsibility to give deference to that, at least until I hear it, and to make a determination afterwards if it is possible to make a determination,”  “Nothing the F.B.I. or any other investigator does would have any bearing on what Dr. Ford tells the committee, so there is no reason for any further delay,” “The FBI does not make a credibility assessment of any information it receives with respect to a nominee,” .

In 1991, Senator Grassley discussed the need for the FBI to investigate allegations made by Anita Hill.  He said it was the right thing to do!

A few days ago, 84 year old Utah Senator Orrin Hatch said, Christine Blasey Ford may be “mixed up about the alleged incident.  He went on to say, he know’s the Judge (Kavanaugh) very, very well , is an honest man, this didn’t happen!    There is “some question” whether Ford is mixed up and confusing Kavanaugh  with someone else.

 October 1991: Senator Hatch said “There’s no question in my mind Anita Hill was coached by special interests groups”  “Her story’s too contrived. It’s so slick it doesn’t compute.  “”He said key signs of that include two charges she made for the first time  which research by Republicans showed may have been borrowed from a Kansas sexual harassment case and the book, “The Exorcist.”  He said ,Hill’s testimony was carefully designed – with the help of Thomas’ enemies – to use racial and sexual stereotypes of black males against Thomas. “They wanted to turn whites against this man. It was a reverse Willie Horton,”

Seventy six year old, Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell  focus is on the Democrat’s. He claimed they leaked these allegations “at the last minute in an irregular manner” as a delaying tactic.

Senator McConnell, voted for Clarence Thomas in 1991 , he called Thomas a winner for emerging from Hill’s unproven allegations..

Eighty four year old,Senator Richard Shelby of Alabama. Through his spokesman,  says he believes the sexual assault accusations against Supreme Court nominee Kavanaugh are serious, and wants to see the Senate Judiciary Committee get to the bottom of the claims.  Senator Shelby was one of the few Republicans who did not support Alabama Senatorial candidate Roy Moore.

In 1991, Democratic Senator Richard Shelby supported Clarence Thomas.

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 Thomas nomination proceeded to the Senate Judiciary Committee’s confirmation hearings. The first few days of the hearings were relatively uneventful. When asked about his stance on legal abortion, Thomas claimed that he had not formulated an opinion and the issue was dropped. After a few more days of outside testimony, it appeared as if the Senate committee would easily confirm the Thomas nomination. The committee split its vote, however–seven to seven, and the nomination went to the Senate without a clear recommendation.

When the nomination moved to the floor of the Senate, it took a sudden and dramatic turn when Anita Hill, a law professor at the University of Oklahoma, came forward with accusations that Clarence Thomas had sexually harassed her. Hill had worked for Thomas years earlier when he was head of the Equal Employment Opportunities Commission. Hill charged that Thomas harassed her with inappropriate discussion of sexual acts and pornographic films after she rebuffed his invitations to date him. A media frenzy quickly arose around Hill’s allegations and Thomas.  

Hill agreed to take a polygraph test. While senators and other authorities noted that polygraph results cannot be relied upon and are inadmissible in courts, Hill’s results did support her statements. Thomas did not take a polygraph test. He made a vehement and complete denial, saying that he was being subjected to a “high-tech lynching for uppity blacks

In early July 2018, after Judge Brett Kavanaugh was reported to be on the shortlist for the Supreme Court .  Christine Blasey Ford contacted both The Washington Post via a tip line and her Representative Anna Eshoo.  On July 20, after Kavanaugh became the nominee. Eshoo met with Ford, becoming convinced of her credibility and noting that Ford seemed “terrified” that her identity as an accuser might become public. Thereafter, Eshoo and Ford mutually decided to take the matter to Senator Dianne Feinstein , one of Ford’s Senators in California and the ranking Democrat on the Senate Judiciary Committee, which would deliberate Kavanaugh’s nomination. In a letter to Feinstein, Ford alleged that Brett Kavanaugh had sexually assaulted her when both were in high school, and stated that she expected her story to be kept confidential. In August, Ford took a polygraph test with a former FBI agent, who concluded Ford was being truthful when attesting to the accuracy of her allegations.

Owing to her confidentiality commitment to Ford, Feinstein did not raise the issue in the initial Kavanaugh confirmation proceedings. On September 12, it was reported (without naming Ford) that Feinstein was withholding a Kavanaugh-related document from fellow Judiciary Committee Democrats. Feinstein then referred Ford’s letter to the FBI, which redacted Ford’s name and forwarded the letter to the White House as an update to Kavanaugh’s background check. The White House in turn sent the letter to the full Senate Judiciary Committee.

On September 16, 2018, after media reported anonymous allegations and reporters started to track down her identity, Ford went public. She spoke to The Washington Post, alleging that Kavanaugh had sexually assaulted her in the summer of 1982 when she was 15 and he was 17. As corroboration of her account, Ford provided The Post with the polygraph as well as session notes from her therapist written in 2012. The therapist’s notes also say four boys were involved, which Ford attributed to an error by the therapist; Ford said in 2018 that four boys were at the party but only two were involved in the incident.[ Kavanaugh has categorically denied Ford’s allegations.

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What did Christine Blasey Ford Win For Coming Forward? 

https://sacratomatovillepost.com/2018/09/20/carol-merrill-tell-us-what-shes-won/

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 From the Top

 

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December 2017, Donald Trump endorses Alabama Senate candidate Roy Moore Moore was running for the seat vacated by newly appointed Attorney General Jeff Sessions.    During the campaign,  Beverly Young Nelson said that, in December 1977 or January 1978 when she was 16, Moore sexually assaulted her. She said that when she fought him off, he eventually gave up, telling her, “You’re just a child, I’m the district attorney. If you tell anyone about this no one will ever believe you.” Moore denied Nelson’s accusations and that he even knew her at all. One of the women accused him of sexual assault when she was 14. Moore was 32 at the time.  Moore said all the allegations were false.   The Majority of high ranking Republicans including Mitch McConnell, Paul Ryan and Mitt Romney asked Moore to abandon his campaign.  Trump said Moore should step aside if the charges are true.  However, unlike the other Republicans. Donald Trump formally endorsed Roy Moore.

In February , White House staff secretary, Rob Porter resigned after his two former wives accused him of physical abuse when they were married to him.  Staffers knew, the accusations contributed to a delay in granting him a permanent security clearance. Porter said , the allegations are simply false,” even as details of the alleged abuse and photographs of one of his former wives with a black eye that she said he had given her were widely circulated.

Porter claims he is innocent of the allegations. “I think you also have to remember that. He said very strongly yesterday he’s innocent,”  Donald Trump 

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Donald Trump Stands By His Man 

https://sacratomatovillepost.com/2018/09/18/standing-by-kavanaugh/

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 Kavanaugh’s family: “They are hurting somebody’s life very badly. It’s very unfair, I think, Justice Kavanaugh has been treated very, very tough and his family, I think it’s a very unfair thing what’s going on,” Donald Trump

50.6 percent of the US population is women.   In 2018, 107  women hold seats in the United States Congress, comprising 20.0% of the 535 members; 23 women (23%) serve in the U.S Senate and 84 women (19.3%) serve in the U.S House of Representatives

In 2018, women are still fighting for equal pay. In the last 20 years reproductive rights have been under attack in many red states.   Health care for the poor is not available in other states.  This will not change until there are more women in office.  Until there are more women in office the government will be on the wrong side of women.

 

CityFella

Inside Italy’s first sex doll brothel which is already fully booked for weeks ahead despite only just opening


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Italy’s first-ever sex doll brothel is fully booked for weeks with horny customers – and it’s only just opened.

LumiDolls in fashionable Turin is home to six female silicone dolls and one male one.

The firm insists the material makes the intimate experience far more realistic than inflatable dolls or sex robots.

Men and women are offered “totally new” passion in mood-lit private rooms, each equipped with a bed, bathroom and TV screen for watching porn.

Horny customers can choose which doll they want to reserve, decide what it should (or shouldn’t) be wearing and even what position they want the doll in.

The guest can decide what their model wears and how she looks
The guest can decide what their model wears and how she looks (Image: REX/Shutterstock)
The bedroom comes complete with a shower and bathroom
The bedroom comes complete with a shower and bathroom (Image: REX/Shutterstock)

Male model Alexander’s penises are interchangeable and range from 13 to 18 cm (5.1 to 7.08 inches) long.

And the firm says sex-mad customers, including lads in stag parties, are travelling more than 250 miles to have a bit of fun.

Footage from inside the brothel, which only opened on Monday, shows staff prepare the dolls by styling their hair, and put them in positions ready for customers.

The models each have different skin tones, and hair and eye colours. Some are pictured in racy lingerie .

There are three bedrooms with seven different dolls
There are three bedrooms with seven different dolls (Image: REX/Shutterstock)
The male and female silicone dolls can be put in different positions at LumiDolls Turin
The male and female silicone dolls can be put in different positions at LumiDolls Turin (Image: REX/Shutterstock)

The company, which has other popular brothels across Europe, charges €100 (£78) for one hour, €180 (£162) for two hours or, for those pressed for time, 30-minute sessions are available for €80 (£72).

LumiDolls stresses each doll is put through a vigorous two-hour cleaning process after each use.

But visitors must hand over a deposit of €50 (£45) in case dolls become broken during the sessions, Wiredsays.

Guests are told not to have sex in the showers too, as dolls are unable to stand on their own.

Randy Italians are in awe of the new brothel with a twist
Randy Italians are in awe of the new brothel with a twist (Image: REX/Shutterstock)

The Real Housewives of New York S10 Reunion Part 3 “Bethenny, Bethenny, Bethenny, lets not talk about Bethenny!


Its a wrap

We began last night where the show ended last week with Carole telling bossman Andy ” He was full of Shit” for saying that Carole and Bethenny trashed each other the entire season.

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Nearly half of the episode was the Bethenny and Carole feud, it was endless and ruined the reunion, at this point I’m on team “can’t give two shits”.   If you need details of their bickering, stop here and read another review. I can’t!

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Sonja Tremont Morgan

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For most of this season I thought there was something different about Sonja.  We love her ditzy gentleness.  But there was something different.  While she didn’t seem to get much screen time but she seemed insightful and sometime brilliant in her confessionals.

Yes, I said it!   Sonja Tremont Morgan.  Last night we learned that she has (I’m not fully clear about this) had some spiritual cleansing? (again, I’m not sure).  She has cut back on the drinking and she seems clearer, more so than ever before.

The spiraling Sonja has found her footing.  She has rented her townhouse, moved into a small apartment and for the first time she seems to have direction.   Bravo, didn’t let us see her move out of her townhouse, we weren’t privy to her personal successes, shame.

Bethenny said she regretted calling Dorinda a drunk, which moved Dorinda to tears.  Carole said that she regretted failing in her attempt to remain cordial with Bethenny. She didn’t regret calling Andy “full of shit’.  Ramona and Sonja made up, a bit.

Let’s Not Talk About Bethenny

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The real housewives of New York survived the dreaded season 10 Housewives curse.   At its worst, New York is the platinum franchise.  The disintegration of the friendship between Bethenny and Carole was sad and dominated the season but destroyed the reunion.  The resentment towards Bethenny by half of her cast mates was clear and with merit. No one can take away her heroic efforts in Puerto Rico.

At beginning of the reunion, some of her cast mates accused Bethenny of “only doing things for the cameras”.   Carole has written about it on social media.  On the reunion,we see montage of Ramona attacking Bethenny ,what we don’t see are images of Bethenny attacking Ramona.  In fact ,we rarely see images of Bethenny attacking cast members,no one has a deadlier sword than Bethenny.  What we see is a regretful apologetic Bethenny, who has sliced and diced nearly every cast member since her return.   I am a huge fan of Bethenny Frankle, I love her intelligence and humor.  The producers of #RHONY seem to project a positive image of Bethenny, perhaps to protect her brand.  I believe the producers have created a wedge between Bethenny and her castmates which in the long term could ultimately damage the show.

It’s Lu Baby!

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This season, I believe Luann had the most compelling story line from beginning to end. We saw her at lowest and we saw her comeback.   I thought the conflict between Dorinda and Luann was far more layered than Bethenny and Carole.   Her absence was notable.  Luann’s story has captured our hearts..   Make some room, its Lu baby!

I will miss Carole, she was a formidable presence.  We didn’t see enough of Ramona this season, the same was true for Dorinda.  I’m on the fence with Tinsley, she doesn’t have a storyline and she doesn’t hurt the show.  I suspect there is something there, its deep, dark and bubbling  Drip, Drip, EXPLOSION!!!

 

See Ya next season….thanks for following.

CityFella

recommendation:  Catch this season of “Married to Medicine” and  Binge watch Last Season of Married to Medicine.