He Slapped her back at the Light Rail Station

I imagine female to male violence  has always been around.  You see lot of it on social media ,where a female or females will taunt a male and hit him .  Random men on the subway to Bus drivers.  Females slapping often hitting men as hard as they can. Usually, these are young women, often traveling in packs.

A few months ago, a very young woman cut in line at the R Street Safeway  When the man in front of her objected, she called him a racist.  I was behind him and his wife and said  he wasnt a racist, and she was wrong.  As I was talking to wife, the young woman  pushed past him and his wife and attempted to chest bump me and ordered me to stop talking!  I’m double her weight and stand more than a foot taller.   I left the line to defuse the situation .  She told the man in front of her, she would be waiting for him outside.  As she and her freinds were leaving the store, the very young woman kicked a display  getting the attention of the security guard.

At an early age, males are taught never to strike a woman.  NEVER !  There isn’t an asterisk here.  It doesn’t matter if she attacks you.   You shall NEVER hit a woman!   I have seen alcohol fueled women attack the bouncers at nightclubs, often without provocation,  Young women in groups attacking men, provoking men.  Men who retailate are often restrained and sometimes attacked by other men.

Recently, there was a commotion at the 12th Light Rail Station, a thirty-ish woman was slapping kicking, yelling and biting a late thrity-ish male.  Angry, yes, out of control, yes.   There were two groups, one group was horrified and the other entertained, capturing the drama with their cell phones.  You could feel some of the slaps.  As the male was attempting to protect himself from the blows, she was screaming and threatening to get other males she knew to “beat his ass” .

After landing some stinging slaps, he slapped her, knocking her to the ground.  None of the men stepped in.  When she stood up, her nose was bleeding.  Her voice grew higher and stronger than before ,the words she used were unrecognizable.  As she walked towards him, he raised his hand.  She said, “he would be dead later” for hitting a woman!   She called him faggot and a punk for hitting a woman.  She was crying now.  She looked towards the four women for sympathy, and couldn’t fine a sympathetic eye.

As a light rail trail entered the station, she started screaming at him again. She screamed as they boarded the train. Suddenly he jumped off the train through the rear doors as they were closing and started walking towards downtown.

One of the men, at the station said “these females are crazy, you can’t go just walkin up to some man and start wailing on him and expect him to stand there and take it!”  “I would have beat her ass the second time she hit me!”








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A good friend was attacked last week in a parking lot of an shopping center here in Sacratomatoville.  She pulled into parking space and had gone to the rear of her car to get a few bags.   A car backing out of the space  to her right stopped and the passengers in the car began screaming at her. A woman sitting in the rear seat jumped out of the car pushed,slapped and spit on her.

She didn’t repeat what they said to her, which is just like her. In the 15 years or so I’ve known her , I have never known her to swear or say anything disparaging about anyone.   She is Sikh and has lived in Northern California all of her life.

It was a common and sad case of mistaken identity.

Her husband said, she was called a terrorist and a few other choice words.  He was angry because they as a family agreed to never go out alone.   Their world has become more hostile, and not from just whites, they have been verbally attacked by blacks and hispanics. Attacks on members of  Sikh community has been on the rise in resent months.  Many are targeted  because of turbans, many confuse Sikh with Muslims

I was sad when the call ended.  I couldn’t imagine living in a state of awareness (I wont say fear-because that not what I sense.)

In 2016 America, their world and the world of Muslims was similar to the world of my parents and grandparents and other people of color, not too long ago.  I remember the stories of the carte blanch abuse of people where my parents grew up, a child could slap my grandparent and  recourse did not exist. It was a world where the Klu Klux Klan had political clout    That’s a world I know nothing about,  however with the resurgence of White Supremacy Groups, is history repeating itself?

I get angry when members or the Muslim community are asked to publicly condemn the actions of other Muslims.  Most of the acts of terrorism in the country  has been conducted by  Christians.

Moving On

I strongly believe most of our differences is borne out of ignorance.  People need to respectfully talk about race.   I understand the fear, talking is key to understanding.  Its not an issue of agreeing ,its about understanding.

Being a very large black man has its advantages and disadvantages.  My struggles are  often with men, my extra large footprint intimates, especially white men.  Which can be a disadvantage, potential employers who fear you are not likely to hire you.  Now before you say ahhhh.  I’m not a victim nor am I angry.  I was WELL prepared by my parents who long warned me of the challenges that  lie ahead.

What I find interesting is women. They seem to be less intimidated by my hue or footprint.

Naturally curious, I often talk about race.  My family is multicultural and perhaps due to that. I’m not uncomfortable with people of different backgrounds and different hues.  We all have a story and if you dare to listen you may discover similarities

 On my nine to five , I briefly talked  about race with with my new superior.  I can sense he has minimal private interactions with people of color.  I shared my professional challenges with him.   I sometimes struggle with white males, who are often afraid ask questions or make requests.  I later learn via management, some often say their questions go unanswered and their requests ignored.   Fiction.

I could see he was uncomfortable, people often are, they are worried about saying the wrong thing and being misunderstood.  I also sensed he didn’t completely believe what he was hearing.  This ins’t his world ,he cannot relate.   He may believe this is just another excuse or another complaint by a black man,perhaps I have a chip on my shoulder.

While I sometime struggle in my nine to five world. Being black and having a large footprint has worked to my advantage in my creative world.    I cant spell celebrity and most people don’t know my name but I am recognized at meetings and conferences all over the country.  I’m greeted with,” Hey, you”





This is how you become a white supremacist

I spent seven years leading hate groups and getting other angry white people to join.

By Arno Michaelis/via the Washingon Post

Since I can remember, I’ve been fascinated with the idea of being a warrior. I learned to read early and would sit in the library poring over books of Greek and Norse myths, gravitating to the parts about monsters and violence. In middle school, I played Dungeons & Dragons, fancying myself as an unstoppable fighter who made his own rules. Art was equally as fascinating as violence, and the two combined in my drawings of battle scenes from ancient Vikings cracking skulls to spaceships blowing each other to bits.

I grew up in an alcoholic family and developed an adrenaline habit that drove me to lash out at the world in increasingly drastic ways. By the time I turned 16, I was an alcoholic and very comfortable with hate and violence. I hated the town I lived in. I hated my school and most of the teachers and other kids. I hated the police. I discovered racist skinhead music through the punk scene and learned that the swastika is an effective way of angering others — the hostility I radiated was reflected by the people around me, validating the paranoid ideology that had become my identity. Eventually I became a founding member of the Northern Hammerskins, which went on to become part of Hammerskin Nation.

I spent seven years as a leader of hate groups, perpetrating wanton violence against innocent people and twisting the minds of other hurt white kids to do even worse. We would comb the city, looking for the “anti-racist skinheads” and beating up whoever we could find. Though we did attack people because of skin color or suspected sexual orientation, we most often attacked random white people, claiming after the fact that they were race-traitors. Aside from trips to Chicago and Minneapolis to brawl with their anti-racists, the bulk of the violence we committed was relatively spontaneous. We had a tendency to start assaulting each other if we didn’t go on a manhunt.

At our most organized point, the group had weekly meetings at which the many threats we faced were lamented and our dedication to eliminating our enemies was sworn. By enemies, I mean everyone except violent, racist white people. Jews were seen as the masterminds of an ongoing genocide against the white race. “Non-white” people were seen as lazy, stupid savages that the Jews kept integrating into white society to destroy it. White people who weren’t violent racists were seen as the greatest enemies of all: race-traitors complicit in our destruction.

This sick mindset was constantly reinforced with racist music and literature. Any sort of media that didn’t support white supremacist ideology was forbidden. The resulting intellectual and spiritual isolation made fertile ground for hate and violence.

We recruited other angry white people by littering areas of racial tension with fliers bearing swastikas and slogans telling black people, in the crudest slur possible, to “beware,” along with our post office box. Luckily for us, Milwaukee was a hotbed of racial strife during the late 1980s, thanks to a severely depressed inner city and a black alderman who let his righteous anger drive him to threaten violence against whites. You could pretty much throw a rock and find a disgruntled white person. We also recruited through word of mouth with white co-workers, family and friends. Though nine out of 10 people would be repulsed by what we had to say, there were always those who liked to hear it.

When everything is going wrong in your life, it’s much easier to blame Jews/Muslims/blacks/Mexicans/gays/anyone-but-yourself than it is to face your flaws and begin the hard work to account for them. The teenage outcast kid is told that it’s the Jews’ fault he doesn’t have a girlfriend — the media they control tells white girls to be attracted to black boys. The middle-aged guy who lost his job has “illegal” immigrants to blame, and take a wild guess who the racist narrative says brings them into our country.

The recruitment process is sophisticated beyond the understanding of the recruiters. There are very complex human frailties that are preyed upon and manipulated without either the prospect or recruiter really understanding the psychological dynamics. Recruiters fail to understand the spiritual mechanics behind a person’s need for love, but they know well enough to look for people who are hurting. Simply put, it feels good for a person to feel a sense of belonging, purpose and value, especially if they lack love in their lives.

There are all sorts of healthy ways to meet these needs, the Serve 2 Unite program I work with today being one of them. But if such needs are not answered with love and humanity, they can very easily be answered with fear, ignorance, and hate.

People like Dylan Roof, the suspect in last week’s church shooting in Charleston, S.C., typically seek some means of solace when things in life seem to go wrong. In this age of ubiquitous media and information access, a quick Google search in a direction guided by pain can lead to someone to blame. Once a culprit is identified, a host of propaganda emerges. All the hate groups have to do is wait for the hurting to come. Raising their profile with any sort of stunt that gets media attention is a great recruitment asset. A savvy white supremacist recruiter will make calculated moves here and there to raise the profile of their group, letting prospective members come to them. Had the massacre at Emanuel AME Church occurred 20 years ago while I was active, we would have cited it as evidence of the failure of integration and multiculturalism.

I’ve been beat up as often as I’ve beaten others, and in no case did being on the receiving end of violence make me any less violent. It was actually the kindness of brave people who refused to lower themselves to my level that changed the course of my life, to put me in a position to follow their example and promote the practice of loving-kindness myself. We cannot hate violent extremism out of existence.

Love is the most effective means to draw people from hate. Kumbayas aside, there are dynamics as sound as any law of physics to back this up. Hate and violence are cyclical things. More of either can only fuel the cycle. This is not a problem that we can punish our way out of. As righteous as the anger we feel may be when facing horror like the murder of nine wonderful people in their place of worship, it can never bring us toward a more peaceful world if we let it poison our hearts.

This doesn’t mean we throw Dylan Roof a parade, and it doesn’t mean that we don’t need to put him somewhere where he can’t hurt anyone else. This does mean that if we seek to see him suffer, we are perpetuating the harm he has done and diminishing our own ability to bring love to the world.

Within 36 hours of the Emanuel AME Church community losing their precious sons and daughters, brothers and sisters, and mothers and fathers, I was on the way to Charleston with Amardeep and Pardeep Kaleka, two brothers whose father was killed in the 2012 Sikh temple shooting in Wisconsin. Arriving at the church after a 20-hour car ride, we joined what we were not surprised to see was a celebration outside. People of all ethnicities, from across the nation, had gathered to combine broken hearts in the spirit of human oneness. The experience was overwhelming in its beauty and defiance of hate. I broke down sobbing.

Before my tears could hit the ground, black members of the Emanuel AME congregation embraced me and held me. I had come to comfort them, but it was their love that comforted me, sending an immensely powerful and indisputable message: When we rebel against the construct of race and love each other as a great human family, hate cannot win.

Arno Michaelis is the author of “My Life After Hate.

Nice Day for a Fight Wedding ( Nuptials Gone Wild!)

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By: Steve Myall/UK Mirror

A bride told this week how she was punched to the floor in her gown by a male guest from a rival wedding at a posh hotel. She suffered bruised cheeks, nose and eye sockets as a fight erupted with up to 12 revellers who refused to share the bar. But the 32-year-old teacher, who was apparently battered at Jacobean manor Fanhams Hall in Ware, Herts,( Britian) is not alone in having a Fight wedding


Earlier this month it was reported an accidental photo bomb of a wedding by a man collecting beach lounge chairs lead to a brawl between the man and the wedding party.

The Northwest Florida Daily News reported that members of the wedding party, including the bride, attacked the man who was removing his rental lounge chairs from a stretch of Panhandle beach, Florida, at the end of the day. The man accidentally showed up in the background of some wedding photos sparking a confrontation.

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Cape San Blas beach, Florida


In August 2012 a bride was attacked by a pit bull mix and its owner at her wedding reception.

Brittany Cortez said the alleged attacker, Joel Nevarez, was a troubled childhood friend who was invited to her reception at a Denver home.

She told KMGH-TV that he let the dog drag her around “like a rag doll” and punched her in the face and head with brass knuckles at the party early Sunday.

Police think Nevarez, who is wanted for suspicion of assault with a deadly weapon, may have fled to Mexico, where his mother lives.



n 2007 newly wed Mark Allerton and wife Teresa ended up grappling together in their hotel bridal suite and 33-year-old Mrs Allerton spiked her husband in the head with one of her stiletto heels.

Her 40-year-old oilman staggered husband down to the hotel desk with blood pouring from a puncture wound.

Police who also arrived found the bride, still in her wedding gown and tiara, surrounded by broken glass and power sockets which she had ripped from the wall in her rage.

However during a court case where Mrs Allerton admitted attacking her husband and vandalising the bridal suite at the Treetops Hotel in Aberdeen, it emerged the couple are still together and are trying to make their marriage work.

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Earlier this year police were called to wedding reception after massive fight broke out over pork pie.

The bride and groom were left stunned after up to 40 of their wedding guests were involved the mass brawl when the savoury snack was thrown across the room at the historic Harold Club, Bradford.

Despite police arriving to break up the ruck, the happy couple Wendy Carter and her fiance Ryan Barraclough, both 27, said they have now laughed it off, claiming: “You’ve got to expect a good punch up at a wedding.”

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In July as many as 300 people became involved in a massive brawl at a wedding in New Jersey that ended with two arrests.

Two off-duty police officers were working as bouncers and attempted to break up the fight but had to radioed for additional help to break up the crowd.

In 2012 two brides had their special day ruined when their wedding guests got into a massive, booze-fuelled brawl as two dueling wedding receptions came to blows.

And the fight ended in tragedy when one bride’s 57-year-old uncle died from a heart attack outside the Sheraton Mission Hill hotel in Philadelphia.

The fracas was caught on film by an irate guest, whose hotel stay was disturbed by the 2am commotion.

Local Philadelphia police can be seen charging into the reception with truncheons and pulling fighting wedding guests off each other.


A scuffle broke out between journalists and security guards following British actress Elizabeth Hurley’s Indian wedding to businessman Arun Nayar.

The fight started outside Mehrangarh fort, in Jodhpur, when reporters tried to block the celebrity couple’s Bentley as it entered the venue for a dinner.

Media were denied access to the events after a magazine bought rights to the couple’s wedding photos.

Indian security guards pushed the journalists from the car to let it enter the venue.

A security guard slapped a woman journalist while another female journalist slapped another guard.

Yet another guard pushed another female reporter out of the way.

British actress Elizabeth Hurley poses with husband Arun Nayar
British actress Elizabeth Hurley poses with husband Arun Nayar

Damm! Chris Brown and Drake knows how to close down a club.

 No this is not from an episode of  “Basketball Wives”  This is the WIP.  NYPD closed W.I.P  the popular  South Village Nightclub Saturday for undisclosed (at this time) code violations.   Following a Wednesday night-Thursday morning brawl between Chris Brown and Drake and their entourage’s

The Aftermath

Chris Brown suffered a nasty gash on his chin

his girlfriend and other members of his entourage was injured.

The San Antionio Spurs , power forward ,Tony Parkersuffered a scratched retina during the brawl.

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From:Global Grind.com

Allegedly the fight started when Chris Brown sent a bottle over to Drake. That’s when the Toronto rapper went face to face in the club with Chris and began arguing about Rihanna. Some believe Meek Mill may have instigated the fight, who was also in the club hanging out with Drake. However after words were exchanged, Drake punched Chris Brown in the face, and hit him in the mouth with a bottle before he could retalitate from the punch.

Additional eyewitness reports are saying that a member of Drake’s crew picked up a bottle and hit Chris directly in the face with the bottle. This caused bottles, glass cups, and metal containers to fly.

Chris Brown jumped on twitter and went in.

Read more: http://globalgrind.com/entertainment/chris-brown-drake-fight-beef-meek-mill-rihanna-wip-new-york-photos-pictures#ixzz1y5CNHcND

From TMZ

Drake is adamant … he is not responsible for the bloody gash on Chris Brown‘s face … claiming he was simply leaving the nightclub when the brawl broke out … but sources tell us, the fight started after Chris Brown and a rapper at Drake’s table started trash talking each other.

The rapper hanging with Drake — Meek Mill — was screaming at Chris and Chris was giving it right back to Meek Mill. One of Chris’ lieutenants was also involved in the screaming match.

Our sources would NOT say what specifically they were arguing about — partly out of fear that someone will get hurt. But we are told the argument was NOT over Rihanna.

One source says Chris was hurt when Meek Mill hit him with a bottle.

A rep for Drake tells TMZ … “Drake did not participate in any wrongdoing of any kind last night at W.i.P. He was on his way out of the club when the altercation began.

The Hollywood Reporter

The rapper seemed to reference the fight in the middle of a song. “It’s last call and you’re really too drunk to give a f—,” said Drake. “A n—- in the corner is standing there looking at you funny. You bump elbows with him on the way to the bathroom, but really there’s only one n—- that you got to think about.”

3. Fans Weigh in on the Brown-Drake Feud: Turns out, several people attending the Drake concert Saturday weren’t impressed with the way the two handled themselves. “I think it’s ridiculous that two grown men of celebrity status would behave like that,” said 21-year-old Jonathan Rosado ahead of the show.

4. Witness to Brawl Breaks Silence: Twenty-one year-old model Ingrid Guttierez was sitting at Brown’s table when the fight broke out and as a result, she was scarred after a bottle was thrown. Though there remain conflicting reports as to what actually happened that night, her lawyer maintains that his client said that Brown was “polite throughout the whole night.” “He was very calm and what he did, I believe, was he tried to even defend my client Ingrid,” her lawyer said.

5. Brown Slams Media Coverage: On Friday, Brown took to Twitter to vent frustrations over media coverage of the brawl and left his harshest criticisms to TMZ. “@tmz y’all full of sh*t!!! It’s insane how your stories are not informative at all and far from fuc*ing facts!” Brown tweeted, which has since been deleted. He added: “It’s really sad! All y’all in that office sit behind a desk and hide behind ur lives by trying to tarnish others! Good game!”

6. Other Victims Come Foward: A 21-year-old named Veronica, who plans on legal action against the club (and possibly the singers) claims to have also been injured in the bar fight. “I heard people screaming … so I tried to get away from the action and hid behind a couch,” she told TMZ, after which someone stepped on her head and she suffered a gash on her hand. She also said that in the ambulance, she saw another female victim who was hit by a bottle and had blood gushing from her forehead.

There’s a whole new meaning to poppin’ bottles now.

Sal Strazzullo, attorney for Ingrid Gutierrez, the 21-year-old model who was at Chris Brown‘s table the night of the brawl with Drake‘s entourage at the W.I.P. club in Manhattan revealed to E! News his client’s take on the incident that occured early Thursday morning.


Sal explained his client’s involvement: “[Ingrid] was with Chris Brown and his entourage just having a good time…she was at his table…right next to him when this occurred. She was just having a good time, a 21-year-old out, a young lady at a nightclub in Manhattan and all of a sudden a bottle came from [the direction of] the Drake table.”

As for how the story played out before the bottle was reportedly sent over from Drake’s table, Sal shares: “From what I’ve heard from my client…there was a note. A note passed by Drake to Chris Brown in regards to something with Rihanna.”

However, what the note read, Sal was unable to share, explaining: “The contents of those notes at this time I’m not going to be able to reveal because I don’t know their authenticity,

Read more: http://www.eonline.com/news/injured_model_in_chris_browndrake_bar/323949#ixzz1y5I6BgA

Mary J was there during the brawl.

Collateral Damage

 Among the many innocent bystanders injured was Hollie C.  an Australian Tourist  who received 16 stitches after being hit by a flying bottle.

The Spin

From all reports, Chris Brown is cooperating with the Police, and Drake is resistant.   During a  Long Island concert  Friday night Drake  said “When I woke up this morning, I had to think about a lot of things,” Drake said onstage. “But the only thing I gave a f— about was that I was in New York City tonight.”

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	Rapper Drake performs at Nikon at Jones Beach Theater on Friday, June 16 in Wantagh, Long Island.<br /><br /><br />

Rapper Drake performs at Nikon at Jones Beach Theater on Friday, June 16 in Wantagh, Long Island.

Nassau Police fearing possible fallout, added extra police and security.

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